“The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.” – Ashley Montagu
What makes us miserable or happy? You would be surprised how simple the answer is… It’s our habits. Circumstances may vary, but our habits have the power to dictate whether we will be miserable or happy.
People who are bursting with the energy of confidence, who go further in their life journey are all connected with a unique idea of the things happening around. They are happy not only because of faith and good luck. They are happy because they developed very certain habits that keep them on track no matter what season or weather happens to be right this second.
10 Contagious Habits Of Happy People
1. Your Opinion Is None Of My Interests
We used to depend on someone else’s opinion. But there is an endless ocean of people, their thoughts, and points of view. Just imagine for a split second how ridiculous and miserable our life could have been if only we tried to please everyone as they wish?! Do what you think is best. There is a chance that your actions sometimes could be your faults. So what?! This is YOUR life EXPERIENCE and by all means it’s PRICELESS.
Everybody is drawn to confident and independent people with firm beliefs. You can become this CONFIDENT person any moment you wish. Just go with your life flow with dignity, without second guessing your actions every second and don’t look back into the eyes of the critics or their approval.
“I don’t care what you think about me. I don’t think about you at all” – Coco Chanel
“I find in hard to remember things I don’t give a crap about” – House M.D.
2. Learn To Keep A Distance To See A Bigger Picture
It’s a priceless skill you need to learn in order to make better decisions. There is no such thing as 100% failure or success and only by staying neutral you will find that it’s better to act this way. Chinese wisdom says that a person who will learn a skill to be distant from life actions as a life witness – that person will always see the bigger picture hence bigger opportunities to take actions. Imagine yourself being that wild and free eagle flying high in the sky above the Grand Canyon. Imagine that you see somewhere deep down those two vultures endlessly fighting over nothing. Keep your distance in order to make better decisions and calculations on the subject whether it’s worth a fight or not.
3. Keep Your Sorrows In The… Nowhere!
Missed opportunities, failed relationships of the first “true” love and evil friends who betrayed you by sharing your deepest secrets with the whole wide world… Whatever the reasons to rush into sorrows – STOP. Stop milking those harsh moments of your life in your memory again and again. It won’t do you any good, it’s a meaningless exercise. It should be like my granddad says: “No sorrows should last more than 5 minutes. Every time you dive into the deepest parts of your soul in order to search for something new that happened in the past to feel sorry about – you are not only wasting your precious time but also your vital energy. It’s beyond our abilities to go back in time and catch that one missed an opportunity again. But it’s in your power to stop spreading your tears all over your face and start a new analysis of reasons why that particular opportunity has gone and how you can use this information for your own good in order to succeed next time when life throws something good your way. Believe me, that would be a better choice.
4. Gratitude & Thank You Notes
If you have no clue how to be grateful or how often you should say thank you – you need to learn to do it often. I’m talking about a gratitude coming straight from your heart. Gratitude is capable of miracles. The law of attraction works here perfectly. Even if you are grateful for something you wish to happen – it will because you are focused and ready to say Thank You. There is a good habit I suggest to adopt is when you are ready to sleep and before drifting into the world of dreams name 5 of those things or people that are here in your life and be grateful that you are lucky to have them!
5. New Things To Go After
What are the 5 happy moments in your life that you’ve experienced not so long ago? How vividly can you gather them from the well of your memory? We all like new things and events happening around in our lives, but we are moving way faster than our ability to hold on for a second and really feel the whole range of good emotions about what just happened now. Let those great memories be your anchors of inspiration to go forward and yet to remember what you have accomplished already! Keep this feeling of “new” closer.
6. Jokes On Me
Self-irony is a good sign of a person with a well-developed character and intelligence. As this, a person is above all prejudice. Self-irony has a strong link between optimism and a high vital energy of internal happiness. Don’t be so serious! Learn how to be easy-going and be ready to play some jokes on yourself.
7. Today I’m OK
Don’t think about yesterday – it doesn’t exist anymore. Forget about the things you expect for tomorrow to bring – it’s not in our abilities to predict them hence it’s a waste of time. The only day that matters is TODAY. Free yourself from the heavy baggage of your past and from endless thoughts and attempts to figure out or plan your future. Stay in the PRESENT. Hold on to it with your teeth and this is the only thing you should never let go… This is TODAY.
8. The Student Of Life
Never stop yourself from learning and experiencing new things in your life! Books, hobbies, foreign languages, travelling and a million of other things to discover in this world – all of that should be taken as exciting wonders whether you are 10 or 100 years young. Learning new things is one of those great habits of happy people that gives them an opportunity for new and endless accomplishments!
9. Envy Yourself
I know, I know we all have this tendency of comparing ourselves with others. If it’s a competition – fine. But most of the time we compare ourselves to those who happen to be more “successful” in our opinion. And that endless comparison builds up into a deep frustration with ourselves. Meanwhile, there is ONLY one person you are allowed to envy and that person is YOU but compared to the past you! And if today you did something better than a day ago, consider this event as a little victory and only in this case you are allowed to envy (yourself)!
10. Choose Your Friends Wisely
Robert Greene warns that ‘You can die from someone else’s misery as emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draws misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead’. So choose your friends wisely and run away from those who spread nothing but bad emotions, prejudice and all of that junk you don’t need in your life. Communicate with those who make you feel good and only when it’s mutual.