What if the naysayers are right? What if I am wasting away my future? How did I shut down the voices that told me there was tangible evidence that I needed to stop pursuing my dream career? Read on.... Read More...
Shut Down the Critics! How to Break Free from the Impact of Negative Criticism.
Whether the critic was an acquaintance or a close relative, the common message was: “You’re not good enough.”
Have you been told that you lack certain skills or abilities? Has someone said you’re not “good at math” or “creative” or “organized”?
Have you been told you don’t match what’s “normal” and therefore something is wrong with you?
How many times did you try to prove to the people who criticized you that they were wrong, only for them to find other supposed flaws to focus on?
How many times the negative criticism you’ve received has popped into your mind when you’re facing a new project or a challenge?
Negative remarks can become part of what we believe is true about ourselves. We subconsciously adopt self-imposed limitations that prevent us from experiencing life to the fullest...
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My struggle to make big decisions wasn’t limited to my career. I remember lying awake in the middle of the night, wondering whether I should or could remain in a relationship with someone who had repeatedly betrayed my trust but who I deeply loved.
All of these situations had one unwanted element in common: fear of making the “wrong” decision. How can we bring ease and peace to the decision-making process? Here is what has worked for me, and I believe it will work for you, too...... Read More...
5 Reasons Taking People Seriously Can Change Your Life.
“I’d like to give thanks for this meal,” I announced at the dinner table. In my second grade class, I had just learned the importance of being grateful, and thought my parents would be proud of me.
I bowed my head and closed my eyes. Then, I heard chuckles. When I opened my eyes, I saw Mom and Dad giving me the same look they reserved for a puppy.
“You’re so cute,” they said.
My seven-year-old self became angry. I didn’t intend to be “cute.” This was serious business!
All I wanted was to be taken seriously; to make a contribution. As years passed, I realized I wasn’t the only one feeling this way.
All of us want to feel that we’re making a difference in the world, or at least in someone’s life, and yet, we forget that everyone around us also feels this way.
Creating deep and long-lasting human connections is possible only when...... Read More...
We’re told that we need to “keep our feet on the ground” and to be practical.
We are guided to follow the traditional cycle of life: Be born, go to school, get a job that pays the bills, marry, have children, raise the children to follow the same cycle, retire, and watch TV until it’s time to die.
And while society condemns having high expectations of success, it accepts and even encourages expectations of failure.... Read More...
Cloris Kylie, MBA, is a performance coach and personal branding expert. She helps coaches, authors, consultants, speakers, and other service-based professionals boost their visibility so that they can expand their client base. She also provides personal branding consultation services for corporate professionals. Visit her website at cloriskylie.com.
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