I would never have thought that I would get hooked on social media! But here I am, struggling with my addiction. I became addicted about a year and a half ago, and I’m still fighting my problem. I had an account on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Heck, I even got one on MySpace (do you remember MySpace?).
Can't sleep? Thinking too much? If you’ve ever had insomnia you probably know how sleep problems can affect your wellbeing, in particular, your mood and anxiety levels. Thinking often plays a role in maintaining sleep problems, such as insomnia. Today, I’m going to walk you through what sleep problems or insomnia look like and then how to address problematic thinking styles that contribute to sleep problems.
If you have never experienced a mental health problem, how can you understand what it’s like, properly empathize, or offer support? We all know the vital importance of good health. So why does this all disappear when it comes to mental health?
Nike’s slogan has never worked for me. After excessively failing at my self-appointed objectives, I eventually realized that my failure was not in not accomplishing my goal nor in unsuccessfully creating a habit but in not setting myself up for success. My failure wasn’t after the fact but before it. I was setting myself up to fail by being impatient with myself and expecting too much out of myself too soon. I had the wrong mindset back then...
In the era of #iwokeuplikethis Instagram scams, where no makeup usually means heavily applied foundation or a very strong filter, disappointment in the reality of things comes as a given – especially when you are dating online.
The World is different these days. I am in an abundance of information and I have instant access to it at the drop of the hat. I am constantly bombarded with messages, day and night that drown out my inner voice. I’m in a state of emotional hypersensitivity and I am terrified about it. At best I am coping. Safeguarding, by locking out all depth of emotion so as not to show my true self, because I am different, I am the problem. Or so I believe.
On March 9, 2016, I began a journey to get healthier by going to the gym. I have been every day, rain or shine, since. Yes, I know that I am not supposed to go to the gym every day as evidenced by the rolled eyeballs of any trainer with whom I've spoken. People are not supposed to go to the gym every day. I tend to be an all or nothing sort of guy so I committed to going every day. Whether I felt great or not I went for at least thirty minutes, at the very minimum walking slowly on the treadmill. Most of the time, however, it was far more intense than that for between thirty and sixty minutes.
Think about the unhealthy behaviors in your life. Maybe it is food, an addiction, smoking, or negative self-talk. Now think about all the steps it will take to get from unhealthy to healthy. Feel overwhelmed yet?
After facing a chain of traumatic events in a short space of time and having an outburst of emotions to deal with; I got curious and wanted to look closer into how we process our emotions in the Western society. I discovered that we seem to be polarized in our approach to dealing with our feelings. We either don’t validate them and adopt the position of “I’m fine, really, I’M FINE” through gritted teeth or we’re encouraged to wallow in them and make an identity out of the story, whilst in the background we’re told to shove some pills down our throat to ease the pain.
What happens when you head to the doctor and later receive a call about the rest of your life?
That was my chapter of a book I believed was coming to an end. Yet despite all of my faltering emotions over the past weeks, I came out stronger and learned the most important lesson when you receive life-changing news…
If I look back, I would not be where I am and happy as I am today if I wouldn’t have had the courage to be different, authentic, deal with social pressure and go after my dreams, despite all the silly rumours about my life, and so many people trying to persuade me out of what I wanted, thinking that they “know” what would be the right decision for me.
Every morning, I look at myself in the mirror and repeat my mantra “You are loved, you are beautiful in your own imperfection. Go outside and shine.”
That may sound cheesy, but it has helped me to at least to get out of bed and start a new day without feeling like a burden.
The choice is yours.
Snapchat changed my life. You might think I’m exaggerating but as an introvert who avoids attention and confrontation at all costs, I can assure you from the bottom of my easily-offended heart that it’s the truth.
In my clinic, I often see people seeking help for lack of sexual intimacy in their relationship. Both men and woman present with this problem and there is often concern about what is normal. People want to know “how much sex is normal in a long-term relationship?” Often they have read the statistic that married couples have sex on average three times a week, and they are worried.