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5 Reasons Taking People Seriously Can Change Your Life

5 Reasons Taking People Seriously Can Change Your Life. “I’d like to give thanks for this meal,” I announced at the dinner table. In my second grade class, I had just learned the importance of being grateful, and thought my parents would be proud of me. I bowed my head and closed my eyes. Then, I heard chuckles. When I opened my eyes, I saw Mom and Dad giving me the same look they reserved for a puppy. “You’re so cute,” they said. My seven-year-old self became angry. I didn’t intend to be “cute.” This was serious business! All I wanted was to be taken seriously; to make a contribution. As years passed, I realized I wasn’t the only one feeling this way. All of us want to feel that we’re making a difference in the world, or at least in someone’s life, and yet, we forget that everyone around us also feels this way. Creating deep and long-lasting human connections is possible only when...

Perfectly Imperfect: Releasing the Shame That Binds You

Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. Every day, we get up and we talk about topics that we are comfortable with. We might chit-chat about a movie we saw over the weekend with a friend or talk about our chances for promotion with our husband. Somehow, we manage to talk about our loves, our hopes, even our failures. What we often don't talk about is that insidious feeling that sometimes festers inside us, that makes us feel like we are nothing, that colours our very being. What we can't talk about is a shame. Where Does Shame Come From? How Do We Get Beyond Our Shame?

How to Go Far in Life With These 5 Effective Intentions

I set the intention to see purple flowers. I was reading, E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Change Your Consciousness. I was on the second experiment which called for me to test the power of intention. The experiment required that I actively look for something, anything of my choosing. As soon as I set the intention, I began to panic. After all, it was wintertime in the city. The predominant colour was gray, surrounded by more gray. It would be nearly impossible to find any flowers at all, let alone the prized and rare purple ones... But I did find them. How to Get Far in Life: Setting 5 Effective Intentions

How to Be Lucky in Getting What You Want

Where do you want to be in life? What is one small step you could take today to begin your journey to arrive there? Your luck, your life, is in your own control. You have the power to make things happen and build yourself a happier and better life! You can make your own luck happen. My life has changed dramatically for the better! But it seemed to be happening in slow motion. Many times after a negative event, like issues with car repairs, it felt like I was moving backward instead of forward. It can feel very disheartening. But don’t give up! Persistence is key! Keep going over your plan, revise it when necessary, and keep plodding along. YOU CAN DO IT! You will make your own luck and reach your goal!

Why Busyness Such a Badge of Honor? Discovered!

When we’re busy, we don’t have time to do the work we’re really meant to be doing. We don’t have time to go the extra mile for a client or customer. We don’t have time to make a difference for someone. Busyness acts like an invisible barrier around us, keeping us from getting over-involved, hurt or even from failing. We can’t fail if we’re too busy to start. Why is Busyness Such a Badge of Honour? Has Busyness Become the Ultimate Excuse for Not Making People a Priority in our Lives?

Discover the World: 4 Reasons to Embrace Slow Travel

Slow travel is something that really used to be the only way to really travel until around a century ago, when transport developed to make international travel an everyday occurrence, but there are many now who are revisiting slow travel and making the choice not to take the quickest route through to every destination. This approach can range from those who take hiking or cycling holidays, covering a relatively short distance every day, to those who stay in each destination for an extended period of time. Slow travel is not just about getting to enjoy certain aspects of a destination, but it also offers opportunities and experiences that can genuinely make a big difference to your everyday life.

Tough Times: On Searching and Finding The Strength That You Need

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. There are many people that I have known, and many that I know still, who are searching for something – that thing that is going to make them happy, that idea that will tip the scales in the direction of abundance, that person who make them feel like they matter.

5 Tips to Move Beyond Envy and Start Enjoying Your Life

Envy is the art of counting the other fellow's blessings instead of your own. If we envy someone else, it’s like we’re unconsciously telling the universe we feel less worthy to receive and achieve than someone else, which is, of course, hogwash… I first began to leave envy behind (though this green monster still badgered me for rides home long after I’d attempted to ditch her) once I’d realized these five things...

Why High Expectations Lead to Success Instead of Disappointment

We’re told that we need to “keep our feet on the ground” and to be practical. We are guided to follow the traditional cycle of life: Be born, go to school, get a job that pays the bills, marry, have children, raise the children to follow the same cycle, retire, and watch TV until it’s time to die. And while society condemns having high expectations of success, it accepts and even encourages expectations of failure.

Changing Today for a Better Tomorrow: 5 Simple Steps

Granted, nothing stands still and everything stirs in the constant flow of everlasting change. Whether we like it or not, everything's changing. Resistance? It's pointless. The question is simple: are we interested to introduce some mild yet mindful changes into our daily life? Are we interested changing our ways today for a better tomorrow? Is it really necessary? How happy we are today? How happy we are with things that happen around us?

Accepting and Loving Yourself: Exactly the Thing That You Need

I believe narcissism is a big piece of the puzzle. For a long time, I held back from loving myself because I thought it was selfish and narcissistic. I thought to be a good person; you should concentrate on loving and taking care of other people. I thought if I was a good enough person, then someone else would discover my goodness and maybe decide I was loveable too. Then, I thought, I would feel loved. I understand now that being narcissistic is actually the exact opposite of self-love. Being narcissistic means living in service to the person you think you “should” be, rather than unconditionally loving yourself just the way you are! Do you find it challenging to truly love and take care of yourself?

Extrovert & Introvert: The Key to Understanding Both

An introvert is a person who is absolutely cozy and comfortable within his permanent shell. A shy person is a person who has his temporary shell which he would love to lose at any given moment. Introverts find their comfort in calm low key places and they would rather read a book than go and dance in the club. Extensive socialising for introverts is an emotionally draining experience – shy people on the other hand do not always prefer solitude. They are just timid to connect with other people.

How to Become The Best Version of Yourself

When you’re in your last days on Earth, you’ll never, ever think to yourself “I wish I’d waited longer.” Time and life won’t hold off until you’re ready. Wrapped up in our “success bubbles”, it’s easy to forget we’re not invincible. That something could happen in an hour/month/year from now that could make your lifelong dreams impossible. Take it from me. I woke up one morning to arthritis that kept me bedridden for six months. For the first time, all those things I’d been waiting for – a life between NYC and NZ, a career I loved, and the happiness I craved – almost disappeared. Are you ready for that reality? Then there are the long-term effects of life dreams on the back burner. We gradually become more and more stuck in place, and watch our motivation fizzle. We become frustrated, bored, and run down.

Stressed and Overwhelmed: 5 Ways to Calm your Overachiever

There was so much that begged for my attention and so much that I needed to get done if I wanted to take my industry by storm... But then something happened. The inspiration came and gone. I was left with the distinct desire of wanting to do nothing at all. I gave myself permission to ‘take a day off’. But it turned out the desire to do nothing had other plans, setting up shop in my mind for the rest of the entire week! I couldn’t believe it. As a world-class overachiever, I was disappointed with myself. This was no time to take breaks! This was time to take action. Yet even s0, I couldn’t help but hear a small voice whisper: RELAX.

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser & Take Control of Your life

For a long time I turned away from any recognition and achievement… I thought I was being spiritually enlightened, but now I know it’s because I was ashamed of my need to be loved. For the first 26 years of my life I had been heavily focused on competitive achievement in horse riding. I understand now I wasn’t always doing it for the right reasons... The wins were to appease my gods - teachers, trainers, owners and bosses. I was actually seeking a metaphoric gold star to prove, not that I was good at riding, but that I was worthy of loving and existing.

What We Should Learn About Love Right Now

Since the early age I was frequently told that there will come a day when, after some good chasing, longing, yearning and the ultimate hide and seek game, probably, if I am lucky enough, I will find that notorious "other half". Since the early age the idea that I am not WHOLE enough, not complete enough was haunting me. That idea of "INCOMPLETENESS" looked like a sad goon that would never leave my side. Back then I didn't know that I was deeply conditioned, tricked into a blind belief that in order to feel whole and complete I have to go and find my "other half". Meaning that I would have to accept the notion that my happiness/unhappiness is dependent on another person. Does it sound familiar? Subconsciously I felt resentment towards the idea that I needed someone to complete me in order to be truly happy but I couldn't quite figure out how to put that feeling into solid words.

7 Secret Actions to Boost Your Self-Esteem

In a non-egotistical way, I now have more self-confidence and love for myself than I could ever imagine, I am no longer socially awkward and I’m now holding seminars across Australia. How was I able to go from being shy and struggling to hold a conversation with one person, to being able to speak for three days in a row for 12 hours to hundreds of people… The answer? Self love. I want to reveal my secrets to instantly boost your self-confidence to help you not only love yourself more but to increase the quality of your life.