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Accepting and Loving Yourself: Exactly the Thing That You Need

I believe narcissism is a big piece of the puzzle. For a long time, I held back from loving myself because I thought it was selfish and narcissistic. I thought to be a good person; you should concentrate on loving and taking care of other people. I thought if I was a good enough person, then someone else would discover my goodness and maybe decide I was loveable too. Then, I thought, I would feel loved. I understand now that being narcissistic is actually the exact opposite of self-love. Being narcissistic means living in service to the person you think you “should” be, rather than unconditionally loving yourself just the way you are! Do you find it challenging to truly love and take care of yourself?... Read More...

Extrovert & Introvert: The Key to Understanding Both

An introvert is a person who is absolutely cozy and comfortable within his permanent shell. A shy person is a person who has his temporary shell which he would love to lose at any given moment. Introverts find their comfort in calm low key places and they would rather read a book than go and dance in the club. Extensive socialising for introverts is an emotionally draining experience – shy people on the other hand do not always prefer solitude. They are just timid to connect with other people.... Read More...

How to Become The Best Version of Yourself

When you’re in your last days on Earth, you’ll never, ever think to yourself “I wish I’d waited longer.” Time and life won’t hold off until you’re ready. Wrapped up in our “success bubbles”, it’s easy to forget we’re not invincible. That something could happen in an hour/month/year from now that could make your lifelong dreams impossible. Take it from me. I woke up one morning to arthritis that kept me bedridden for six months. For the first time, all those things I’d been waiting for – a life between NYC and NZ, a career I loved, and the happiness I craved – almost disappeared. Are you ready for that reality? Then there are the long-term effects of life dreams on the back burner. We gradually become more and more stuck in place, and watch our motivation fizzle. We become frustrated, bored, and run down.... Read More...

Stressed and Overwhelmed: 5 Ways to Calm your Overachiever

There was so much that begged for my attention and so much that I needed to get done if I wanted to take my industry by storm... But then something happened. The inspiration came and gone. I was left with the distinct desire of wanting to do nothing at all. I gave myself permission to ‘take a day off’. But it turned out the desire to do nothing had other plans, setting up shop in my mind for the rest of the entire week! I couldn’t believe it. As a world-class overachiever, I was disappointed with myself. This was no time to take breaks! This was time to take action. Yet even s0, I couldn’t help but hear a small voice whisper: RELAX.... Read More...

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser & Take Control of Your life

For a long time I turned away from any recognition and achievement… I thought I was being spiritually enlightened, but now I know it’s because I was ashamed of my need to be loved. For the first 26 years of my life I had been heavily focused on competitive achievement in horse riding. I understand now I wasn’t always doing it for the right reasons... The wins were to appease my gods - teachers, trainers, owners and bosses. I was actually seeking a metaphoric gold star to prove, not that I was good at riding, but that I was worthy of loving and existing.... Read More...

What We Should Learn About Love Right Now

Since the early age I was frequently told that there will come a day when, after some good chasing, longing, yearning and the ultimate hide and seek game, probably, if I am lucky enough, I will find that notorious "other half". Since the early age the idea that I am not WHOLE enough, not complete enough was haunting me. That idea of "INCOMPLETENESS" looked like a sad goon that would never leave my side. Back then I didn't know that I was deeply conditioned, tricked into a blind belief that in order to feel whole and complete I have to go and find my "other half". Meaning that I would have to accept the notion that my happiness/unhappiness is dependent on another person. Does it sound familiar? Subconsciously I felt resentment towards the idea that I needed someone to complete me in order to be truly happy but I couldn't quite figure out how to put that feeling into solid words.... Read More...

7 Secret Actions to Boost Your Self-Esteem

In a non-egotistical way, I now have more self-confidence and love for myself than I could ever imagine, I am no longer socially awkward and I’m now holding seminars across Australia. How was I able to go from being shy and struggling to hold a conversation with one person, to being able to speak for three days in a row for 12 hours to hundreds of people… The answer? Self love. I want to reveal my secrets to instantly boost your self-confidence to help you not only love yourself more but to increase the quality of your life.... Read More...

Why Clinical Pilates Really Has Your Back

For those suffering from spinal conditions, Clinical Pilates can avoid the potentially harmful effects of a general class and provide a great introduction to the correct exercises and movement patterns. Working as a physiotherapist for the last ten years, I’ve used a range of Pilates techniques with my patients. For those suffering from spinal pain, it can provide great results, but only when utilised correctly. Pilates is not a one size fits all intervention for back pain, and can easily make symptoms worse with the wrong exercises. Despite this, Pilates classes are generally packed with students following a set routine, with little opportunity for instructors to tailor individual programmes.... Read More...

Getting Things Done Even if You Don’t Feel Like It

We strive to finish something important when in mid air comes a sense that YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE DOING IT. It happens to the best of us - you, me and probably even the most motivated person on Earth – Oprah Winfrey! We have all been there facing the list of things to do when we didn't feel like doing any of them. At times, it feels like you don't even want to think about that bundle of tasks...And the time is ticking, the pile becomes even bigger and we still don't feel like doing it.... Read More...

10 Honest Reasons You Should Be Your Own Boss

I vividly remember the agony of dragging my butt out of bed at 6:30AM, trekking it 1km to the subway, to stand squished in the human cattle car that wreaked of burnt coffee and morning breath. This daily commute was then followed by 9 tortuously long hours of hating my life. It took all of two weeks for me to realize this outrageously constrictive lifestyle was not for me...... Read More...

Mistakes Are Proof That You Are Trying

We have all been there... we all made mistakes: big and little ones. From "pink elephant in the room" to seamless yet vital ones. We can all show a scar or two as a result of those invaluable life lessons. Some people grow stronger and stay positive no matter what happened yesterday. Some people, including me, sometimes feel so petrified with the outcome of some actions that taking another step is like walking and shaking on the rope that's been stretched over the chasm of uncertainty down below.... Read More...

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