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3 Things That Really Make Life Worth Living

What Makes Life Worth Living? Things that make life worth living? How to Make Life Worth Living. I guess we grew accustomed to define ourselves in terms of the things that we own – things that make us feel special and worthy. Things that become an extended version of ourselves. We also live our lives expecting "big moments" to come and blow our minds away so we can forget about our ordinary and boring day-to-day life... Does it sound familiar?... Read More...

How to Deal With Emotional Baggage Effectively

All That You Can't Leave Behind...Why can’t you move on and let the past go? What is it with us and that enormous emotional baggage that we tend to carry around? Imagine yourself standing in the heavy pouring rain with an empty bucket. The longer we stand there holding the bucket, the heavier it gets. It gets heavier rather quickly, doesn't it? How long can we hold it for? There comes a point in time when we need to release it before it gets too overwhelming...... Read More...

What to Do When You Don’t Feel Like Doing Anything

Why We Don't Feel Like Doing Anything? Have you ever woken up and felt like you don't want to do anything? Energy levels are low, so as your mood and any desire to shift yourself throughout your day using legs... Why do kids run chasing pigeons in a local park and look so happy, vibrant, energetic and content? Because they find their joy in every step they take and in every movement. They seem to be happy to be able to take themselves from point A to point B. They find joy in every movement because most emotions are created by motion which is absolutely true. Therefore, the more we move, the better we feel.... Read More...

5 Reasons Taking People Seriously Can Change Your Life

5 Reasons Taking People Seriously Can Change Your Life. “I’d like to give thanks for this meal,” I announced at the dinner table. In my second grade class, I had just learned the importance of being grateful, and thought my parents would be proud of me. I bowed my head and closed my eyes. Then, I heard chuckles. When I opened my eyes, I saw Mom and Dad giving me the same look they reserved for a puppy. “You’re so cute,” they said. My seven-year-old self became angry. I didn’t intend to be “cute.” This was serious business! All I wanted was to be taken seriously; to make a contribution. As years passed, I realized I wasn’t the only one feeling this way. All of us want to feel that we’re making a difference in the world, or at least in someone’s life, and yet, we forget that everyone around us also feels this way. Creating deep and long-lasting human connections is possible only when...... Read More...

Perfectly Imperfect: Releasing the Shame That Binds You

Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. Every day, we get up and we talk about topics that we are comfortable with. We might chit-chat about a movie we saw over the weekend with a friend or talk about our chances for promotion with our husband. Somehow, we manage to talk about our loves, our hopes, even our failures. What we often don't talk about is that insidious feeling that sometimes festers inside us, that makes us feel like we are nothing, that colours our very being. What we can't talk about is a shame. Where Does Shame Come From? How Do We Get Beyond Our Shame? ... Read More...

16 Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances of Getting Back Together

I've always maintained that fresh heartbreak leads people to make all kinds of poor decisions. These are things to stay away from if you're struggling with getting over a breakup. I've done every single thing on this list, so if you've already stumbled and made a few of these breakup mistakes, know that you're in good company. If you've been broken up with, here are 16 things to avoid doing at all costs. 16 Breakup Mistakes That Kill Your Chances of Getting Back Together... Read More...

How to Go Far in Life With These 5 Effective Intentions

I set the intention to see purple flowers. I was reading, E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Change Your Consciousness. I was on the second experiment which called for me to test the power of intention. The experiment required that I actively look for something, anything of my choosing. As soon as I set the intention, I began to panic. After all, it was wintertime in the city. The predominant colour was gray, surrounded by more gray. It would be nearly impossible to find any flowers at all, let alone the prized and rare purple ones... But I did find them. How to Get Far in Life: Setting 5 Effective Intentions ... Read More...

How to Be Lucky in Getting What You Want

Where do you want to be in life? What is one small step you could take today to begin your journey to arrive there? Your luck, your life, is in your own control. You have the power to make things happen and build yourself a happier and better life! You can make your own luck happen. My life has changed dramatically for the better! But it seemed to be happening in slow motion. Many times after a negative event, like issues with car repairs, it felt like I was moving backward instead of forward. It can feel very disheartening. But don’t give up! Persistence is key! Keep going over your plan, revise it when necessary, and keep plodding along. YOU CAN DO IT! You will make your own luck and reach your goal!... Read More...

Why Busyness Such a Badge of Honor? Discovered!

When we’re busy, we don’t have time to do the work we’re really meant to be doing. We don’t have time to go the extra mile for a client or customer. We don’t have time to make a difference for someone. Busyness acts like an invisible barrier around us, keeping us from getting over-involved, hurt or even from failing. We can’t fail if we’re too busy to start. Why is Busyness Such a Badge of Honour? Has Busyness Become the Ultimate Excuse for Not Making People a Priority in our Lives? ... Read More...

Tough Times: On Searching and Finding The Strength That You Need

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. There are many people that I have known, and many that I know still, who are searching for something – that thing that is going to make them happy, that idea that will tip the scales in the direction of abundance, that person who make them feel like they matter. ... Read More...

5 Tips to Move Beyond Envy and Start Enjoying Your Life

Envy is the art of counting the other fellow's blessings instead of your own. If we envy someone else, it’s like we’re unconsciously telling the universe we feel less worthy to receive and achieve than someone else, which is, of course, hogwash… I first began to leave envy behind (though this green monster still badgered me for rides home long after I’d attempted to ditch her) once I’d realized these five things...... Read More...

Why High Expectations Lead to Success Instead of Disappointment

We’re told that we need to “keep our feet on the ground” and to be practical. We are guided to follow the traditional cycle of life: Be born, go to school, get a job that pays the bills, marry, have children, raise the children to follow the same cycle, retire, and watch TV until it’s time to die. And while society condemns having high expectations of success, it accepts and even encourages expectations of failure.... Read More...

Accepting and Loving Yourself: Exactly the Thing That You Need

I believe narcissism is a big piece of the puzzle. For a long time, I held back from loving myself because I thought it was selfish and narcissistic. I thought to be a good person; you should concentrate on loving and taking care of other people. I thought if I was a good enough person, then someone else would discover my goodness and maybe decide I was loveable too. Then, I thought, I would feel loved. I understand now that being narcissistic is actually the exact opposite of self-love. Being narcissistic means living in service to the person you think you “should” be, rather than unconditionally loving yourself just the way you are! Do you find it challenging to truly love and take care of yourself?... Read More...

Extrovert & Introvert: The Key to Understanding Both

An introvert is a person who is absolutely cozy and comfortable within his permanent shell. A shy person is a person who has his temporary shell which he would love to lose at any given moment. Introverts find their comfort in calm low key places and they would rather read a book than go and dance in the club. Extensive socialising for introverts is an emotionally draining experience – shy people on the other hand do not always prefer solitude. They are just timid to connect with other people.... Read More...

How to Become The Best Version of Yourself

When you’re in your last days on Earth, you’ll never, ever think to yourself “I wish I’d waited longer.” Time and life won’t hold off until you’re ready. Wrapped up in our “success bubbles”, it’s easy to forget we’re not invincible. That something could happen in an hour/month/year from now that could make your lifelong dreams impossible. Take it from me. I woke up one morning to arthritis that kept me bedridden for six months. For the first time, all those things I’d been waiting for – a life between NYC and NZ, a career I loved, and the happiness I craved – almost disappeared. Are you ready for that reality? Then there are the long-term effects of life dreams on the back burner. We gradually become more and more stuck in place, and watch our motivation fizzle. We become frustrated, bored, and run down.... Read More...

Stressed and Overwhelmed: 5 Ways to Calm your Overachiever

There was so much that begged for my attention and so much that I needed to get done if I wanted to take my industry by storm... But then something happened. The inspiration came and gone. I was left with the distinct desire of wanting to do nothing at all. I gave myself permission to ‘take a day off’. But it turned out the desire to do nothing had other plans, setting up shop in my mind for the rest of the entire week! I couldn’t believe it. As a world-class overachiever, I was disappointed with myself. This was no time to take breaks! This was time to take action. Yet even s0, I couldn’t help but hear a small voice whisper: RELAX.... Read More...

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser & Take Control of Your life

For a long time I turned away from any recognition and achievement… I thought I was being spiritually enlightened, but now I know it’s because I was ashamed of my need to be loved. For the first 26 years of my life I had been heavily focused on competitive achievement in horse riding. I understand now I wasn’t always doing it for the right reasons... The wins were to appease my gods - teachers, trainers, owners and bosses. I was actually seeking a metaphoric gold star to prove, not that I was good at riding, but that I was worthy of loving and existing.... Read More...

What We Should Learn About Love Right Now

Since the early age I was frequently told that there will come a day when, after some good chasing, longing, yearning and the ultimate hide and seek game, probably, if I am lucky enough, I will find that notorious "other half". Since the early age the idea that I am not WHOLE enough, not complete enough was haunting me. That idea of "INCOMPLETENESS" looked like a sad goon that would never leave my side. Back then I didn't know that I was deeply conditioned, tricked into a blind belief that in order to feel whole and complete I have to go and find my "other half". Meaning that I would have to accept the notion that my happiness/unhappiness is dependent on another person. Does it sound familiar? Subconsciously I felt resentment towards the idea that I needed someone to complete me in order to be truly happy but I couldn't quite figure out how to put that feeling into solid words.... Read More...

Why Clinical Pilates Really Has Your Back

For those suffering from spinal conditions, Clinical Pilates can avoid the potentially harmful effects of a general class and provide a great introduction to the correct exercises and movement patterns. Working as a physiotherapist for the last ten years, I’ve used a range of Pilates techniques with my patients. For those suffering from spinal pain, it can provide great results, but only when utilised correctly. Pilates is not a one size fits all intervention for back pain, and can easily make symptoms worse with the wrong exercises. Despite this, Pilates classes are generally packed with students following a set routine, with little opportunity for instructors to tailor individual programmes.... Read More...

Getting Things Done Even if You Don’t Feel Like It

We strive to finish something important when in mid air comes a sense that YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE DOING IT. It happens to the best of us - you, me and probably even the most motivated person on Earth – Oprah Winfrey! We have all been there facing the list of things to do when we didn't feel like doing any of them. At times, it feels like you don't even want to think about that bundle of tasks...And the time is ticking, the pile becomes even bigger and we still don't feel like doing it.... Read More...

10 Honest Reasons You Should Be Your Own Boss

I vividly remember the agony of dragging my butt out of bed at 6:30AM, trekking it 1km to the subway, to stand squished in the human cattle car that wreaked of burnt coffee and morning breath. This daily commute was then followed by 9 tortuously long hours of hating my life. It took all of two weeks for me to realize this outrageously constrictive lifestyle was not for me...... Read More...

Mistakes Are Proof That You Are Trying

We have all been there... we all made mistakes: big and little ones. From "pink elephant in the room" to seamless yet vital ones. We can all show a scar or two as a result of those invaluable life lessons. Some people grow stronger and stay positive no matter what happened yesterday. Some people, including me, sometimes feel so petrified with the outcome of some actions that taking another step is like walking and shaking on the rope that's been stretched over the chasm of uncertainty down below.... Read More...

Here’s Why People Never Do What They Say They Will Do

Has anybody been in a place in time when YOU WOULD PROMISE something and do completely the opposite? Have you ever found yourself at the bend where one person would promise you something and the next thing you know they would do something else or not do it at all?! Then what? False expectations take their toll and then her majesty The Grudge comes along hand in hand. Does it sound familiar by any chance? Why is it that it's always easier said than done? What rules it all? Why People Say One Thing And Do Another?... Read More...

Why Do People Discourage & How to Pursue Your Dreams Nevertheless

Why Do People Discourage & How to Pursue Your Dreams Nevertheless We are in great danger when we encounter people who make us question ourselves and our abilities to do anything. It might even hurt when someone else is not only doubting your abilities but makes you question yourself even more. The best way to put some daylight on this is to get an idea why do people tend to discourage others in the first place. What is exactly standing behind that?... Read More...

10 Reasons You Should NEVER Give Up

Reasons You Should NEVER Give Up. There could be all sorts of different situations in our life when the time comes and we feel that we are about to give up. Sometimes we give up before we even started doing something new. Sometimes we give up just before making this huge breakthrough to success just because we saw how much effort should go through in order to succeed and it can really scare us. Don't give up beforehand! As long as you are going to be thinking anyway, think big. Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'! ... Read More...

10 Simple Habits to Improve Self-Esteem

Habits to Improve Self-Esteem. There are tons of articles out there claiming capability to change your life for the better, but the truth is that it's completely up to you. Or not. Let me paraphrase that. In order to change anything in your life you need to look up for your old limiting habits first. Yes, that's right. Let me suggest you the ones I found helpful in my own self-esteem improvement.... Read More...

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