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Pay Attention: 5 Thinking Patterns That Don’t Serve You

Critiquing someone’s thinking patterns is seen as rude and quite frankly, a lot of the time it won’t make a difference. That’s because, as humans, there are a few incorrect thinking patterns that we find ourselves feeding into because societal cues and our own experiences have told us it’s okay to. “Everyone must come to the realization of what thoughts do not serve them,” I explained. Here are some such thinking patterns.... Read More...

How an International Exchange Can Make Your Life Better

I’ve always cherished my dual background, as having both Norwegian and French ancestry has given me a deeper understanding of what it means to safeguard your roots while yearning to explore other cultures. Since I grew up in the far north, where summer days never end, and winter nights persist for weeks, my inner Viking craved for sunshine. So, despite my family’s complaints, I embarked on a student exchange journey all the way to the other hemisphere, where sunshine steals a better part of the year and I strongly believed there was an unspoken promise of happiness no matter where you land.... Read More...

The Ultimate Guide to Becoming Your Best Self

Before we dive into the colorful world of self-exploration and self-discovery, I would like to briefly explain what might otherwise become a misunderstanding. While aware of the following principles, I am nowhere near my best self, and yet I have always been no less than that, and I have a feeling that you are likely in the same conundrum.... Read More...

9 Awe-Inspiring Life Lessons I Learned in the Garden

It was the first time in a year that I had got in the vegetable garden other than to forage for ingredients. The job ahead was large and felt overwhelming.  A year without maintenance in a vegetable garden is long, too long for any hope of a healthy garden as any avid gardener will know. As I weeded, I considered the many things I’ve learned from my garden and how the lessons also apply in life more broadly.... Read More...

Self-Love: How to Love the “I” in “I Love You”

So, what is self-love?  Simply put it’s about loving the “I” in “I love you.”  When we usually think of the phrase “I love you” we are thinking about loving someone else.  This means accepting them for who they are, sticking by them through good times and bad, encouraging them in their life pursuits, celebrating their healthy choices, and being a constant companion and ally.  Sounds nice, huh?  But what about actually providing this to your very self, as well?... Read More...

Want to Bust Your New Year’s Resolutions? Do this

Time is running so fast! Can you believe that it’s already September? It’s time do some goals checklist and check on your New Year’s resolutions you’ve set for this year. There are still three months plus left, so there is still the time to devote to these goals. Do not recycle your New Year’s resolutions in January next year, but instead commit to achieving those goals this year. You can do it. Here's how.... Read More...

A Good Reminder to Help You Cope With Bad Days in Life

The life of ups and downs doesn’t like to change its rhythm. It wouldn't change its rhythm. A fact that we have been told since the very beginning. A fact that has been proven with every year and every era. A fact that we were told to try and cope with it and we did cope. For some time we did know how to accept these changes. We did learn how to be happy on bright days and patient on the dull ones.... Read More...

How to Build Your Confidence After a Life-Altering Event

Hands up if you’ve ever had a traumatic experience that you felt changed you. I’ll go first: in 2010 I had my colon removed due to cancer, and shortly after that I found out I had Lynch syndrome, which is a genetic condition that makes me more likely to get certain types of cancer in the future. I’ve written a lot about these experiences, particularly about how they have affected me emotionally. I’ve also thought a lot about how they have changed me as a person, and I’ve come to the conclusion that it hasn’t all been negative. In some ways, I’ve even changed for the better. Here are three things to think about that may help you feel better about your bad experiences too, whatever those may be.... Read More...

Releasing Resentment: How to Stop Swallowing Poison From the Past

Although normal, resentment is only useful when occurring in the short term. When it persists in the longer term, simmering under the surface, it becomes toxic for the individual experiencing it and also impacts on others they interact with. Like the old saying goes “Resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die”. A bitter person is usually someone who has been swallowing the poison of resentment for too long.... Read More...

8 Amazing Habits to Improve Positivity In Your Life

Having a positive outlook on life is perhaps the most important habit aiming towards the belief of how everything can always change for the best. In the face of adversity and difficulties, it can be hard to remain calm and optimistic, which is why just like everything that requires effort in life, it ends up paying off.... Read More...

Viktor Frankl: Shedding More Light on The Meaning of Life

Viktor E. Frankl (1905-1997) the author of the book, psychiatrist, and neurologist wrote about his torturous experience (during the World War II) as an inmate in a notorious concentration camp Auschwitz. Fascinatingly enough, he noted that people that survived longest in concentration camps were not people who were physically strong, but those few who managed to stay strong soulfully and kept a sense of control over their internal environment, their outlook, their attitude.... Read More...

How to Stop Apologizing For Everything You Do

Apologizing is a weak attempt at a quick fix. We hate to rock the boat so when we do, we wave the magic wand frantically while chanting, “I’m sorry!” with the unsureness of Ron Weasley. But, over-apologizing is not an admission of the heart--it’s fluff as useless as a magic wand. And, while, sometimes, “I’m sorry” needs to be said, most of the time, it is better to refrain.... Read More...

How to Cope With Panic Attack

Panic + Fear = Powerless. An equation that has frequently been added up in my head! Anyone who has ever suffered from panic attacks (even if you have only had one once) will know they’re hard to forget. Not to mention tough to manage. In this post, I hope to be able to share my experiences of panic attacks and give some advice on how to live life alongside these unpredictable moments.... Read More...

One Thing You Should Know About Overcoming Eating Disorder

It was November and I was sat there in a waiting room at the front of an inpatient mental health adolescent hospital in Bristol. My parents sat either side of me. All of us were quite anxious and a bit on edge. The last 24 hours hung over us, my heart ECG coming back as bad and a huge family argument about what was right for me. I guess the reality was that those arguments had pretty much been my life for the last year or so. Ever since my parents had decided to interfere with my eating and made me go to CAMHs.  ... Read More...

How to Have Effective Conversation

In this world, everyone likes to be heard, but few seem to stop talking long enough to listen. More often than not, as soon as someone starts to speak, we are guilty of spending our internal energy on mustering up something awesome to say in response. Active listening is a lost art to the excessive barking of Dodo birds.... Read More...

7 Simple Ways to Find Your Purpose and Live Meaningfully

I used to spend a lot of time daydreaming about all of the things I’d like to be doing with my life.  But I had a corporate job and was busy ticking things off my bucket list, settling down, finding a house and a man who’d love me.  All of the things I felt I should do, all of the things society tells us is the way.  But my life lacked meaning and I was unsure of what my real purpose was.  Stuck is a job that suffocated my soul, I thought there must be other ways to make ends meet?  Do you ever find yourself asking those questions; is this all there is?  Is this what life is all about?  What would you do if you had more time, money, freedom?... Read More...

‘Happily Ever After’ is Fiction, Real Love is What You Need

The bond between husband and wife can be one of the most beautiful things. Finding a best friend and loyal companion, someone that completes you is the ultimate gift. Putting all selfishness aside, when you make that leap of faith, joining hearts by uniting differences, strengths and weakness, you balance each other out, creating a thriving vessel for flourishing love.   Sounds amazing right? And let’s not forget, marriage always puts a smile on our face and its all smooth sailing from the moment we say “I do.”... Read More...

Havingtimers, Welcome! Thank’s For Joining The Family!

Havingtimers, our amazing guys and girls, thank you ALL so much for joining this global havingtime family! We cannot thank you enough for sharing your incredible stories, and challenges, and inspiration learning from each other, keeping each other stronger and supported in this ever changing world where happiness often can take a back seat to the breakneck speed of life.... Read More...

How to Speak Out: Why It’s Okay to Not be Okay

Through these apps and social media, many of us pretend that our lives are perfect. I’m not innocent either! So many times I have felt pressured to post on my Instagram just to keep up face even though I am having a real rough time. Whack a ridiculously filtered selfie up on your page, and everyone is none the wiser. But everybody knows – nobody’s life is perfect. So why are we striving so hard to pretend that we are blemish free when we all secretly know that some days we just want to crawl back into bed and cry all day?... Read More...

5 Important Things I Learned in Rehab About Self-Confidence

People seemed to like me better when I was on my party-mode, and nobody ever hid those thoughts from me. I went from being the lame, silent kid in class, to be the King. My social circle grew as wide as the whole classroom and I didn’t have to worry about how I really felt because everyone around me was thinking that I was one of the cool ones to be around. Unfortunately, that reputation only lasted for a while.... Read More...

How to Create a Beautiful and Exciting Life

If you are “obsessing” over Instagram pictures and social media little too much, that is an indicator that you are actually lacking fun, adventure, travel, excitement, joy, beauty in our own life. Your soul and heart desires that you live an Instagram kind of life: travel more, pursue your own dreams, experience more fun, joy, adventures… You also can create beautiful, happy, successful, fulfilled life for yourself which you’ll love, just like those Instagram bloggers and influencers that you are following. You only need to decide that you will not settle for mediocre life and that you will go after your dreams, commit to work hard and follow the right strategy to do it.... Read More...

When You Lead: 5 Crucial Tips on Authentic Leadership to Learn

Have you ever heard of the term authentic leadership? Many people hear this term and don't take it seriously enough. The truth is authentic leadership is not reserved for the elite few or a set group of people. Authentic leadership is an essential skillset to be embraced by everyone. No matter what your title is or where you are at in your career, you can be a leader starting today.... Read More...

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