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How to Remarkably Improve Your Life with Minimalism

Simplicity has its beauty, and it always boils down to eliminating the excess in our lives. And yet media and society try hard to convince us that having more stuff should be the goal and the answer to anything. But is having more actually improving the quality of our lives? Do more possessions add real value to our days? Do more commitments in our diaries help us feel less overwhelmed? Does always chasing the latest gadget on the market helps us feel happier? Hang on, is having more even feasible, especially for those of us who are struggling to make ends meet and pay monthly bills on time? Many people can barely afford enough, let alone more. That's where Minimalism can help to remarkably improve your life on all levels.... Read More...

Now is Not Forever: How to Deal With Uncomfortable Emotions

We love those big explosive, happy emotions on a sunny day. But we are not that keen on big challenging emotions. Nope, not negative. Challenging emotions. You can tag them as hard, or difficult, but do you really believe any emotions could be purely negative? Don't they all serve a purpose? Our emotions are an expression of how we feel at the fleeting moment in time. They are not forever and serve us as a reflection of how we dissipate the energy associated with those incredibly overwhelming feelings.... Read More...

How to Start Exercising When You’re a Beginner

If you firmly decided to put a stop to your sedentary lifestyle and start working out, you’ve made a fantastic investment in your health already. Regular exercise not only make you lose a few extra pounds and make you physically stronger but it will also do wonders for your mental health. But, if you successfully avoided gyms, running treks and yoga studios in the past, here’s a little guide that will help you get familiar with exercise. It’s less frightening and more fun than it seems!... Read More...

How to Manage Your Time Better to Achieve Your Goals

Your time is the most valuable unrenewable resource. One of the most significant skills you can have in life is good time management. If you aren’t managing your time well, you won’t be able to achieve the goals you set for yourself. It’s not about how much time you have – it’s about how well you manage it. It’s time to learn how to better manage your time, to achieve your goals.... Read More...

How to Stop the War in Your Mind and Find Peace

Why am I so unproductive? Am I going to accomplish anything worthwhile in this life? Why am I such an introvert? When will I stop punishing myself? Sometimes the pit of self-absorption deepens until you can’t escape by normal means. And although you really would like to climb out, digging yourself deeper is so temptingly easy. But there are ways of stopping the war in your mind and finding peace...... Read More...

How to Create the Things you Want to See in your Life

January is that wonderful time of year when we promise to ourselves that this will be THE year. The year that we finally make positive changes, stick to new helpful habits and achieve the things we really want... Whether it be to get fit, quit the day job, start a business, go travel, find a partner – the chances are you've got hopes, dreams, and aspirations that for whatever reason, haven't quite yet manifested themselves. I'm going to let you into a secret about how I create the things I desire in my life, and how I help others to do the same.... Read More...

How to Thrive during SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) Season

Winter is here and if you’ve noticed that your mood has drastically changed for the worse lately, you’re certainly at the right place. We will be discussing SAD (seasonal affective disorder), its symptoms, and ways to combat it, so stay with us and keep on reading if you want to found out more about it. Check out our tips and improve the quality of your life this winter!... Read More...

How to Have a Strong Emotional Core When You Have No Time for a Morning Routine

“Routine, in an intelligent man, is a sign of ambition.”  – W. H. Auden Tim Ferriss believes that morning routines should be strictly followed, to avoid wasting time thinking. He shared time in again that "in the morning and elsewhere, the more constraints I can create where I fly on autopilot and get a result I need or enjoy, the more horsepower, the more calories I have to allocate to being creative, and to doing things where thinking should actually be applied."... Read More...

The Power of a Positive NO & How it Changes Your Life for the Better

Saying ‘no’ is difficult even when it's a positive NO. We are so used to saying yes to a lot of things and coming up with excuses when we should have just said no. There are people you feel like you can never say no to such as close friends, your boss or even your family. However, it is high time you learned that sometimes declining to do things will bring a positive impact on your life. It can enable you to achieve your dreams and become more successful in life.... Read More...

The Best Ways to Practice Self-Care at Work

For some of us, work is stressful only sometimes. For others, it’s more-or-less constant. So let's look into the ways you can practice self-care at work building an internal toolkit of stress-busting techniques that will give you ownership of your emotions, making you less reactive and more powerful to overcome any challenge.... Read More...

What’s the Best Time of Day to Drink Coffee?

Are you a die-hard fan of coffee too? Then, this article is definitely for you! Some people have an occasional cup of coffee to enjoy conversations with their loved ones. On the other hand, there are a few others who can barely function through a day without having their daily cup of coffee. But, did you know that there are appropriate time and method to have your first cup of caffeine?... Read More...

Helpful Life Skill: How to Avoid an Ugly Argument

Have you ever felt GOOD after an ugly argument? Me neither. Even on the rare (really rare) occasion when I was able to “agree to disagree” with whoever sat on the opposite end of that particular opinion scale, I still felt annoyed. Unhappy. It all felt unfinished… It makes sense because arguments are never based on interest, curiosity or any sense of mutual benefit.... Read More...

How to Plan Your Day and Stick to it

Is having a foolproof way to plan the day can help in creating more time? Most people these days tend to complain about the lack of time in their life. There is never enough time... And time is one thing that we cannot buy. We might be dreaming about having time to tick off all the things on our to-do list with ease and still have some time for hobbies and other fun activities and spend quality time with people we love most. Despite the above wish list, the fact remains that we are always playing catch up game with time. So how do we create more of it?... Read More...

How to Eat Healthy While on Vacation

So you’ve decided to go on vacation, and perhaps you've taken a look at some french riviera vacation rentals and booked your time away. Now what? Chances are you’ve also been on a bit of a diet, trying to eat healthy, as you wish to look and feel good while you’re away. But how can you stick to your healthy diet when you’re on vacation, and resist all those delicious temptations you’re going to be faced with? It's easier than you think.... Read More...

How to Quit Your Day Job and Do What You Love

I was working a corporate job as a marketing manager for a high-end real estate law firm in Newport Beach, California, good money, but all I had was the vaguest notion there was something more out there than what I was living - something that would fulfill me professionally, give me more autonomy, and pay for some of the good things in life. I suppose I just wanted to be the one steering my boat, as it were, and not have someone else at the wheel. So I quit my day job.... Read More...

How to Make Time For Self-Care No Matter How Busy You Are

Busy life often leaves no time for self-care to unwind and de-stress. Half of us are running on an empty tank, stretching ourselves too thin which affects our work, our relationships, and our overall well-being. But guess what, as silly as it sounds, we can't pour from an empty cup and truly be there for others when we can't even take care of our needs. Failing to give yourself the attention you deserve can cause a lot of problems in the long run. However, it does not have to be this way, since you can always make time for self-care.... Read More...

How to De-Stress With Some Fun Activities

Stress negatively impacts our lives. While time helps stress pass, there are fun activities that can help alleviate stress much quicker. These activities will help with stress management and make tough situations a lot easier. Whether alone or with friends, there are certain things you can do that will improve your mental health. Having fun whilst recharging your batteries will help you achieve your goals in life as you embrace the peace of mind that comes with fun activities. ... Read More...

5 Effective Ways to Boost Your Emotional Resilience

Emotional resilience is that indefatigable quality that allows us to adapt to challenging, stressful or unforeseen circumstances and bounce back, rather than fall apart. It’s what enables some people to persevere in the face of significant setbacks and roll with the punches, while others fall at the first hurdle. Think of it as both a preventative and protective mental armor.... Read More...

4 Ways to Save Time on Your Morning Coffee Routine

Most of the time-saving tips that you will encounter on the web revolve around how you should avoid making your cup of coffee yourself and instead be a regular customer at your local coffee shop. But what if you still want to make coffee at home? Avoiding the potentially long line could save you time on its own. Here are the top four ways to save time on your morning coffee routine.... Read More...

The Truth About “Starting a New Life”

Today I woke up with a renewing feeling of ‘moving on’. As I got into the shower on this fine Sunday morning in London, I said to myself, ‘it’s like I’m waking up on the first day of a new life. It’s like I’m learning to stand up on my own two feet again.’ And I breathed in the sense of excitement, nervousness, and loneliness that it evoked all at once.... Read More...

How to Create Time for Yourself When You Have a Toddler

Often, parents feel guilty about needing time apart from their kids. However, you should know that taking time out doesn’t make you a bad parent. On the contrary, creating time to take care of yourself and recharge means you’re looking after your wellbeing, and you can give the best version of yourself to your kids. On that note, this article will look at some ways that you can create time for yourself when you’ve got a toddler.... Read More...

9 Tips On How to Save Money When You Travel

How to save money while traveling? I get this question all the time. Yes, it’s easy to just show up somewhere when you’re backpacking and have no clue how much money you will be spending, especially when you travel to less expensive destinations, like Thailand. It’s so important to be able to stay within your budget while still being able to have a great time!... Read More...

How to Start a Gratitude Practice and Change Your Life for Good

Gratitude practice is a natural antidepressant. When we take a moment to ask what we are grateful for, certain neural circuits are activated. Production of dopamine and serotonin increases and these neurotransmitters then travel neural pathways to the “bliss” center of the brain — similar to the mechanisms of many antidepressants. Practicing gratitude, therefore, can be a way to naturally create the same effects of medications and create feelings of contentment.... Read More...

10 Important Life Lessons to Teach Kids by Age 10

One of our biggest responsibilities as parents is to raise children who can become healthy and productive members of society. Ultimately, they should have the skills they need to thrive in the outside world on their own. To give your children the best shot at one day becoming capable adults, teach them the following life lessons by the time they reach about 10 years of age.... Read More...

5 Fun Hobbies to Help You Release Stress

The importance of hobbies for stress release is evident - when we struggle to find time for ourselves and recharge, our stress levels are off the charts, that's when it's crucial to slow down and seriously consider developing new interests and finding relaxing hobbies for stress release. Once you have found an activity that you are truly passionate about, it will be easier for you to take a step back from the stresses and strains of daily life. It might take a while, but eventually, you are sure to find something suitable and focus on that. Below are five hobbies that I tried and found wonderful for reducing stress levels!... Read More...

Are You Really THAT Busy to Enjoy Your Life?

Pausing; slowing down; reflecting; writing, experiences that deeply nourish my soul, are stolen by my louder, more urgent, fear of not having enough time, and not getting all of my ‘work’ done. As the thought swell rises, I feel my chest tighten, my breath shortens, the space between thoughts getting smaller, and the all-too-familiar anxiety and irritability set in. I become a less expanded version of myself: stressed, tight, and withheld.... Read More...

You Can Find True Happiness: 6 Helpful Tips

Some of us might assume that happiness is as natural as day is to night, and so it should be. But for some others, like I used to be, if you’ve never known how to be happy, or if you’ve always been snuffed when you appeared happy, you start to learn that it’s not right to be happy. Worse still, if your life has just been a series of unfortunate events and traumas, you simply can’t feel happy...... Read More...

Tech That Makes Your Life Easier

Unfortunately, saying no isn't always an option and instead more gets added to our list. We may not be able to slow down to the well-deserved rest we’re looking for, but we can take steps to make our life easier. Why not start with some fun tech tools that simplify time in the kitchen to relaxing at work. Here’s how to get started.... Read More...

How to Manage Workplace Stress in 5 Easy Steps

Everyone is different with unique stress triggers of their own as well as ways of dealing with stress. However, work is one common trigger that many of us share. Whether or not you enjoy your job, anything from the desire to do better, to deadlines, probably make you feel anxious regularly. Too often, that anxiousness can build itself up into stress in no time. This is why today, I want to talk to you about 5 tried (by me) and tested things that can help relieve your work-related stress.... Read More...

Trust Interrupted: One Choice You Need to Make After Betrayal

Trust Interrupted. When someone breaks your trust, betrays you, your first reaction is mild disbelief. Back in 2003, In my first unpublished book, I noted that trust is a precious brick of gold too heavy to place in someones shaking hands… it appeared to be true over the years – I’d give that ‘golden brick of trust’waiting for it to drop, and as all self-fulfilling prophecies = it would come true. Time in and again.... Read More...

Pay Attention: 5 Thinking Patterns That Don’t Serve You

Critiquing someone’s thinking patterns is seen as rude and quite frankly, a lot of the time it won’t make a difference. That’s because, as humans, there are a few incorrect thinking patterns that we find ourselves feeding into because societal cues and our own experiences have told us it’s okay to. “Everyone must come to the realization of what thoughts do not serve them,” I explained. Here are some such thinking patterns.... Read More...

How an International Exchange Can Make Your Life Better

I’ve always cherished my dual background, as having both Norwegian and French ancestry has given me a deeper understanding of what it means to safeguard your roots while yearning to explore other cultures. Since I grew up in the far north, where summer days never end, and winter nights persist for weeks, my inner Viking craved for sunshine. So, despite my family’s complaints, I embarked on a student exchange journey all the way to the other hemisphere, where sunshine steals a better part of the year and I strongly believed there was an unspoken promise of happiness no matter where you land.... Read More...

The Ultimate Guide to Becoming Your Best Self

Before we dive into the colorful world of self-exploration and self-discovery, I would like to briefly explain what might otherwise become a misunderstanding. While aware of the following principles, I am nowhere near my best self, and yet I have always been no less than that, and I have a feeling that you are likely in the same conundrum.... Read More...

A Simple Way to Change the World… and actually enjoy it

Most of us live in cultures which support “misery loves company.” We don’t want to feel alone in our fears and our sorrows. But what if we spent more time sharing our successes and our conquered fears? What if we spoke more of our beautiful friendships and relationships, as well as and the moments we meet strangers who make us think twice about our place and our purpose? What would that be like?... Read More...

Want to Bust Your New Year’s Resolutions? Do this

Time is running so fast! Can you believe that it’s already September? It’s time do some goals checklist and check on your New Year’s resolutions you’ve set for this year. There are still three months plus left, so there is still the time to devote to these goals. Do not recycle your New Year’s resolutions in January next year, but instead commit to achieving those goals this year. You can do it. Here's how.... Read More...

Quitting This Will Make You Feel Calmer and Peaceful

Despite my attempts to limit the impact of the news cycle, a 6-week vacation this year proved I was being exposed to a lot more than I realized. Some of the destinations through which I traveled had limited or no access to wifi and on top of that I had not paid for an extension of my cell data for international travel so I was essentially cut off from the online world for most parts of a day if not all of it.... Read More...

How to Build Your Confidence After a Life-Altering Event

Hands up if you’ve ever had a traumatic experience that you felt changed you. I’ll go first: in 2010 I had my colon removed due to cancer, and shortly after that I found out I had Lynch syndrome, which is a genetic condition that makes me more likely to get certain types of cancer in the future. I’ve written a lot about these experiences, particularly about how they have affected me emotionally. I’ve also thought a lot about how they have changed me as a person, and I’ve come to the conclusion that it hasn’t all been negative. In some ways, I’ve even changed for the better. Here are three things to think about that may help you feel better about your bad experiences too, whatever those may be.... Read More...

8 Amazing Habits to Improve Positivity In Your Life

Having a positive outlook on life is perhaps the most important habit aiming towards the belief of how everything can always change for the best. In the face of adversity and difficulties, it can be hard to remain calm and optimistic, which is why just like everything that requires effort in life, it ends up paying off.... Read More...

6 Ways Poor Sleep Can Sink Your Relationship

When it comes to things in life we cherish, our relationships hit the top tiers of our lists. If you are fortunate enough to have a partner in life that shares your dreams and hopes for the future, how you treat each other is important. As much as we wish that being in love was easy it isn’t, so every chance we get to make our love lives smoother, we’ll take it.... Read More...

How to Stop Apologizing For Everything You Do

Apologizing is a weak attempt at a quick fix. We hate to rock the boat so when we do, we wave the magic wand frantically while chanting, “I’m sorry!” with the unsureness of Ron Weasley. But, over-apologizing is not an admission of the heart--it’s fluff as useless as a magic wand. And, while, sometimes, “I’m sorry” needs to be said, most of the time, it is better to refrain.... Read More...

Get Smarter: 3 Powerful Brain Hacks to Skyrocket Your IQ

The human brain is astounding.  Brain research continues, almost daily, to excite us and challenge our formal understanding of what is really going on within. We used to think that we had access to only 10% of our brainpower.  This, of course, is entirely misunderstood and is a fact that continues to be misused and misquoted. Let me explain this statement to expose the nature of this conspiracy that continues to limit our thinking and gives us doubt.... Read More...

How to be at Peace When Your World Turns to Chaos

I was hit from every angle but discovered that this was a fight I could win. I could give up or take it head on. It never was easy, except when I was sleeping, but I was determined to come out of it with myself intact. I started asking myself how the future would look? I wondered if I should envision it with a lesser hope to protect myself from the worst case scenario. Or should I envision better than ever things for my future instead?... Read More...

How to Explain Anxiety to Someone Who Doesn’t Get it

When we talk to people suffering from anxiety, most of them would describe this as a feeling of deep dread, apprehension of doom and gloom. It is a part of 'fight or flight' response which is a natural reaction to events we find rather stressful; it helps us deal with various demanding situations like before delivering a speech and getting exposed in front of a massive audience, or studying and trying to pass the excruciatingly important exam. In fairness, short-term anxiety can help us stay more focused and alert which could be useful when dealing with perceived threat, but long-term anxiety has a harmful impact on the body and the mind. ... Read More...

Dreams Come True, But if You Don’t Ask, the Answer is Always No!

If we go after our dreams and give it a try, there is no guaranty that we will make it happen. But, by trying, we will create a possibility for ourselves to make it happen! Bon the other hand, if we do not give it a try, we will not even create that possibility for ourselves, and therefore, the only guarantee we have is that it will never become true for us!... Read More...

How to Turn Depression Into a Powerful Tool for Creativity

There are a lot of times in your life where things do not go your way. Every person has different criteria and way of dealing with things. Some get out of trouble without having to even ask for help; while others may suffer so much that they start getting bouts of depression marked by periods of anxiety and inner turmoil. There are multiple ways to battle depression and live a healthy life, and even though depression affects all of us differently, it has its effects more on a creative person.... Read More...

How to Cope With Panic Attack

Panic + Fear = Powerless. An equation that has frequently been added up in my head! Anyone who has ever suffered from panic attacks (even if you have only had one once) will know they’re hard to forget. Not to mention tough to manage. In this post, I hope to be able to share my experiences of panic attacks and give some advice on how to live life alongside these unpredictable moments.... Read More...

One Thing You Should Know About Overcoming Eating Disorder

It was November and I was sat there in a waiting room at the front of an inpatient mental health adolescent hospital in Bristol. My parents sat either side of me. All of us were quite anxious and a bit on edge. The last 24 hours hung over us, my heart ECG coming back as bad and a huge family argument about what was right for me. I guess the reality was that those arguments had pretty much been my life for the last year or so. Ever since my parents had decided to interfere with my eating and made me go to CAMHs.  ... Read More...

How to Have Effective Conversation

In this world, everyone likes to be heard, but few seem to stop talking long enough to listen. More often than not, as soon as someone starts to speak, we are guilty of spending our internal energy on mustering up something awesome to say in response. Active listening is a lost art to the excessive barking of Dodo birds.... Read More...

6 Tips to Support Your Loved One During Recovery

Everybody knows someone. From your own family, from your circle of friends, from your workplace, from the community you live in - someone who is struggling with addiction - alcohol, social drugs, prescription drugs, so the list goes on. I know plenty of “someones,” but those are the circles I move in. In a way, I always have.... Read More...

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