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5 Helpful Tips to Start Every Day on a Positive Note

One of the most important things to starting every day right and on a positive note is what are our last thoughts are we go to sleep and what are our first thoughts when we wake.  Most of us don’t even give it a second thought, I know I never used to..  I just stumbled through life accepting life as it was and my mood was my mood.  I didn’t realize then that I could control my mood that I could decide what mood I would wake up in!

How to Alleviate Anxiety: Use These 5 Helpful Techniques

Everyone’s experience anxiety at least once in their lives and it can easily become paralyzing in the right conditions, making us feel like we’re out of control. Focusing on work becomes harder, traveling any distance is panic-inducing, and everyday tasks can feel like impossible tests. We are, however, able to pull ourselves out of these episodes by using grounding techniques.

4 Effective Ways to Eliminate Negative Emotions

At a certain point, I stopped counting the number of times people told me to “think positively” in order to cope with my sorrows. And while I admire those who have a predisposition towards such a state of mind that is naturally transformed from negative into positive, I’ve always found it almost impossible to achieve that peace of mind.

Havingtimers, Welcome! Thank’s For Joining The Family!

Havingtimers, our amazing guys and girls, thank you ALL so much for joining this global havingtime family! We cannot thank you enough for sharing your incredible stories, and challenges, and inspiration learning from each other, keeping each other stronger and supported in this ever changing world where happiness often can take a back seat to the breakneck speed of life.

How to Speak Out: Why It’s Okay to Not be Okay

Through these apps and social media, many of us pretend that our lives are perfect. I’m not innocent either! So many times I have felt pressured to post on my Instagram just to keep up face even though I am having a real rough time. Whack a ridiculously filtered selfie up on your page, and everyone is none the wiser. But everybody knows – nobody’s life is perfect. So why are we striving so hard to pretend that we are blemish free when we all secretly know that some days we just want to crawl back into bed and cry all day?

How to Create a Beautiful and Exciting Life

If you are “obsessing” over Instagram pictures and social media little too much, that is an indicator that you are actually lacking fun, adventure, travel, excitement, joy, beauty in our own life. Your soul and heart desires that you live an Instagram kind of life: travel more, pursue your own dreams, experience more fun, joy, adventures… You also can create beautiful, happy, successful, fulfilled life for yourself which you’ll love, just like those Instagram bloggers and influencers that you are following. You only need to decide that you will not settle for mediocre life and that you will go after your dreams, commit to work hard and follow the right strategy to do it.

Struggling With Stress? Learn How to Deal With it Better

I see often see stress as our not-so-friendly neighbor that enters our lives without knocking. Also, stress can be beneficial (eustress); or we could experience bad stress (distress), both could impact our life for the better or worse. I’m here to talk about distress and ways that we can cope when we unexpectedly experience it in our life.

The top 5 Regrets in Life You Should Avoid

Read the list of top 5 regrets in life and imagine what it would look like to live a life without those regrets: not living simply to meet the expectations of others; giving yourself permission to rest and relax; courageously telling people what you are really feeling; calling up a friend to say hello; enjoying life in the moment without worrying about the future.

Tackling Insomnia: How to Get a Good Night’s Sleep

Can't sleep? Thinking too much? If you’ve ever had insomnia you probably know how sleep problems can affect your wellbeing, in particular, your mood and anxiety levels. Thinking often plays a role in maintaining sleep problems, such as insomnia. Today, I’m going to walk you through what sleep problems or insomnia look like and then how to address problematic thinking styles that contribute to sleep problems.

How to Quickly Identify the Things you Need to Let Go of

We can't hope to truly move on without releasing the ties and anchors that hold us down. It can be hurtful to find out that we are the holders of the key to release our leg, but I can promise that once you open the lock and release your emotional baggage, you will see happiness manifest and know that you empowered yourself to take the step. You are stronger than you can ever imagine. Begin today with basic honesty.