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Learning the Importance of Valuing Your Own Choices

I struggled to find myself during my youth; to be brutally honest, I’m still searching. My life is a work in progress. As long as I am moving forward, I feel I am making progress. Have you ever given in to what others think about you, your life and your choices? Did you regret it afterwards because it wasn’t the right thing to do? I have - too many times to count. I cannot fathom why I would think someone else knows what is best for me in any given situation. Why didn’t I trust my own judgment? I often wonder if it’s because I could hold someone else accountable if things didn’t turn out well. If I screwed up and made the wrong choice, I’d have no one to blame but myself. The burden of making a choice was off of me if I followed the advice of others. I didn’t want to be ridiculed for making a bad choice. No one wants to hear, “I told you so.” ... Read More...

6 Steps Towards Peace and Contentment

Once upon a time, there was a season for resolutions and realignment. Nowadays, that season is every day. This shift of focus created a powerful revolution in my life. I started being nice to myself, forgiving the blemishes, leaving room for growth and encouraging the best. It was a love revolution. The ugly parts suddenly weren’t so bad, and the bad parts really weren’t so bad after all. Best of all, I felt – well – perfect. Perfect just as is. How did I do it? By following these basic steps.... ... Read More...

3 Things That Really Make Life Worth Living

What Makes Life Worth Living? Things that make life worth living? How to Make Life Worth Living. I guess we grew accustomed to define ourselves in terms of the things that we own – things that make us feel special and worthy. Things that become an extended version of ourselves. We also live our lives expecting "big moments" to come and blow our minds away so we can forget about our ordinary and boring day-to-day life... Does it sound familiar?... Read More...

How to Deal With Emotional Baggage Effectively

All That You Can't Leave Behind...Why can’t you move on and let the past go? What is it with us and that enormous emotional baggage that we tend to carry around? Imagine yourself standing in the heavy pouring rain with an empty bucket. The longer we stand there holding the bucket, the heavier it gets. It gets heavier rather quickly, doesn't it? How long can we hold it for? There comes a point in time when we need to release it before it gets too overwhelming...... Read More...

16 Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances of Getting Back Together

I've always maintained that fresh heartbreak leads people to make all kinds of poor decisions. These are things to stay away from if you're struggling with getting over a breakup. I've done every single thing on this list, so if you've already stumbled and made a few of these breakup mistakes, know that you're in good company. If you've been broken up with, here are 16 things to avoid doing at all costs. 16 Breakup Mistakes That Kill Your Chances of Getting Back Together... Read More...

How to Wake Up in a Good Mood: One Simple Reminder

What is the first thing you think about when you open your eyes in the morning? Do you normally feel anxious about the scenarios and the routes your day might take? Do your thoughts run a marathon down your to-do list? I believe that the morning is the most powerful part of the day. What we put into it we get out of it. Think yeast and dough. If we charge our morning with positive thoughts of gratitude – the feel good mode arises making us energetic and happy. The more we focus on positivity, the better we feel...... Read More...

Tough Times: On Searching and Finding The Strength That You Need

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. There are many people that I have known, and many that I know still, who are searching for something – that thing that is going to make them happy, that idea that will tip the scales in the direction of abundance, that person who make them feel like they matter. ... Read More...

Changing Today for a Better Tomorrow: 5 Simple Steps

Granted, nothing stands still and everything stirs in the constant flow of everlasting change. Whether we like it or not, everything's changing. Resistance? It's pointless. The question is simple: are we interested to introduce some mild yet mindful changes into our daily life? Are we interested changing our ways today for a better tomorrow? Is it really necessary? How happy we are today? How happy we are with things that happen around us?... Read More...

Accepting and Loving Yourself: Exactly the Thing That You Need

I believe narcissism is a big piece of the puzzle. For a long time, I held back from loving myself because I thought it was selfish and narcissistic. I thought to be a good person; you should concentrate on loving and taking care of other people. I thought if I was a good enough person, then someone else would discover my goodness and maybe decide I was loveable too. Then, I thought, I would feel loved. I understand now that being narcissistic is actually the exact opposite of self-love. Being narcissistic means living in service to the person you think you “should” be, rather than unconditionally loving yourself just the way you are! Do you find it challenging to truly love and take care of yourself?... Read More...

Extrovert & Introvert: The Key to Understanding Both

An introvert is a person who is absolutely cozy and comfortable within his permanent shell. A shy person is a person who has his temporary shell which he would love to lose at any given moment. Introverts find their comfort in calm low key places and they would rather read a book than go and dance in the club. Extensive socialising for introverts is an emotionally draining experience – shy people on the other hand do not always prefer solitude. They are just timid to connect with other people.... Read More...

Attract the Love You Desire With the Power of Choice

I went to Brazil to find myself, and I found love. Was it always easy? NO. There were many seemingly insurmountable obstacles to John and I being together and making it work. And 10 years later, that insurmountable love is brighter, stronger and lovelier than ever. When we make a commitment to choose love—just unabashedly choose love—the universe will answer us. Does it always show up in the perfect little package we expect? No, not always. But if our energy and vibration is pure, consistent and true—it will come to us. Love is our natural state. Love is the truth of who we really are. Love is our birthright.... Read More...

How to Decide: Making a Decision Before Someone Else Made it For You

The lesson, which I hope he learnt, is if you don’t make your own decisions, there will always be someone ready to make them for you. And other people will decide based on their agenda, not yours. I’d like to say that I had this wisdom when I was fourteen. I didn’t. I’ve learnt the hard way. Being a go-with-the-flow kind of person, there have been times when I’ve given away my decisions to other people and it’s never ended well. Each time I’ve let someone else make a choice for me, my life path has changed and I’m following someone else’s map, not my own. All it takes are a few twists and turns to find yourself on an unfamiliar road with no idea where it’s leading.... Read More...

How to Use TODAY to Make TOMORROW Better

Have you ever had a bad day that seemed to be longer than usual and completely out of control? Have you ever found yourself in the storm of one lousy situation which was fast turning into worse? And the day seemed to be so long that the only thing you dreamed about was coming back home, falling on your bed and hitting your pillow with buzzy head overwhelmed with everything... It happens sometimes. It happens to everyone without exceptions. When your day starts on a positive vibe then turns into something extremely opposite! Although it's hard to believe in the moment, but the good news is that it never lasts forever.... Read More...

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