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How to Become The Best Version of Yourself

When you’re in your last days on Earth, you’ll never, ever think to yourself “I wish I’d waited longer.” Time and life won’t hold off until you’re ready. Wrapped up in our “success bubbles”, it’s easy to forget we’re not invincible. That something could happen in an hour/month/year from now that could make your lifelong dreams impossible. Take it from me. I woke up one morning to arthritis that kept me bedridden for six months. For the first time, all those things I’d been waiting for – a life between NYC and NZ, a career I loved, and the happiness I craved – almost disappeared. Are you ready for that reality? Then there are the long-term effects of life dreams on the back burner. We gradually become more and more stuck in place, and watch our motivation fizzle. We become frustrated, bored, and run down.... Read More...

Stressed and Overwhelmed: 5 Ways to Calm your Overachiever

There was so much that begged for my attention and so much that I needed to get done if I wanted to take my industry by storm... But then something happened. The inspiration came and gone. I was left with the distinct desire of wanting to do nothing at all. I gave myself permission to ‘take a day off’. But it turned out the desire to do nothing had other plans, setting up shop in my mind for the rest of the entire week! I couldn’t believe it. As a world-class overachiever, I was disappointed with myself. This was no time to take breaks! This was time to take action. Yet even s0, I couldn’t help but hear a small voice whisper: RELAX.... Read More...

Deep Listening: Taking a Sure Path to Authentic Relationships

I found the deep listening exercise challenging but also incredibly liberating! I was no longer focused on myself. I was instead focused on the storytellers, and my purpose was to seek a deep understanding of their experiences. The Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh has spoken often of the power of deep listening. He explained: “Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of another person. You can call it compassionate listening. You listen with only one purpose: to help him or her to empty his heart.” ... Read More...

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser & Take Control of Your life

For a long time I turned away from any recognition and achievement… I thought I was being spiritually enlightened, but now I know it’s because I was ashamed of my need to be loved. For the first 26 years of my life I had been heavily focused on competitive achievement in horse riding. I understand now I wasn’t always doing it for the right reasons... The wins were to appease my gods - teachers, trainers, owners and bosses. I was actually seeking a metaphoric gold star to prove, not that I was good at riding, but that I was worthy of loving and existing.... Read More...

7 Secret Actions to Boost Your Self-Esteem

In a non-egotistical way, I now have more self-confidence and love for myself than I could ever imagine, I am no longer socially awkward and I’m now holding seminars across Australia. How was I able to go from being shy and struggling to hold a conversation with one person, to being able to speak for three days in a row for 12 hours to hundreds of people… The answer? Self love. I want to reveal my secrets to instantly boost your self-confidence to help you not only love yourself more but to increase the quality of your life.... Read More...

Getting Things Done Even if You Don’t Feel Like It

We strive to finish something important when in mid air comes a sense that YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE DOING IT. It happens to the best of us - you, me and probably even the most motivated person on Earth – Oprah Winfrey! We have all been there facing the list of things to do when we didn't feel like doing any of them. At times, it feels like you don't even want to think about that bundle of tasks...And the time is ticking, the pile becomes even bigger and we still don't feel like doing it.... Read More...

Staying Happy No Matter What: 5 Simple Steps

Life is hectic. Sometimes it becomes so overwhelming that we hardly have a chance to catch our breath trying to keep our mind calm and stress-free. Deadlines, new projects, new assignments, goals, dreams and our desire to succeed make our mind race against the time exhausting it in the process. We go to bed with a list of things we failed to do; we wake up with a list that doubles. The whole experience is extremely energy draining, and it establishes stress and unrest in your life.... Read More...

How to Stop Worrying Effective Immediately

How many of us occupy themselves with pointless worrying? When we are in the middle of it, it seems impossible to get a handle on the situation and turn things around. It's like going downstream in a roaring mountain river in a canoe without a paddle. And the stream of worries just takes you down with no way of stopping. Or so it seems that way. But it's far from the truth. And there is this awesome technique you should try that works...... Read More...

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