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How to Manage Workplace Stress in 5 Easy Steps

Everyone is different with unique stress triggers of their own as well as ways of dealing with stress. However, work is one common trigger that many of us share. Whether or not you enjoy your job, anything from the desire to do better, to deadlines, probably make you feel anxious regularly. Too often, that anxiousness can build itself up into stress in no time. This is why today, I want to talk to you about 5 tried (by me) and tested things that can help relieve your work-related stress.... Read More...

Trust Interrupted: One Choice You Need to Make After Betrayal

Trust Interrupted. When someone breaks your trust, betrays you, your first reaction is mild disbelief. Back in 2003, In my first unpublished book, I noted that trust is a precious brick of gold too heavy to place in someones shaking hands… it appeared to be true over the years – I’d give that ‘golden brick of trust’waiting for it to drop, and as all self-fulfilling prophecies = it would come true. Time in and again.... Read More...

Pay Attention: 5 Thinking Patterns That Don’t Serve You

Critiquing someone’s thinking patterns is seen as rude and quite frankly, a lot of the time it won’t make a difference. That’s because, as humans, there are a few incorrect thinking patterns that we find ourselves feeding into because societal cues and our own experiences have told us it’s okay to. “Everyone must come to the realization of what thoughts do not serve them,” I explained. Here are some such thinking patterns.... Read More...

How an International Exchange Can Make Your Life Better

I’ve always cherished my dual background, as having both Norwegian and French ancestry has given me a deeper understanding of what it means to safeguard your roots while yearning to explore other cultures. Since I grew up in the far north, where summer days never end, and winter nights persist for weeks, my inner Viking craved for sunshine. So, despite my family’s complaints, I embarked on a student exchange journey all the way to the other hemisphere, where sunshine steals a better part of the year and I strongly believed there was an unspoken promise of happiness no matter where you land.... Read More...

The Ultimate Guide to Becoming Your Best Self

Before we dive into the colorful world of self-exploration and self-discovery, I would like to briefly explain what might otherwise become a misunderstanding. While aware of the following principles, I am nowhere near my best self, and yet I have always been no less than that, and I have a feeling that you are likely in the same conundrum.... Read More...

A Simple Way to Change the World… and actually enjoy it

Most of us live in cultures which support “misery loves company.” We don’t want to feel alone in our fears and our sorrows. But what if we spent more time sharing our successes and our conquered fears? What if we spoke more of our beautiful friendships and relationships, as well as and the moments we meet strangers who make us think twice about our place and our purpose? What would that be like?... Read More...

Want to Bust Your New Year’s Resolutions? Do this

Time is running so fast! Can you believe that it’s already September? It’s time do some goals checklist and check on your New Year’s resolutions you’ve set for this year. There are still three months plus left, so there is still the time to devote to these goals. Do not recycle your New Year’s resolutions in January next year, but instead commit to achieving those goals this year. You can do it. Here's how.... Read More...

Quitting This Will Make You Feel Calmer and Peaceful

Despite my attempts to limit the impact of the news cycle, a 6-week vacation this year proved I was being exposed to a lot more than I realized. Some of the destinations through which I traveled had limited or no access to wifi and on top of that I had not paid for an extension of my cell data for international travel so I was essentially cut off from the online world for most parts of a day if not all of it.... Read More...

How to Build Your Confidence After a Life-Altering Event

Hands up if you’ve ever had a traumatic experience that you felt changed you. I’ll go first: in 2010 I had my colon removed due to cancer, and shortly after that I found out I had Lynch syndrome, which is a genetic condition that makes me more likely to get certain types of cancer in the future. I’ve written a lot about these experiences, particularly about how they have affected me emotionally. I’ve also thought a lot about how they have changed me as a person, and I’ve come to the conclusion that it hasn’t all been negative. In some ways, I’ve even changed for the better. Here are three things to think about that may help you feel better about your bad experiences too, whatever those may be.... Read More...

8 Amazing Habits to Improve Positivity In Your Life

Having a positive outlook on life is perhaps the most important habit aiming towards the belief of how everything can always change for the best. In the face of adversity and difficulties, it can be hard to remain calm and optimistic, which is why just like everything that requires effort in life, it ends up paying off.... Read More...

How to Stop Apologizing For Everything You Do

Apologizing is a weak attempt at a quick fix. We hate to rock the boat so when we do, we wave the magic wand frantically while chanting, “I’m sorry!” with the unsureness of Ron Weasley. But, over-apologizing is not an admission of the heart--it’s fluff as useless as a magic wand. And, while, sometimes, “I’m sorry” needs to be said, most of the time, it is better to refrain.... Read More...

Get Smarter: 3 Powerful Brain Hacks to Skyrocket Your IQ

The human brain is astounding.  Brain research continues, almost daily, to excite us and challenge our formal understanding of what is really going on within. We used to think that we had access to only 10% of our brainpower.  This, of course, is entirely misunderstood and is a fact that continues to be misused and misquoted. Let me explain this statement to expose the nature of this conspiracy that continues to limit our thinking and gives us doubt.... Read More...

How to be at Peace When Your World Turns to Chaos

I was hit from every angle but discovered that this was a fight I could win. I could give up or take it head on. It never was easy, except when I was sleeping, but I was determined to come out of it with myself intact. I started asking myself how the future would look? I wondered if I should envision it with a lesser hope to protect myself from the worst case scenario. Or should I envision better than ever things for my future instead?... Read More...

How to Explain Anxiety to Someone Who Doesn’t Get it

When we talk to people suffering from anxiety, most of them would describe this as a feeling of deep dread, apprehension of doom and gloom. It is a part of 'fight or flight' response which is a natural reaction to events we find rather stressful; it helps us deal with various demanding situations like before delivering a speech and getting exposed in front of a massive audience, or studying and trying to pass the excruciatingly important exam. In fairness, short-term anxiety can help us stay more focused and alert which could be useful when dealing with perceived threat, but long-term anxiety has a harmful impact on the body and the mind. ... Read More...

Dreams Come True, But if You Don’t Ask, the Answer is Always No!

If we go after our dreams and give it a try, there is no guaranty that we will make it happen. But, by trying, we will create a possibility for ourselves to make it happen! Bon the other hand, if we do not give it a try, we will not even create that possibility for ourselves, and therefore, the only guarantee we have is that it will never become true for us!... Read More...

How to Turn Depression Into a Powerful Tool for Creativity

There are a lot of times in your life where things do not go your way. Every person has different criteria and way of dealing with things. Some get out of trouble without having to even ask for help; while others may suffer so much that they start getting bouts of depression marked by periods of anxiety and inner turmoil. There are multiple ways to battle depression and live a healthy life, and even though depression affects all of us differently, it has its effects more on a creative person.... Read More...

How to Cope With Panic Attack

Panic + Fear = Powerless. An equation that has frequently been added up in my head! Anyone who has ever suffered from panic attacks (even if you have only had one once) will know they’re hard to forget. Not to mention tough to manage. In this post, I hope to be able to share my experiences of panic attacks and give some advice on how to live life alongside these unpredictable moments.... Read More...

One Thing You Should Know About Overcoming Eating Disorder

It was November and I was sat there in a waiting room at the front of an inpatient mental health adolescent hospital in Bristol. My parents sat either side of me. All of us were quite anxious and a bit on edge. The last 24 hours hung over us, my heart ECG coming back as bad and a huge family argument about what was right for me. I guess the reality was that those arguments had pretty much been my life for the last year or so. Ever since my parents had decided to interfere with my eating and made me go to CAMHs.  ... Read More...

How to Have Effective Conversation

In this world, everyone likes to be heard, but few seem to stop talking long enough to listen. More often than not, as soon as someone starts to speak, we are guilty of spending our internal energy on mustering up something awesome to say in response. Active listening is a lost art to the excessive barking of Dodo birds.... Read More...

How to Help Your Loved One with Mental Health Problems

We like to comfort ourselves with the thought that medicine has advanced so much that few things are still a mystery and that most, if not all, diseases can be resolved. There is only a category of diseases that still cause fear, confusion and anxiety, the ones about which people talk in a low voice – mental disorders. However, even such an extreme situation as having or living with a loved one who has a mental disorder can be survived with the right approach.... Read More...

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