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Tough Times: On Searching and Finding The Strength That You Need

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. There are many people that I have known, and many that I know still, who are searching for something – that thing that is going to make them happy, that idea that will tip the scales in the direction of abundance, that person who make them feel like they matter. ... Read More...

Accepting and Loving Yourself: Exactly the Thing That You Need

I believe narcissism is a big piece of the puzzle. For a long time, I held back from loving myself because I thought it was selfish and narcissistic. I thought to be a good person; you should concentrate on loving and taking care of other people. I thought if I was a good enough person, then someone else would discover my goodness and maybe decide I was loveable too. Then, I thought, I would feel loved. I understand now that being narcissistic is actually the exact opposite of self-love. Being narcissistic means living in service to the person you think you “should” be, rather than unconditionally loving yourself just the way you are! Do you find it challenging to truly love and take care of yourself?... Read More...

Extrovert & Introvert: The Key to Understanding Both

An introvert is a person who is absolutely cozy and comfortable within his permanent shell. A shy person is a person who has his temporary shell which he would love to lose at any given moment. Introverts find their comfort in calm low key places and they would rather read a book than go and dance in the club. Extensive socialising for introverts is an emotionally draining experience – shy people on the other hand do not always prefer solitude. They are just timid to connect with other people.... Read More...

Attract the Love You Desire With the Power of Choice

I went to Brazil to find myself, and I found love. Was it always easy? NO. There were many seemingly insurmountable obstacles to John and I being together and making it work. And 10 years later, that insurmountable love is brighter, stronger and lovelier than ever. When we make a commitment to choose love—just unabashedly choose love—the universe will answer us. Does it always show up in the perfect little package we expect? No, not always. But if our energy and vibration is pure, consistent and true—it will come to us. Love is our natural state. Love is the truth of who we really are. Love is our birthright.... Read More...

How to Decide: Making a Decision Before Someone Else Made it For You

The lesson, which I hope he learnt, is if you don’t make your own decisions, there will always be someone ready to make them for you. And other people will decide based on their agenda, not yours. I’d like to say that I had this wisdom when I was fourteen. I didn’t. I’ve learnt the hard way. Being a go-with-the-flow kind of person, there have been times when I’ve given away my decisions to other people and it’s never ended well. Each time I’ve let someone else make a choice for me, my life path has changed and I’m following someone else’s map, not my own. All it takes are a few twists and turns to find yourself on an unfamiliar road with no idea where it’s leading.... Read More...

How to Use TODAY to Make TOMORROW Better

Have you ever had a bad day that seemed to be longer than usual and completely out of control? Have you ever found yourself in the storm of one lousy situation which was fast turning into worse? And the day seemed to be so long that the only thing you dreamed about was coming back home, falling on your bed and hitting your pillow with buzzy head overwhelmed with everything... It happens sometimes. It happens to everyone without exceptions. When your day starts on a positive vibe then turns into something extremely opposite! Although it's hard to believe in the moment, but the good news is that it never lasts forever.... Read More...

How to Become The Best Version of Yourself

When you’re in your last days on Earth, you’ll never, ever think to yourself “I wish I’d waited longer.” Time and life won’t hold off until you’re ready. Wrapped up in our “success bubbles”, it’s easy to forget we’re not invincible. That something could happen in an hour/month/year from now that could make your lifelong dreams impossible. Take it from me. I woke up one morning to arthritis that kept me bedridden for six months. For the first time, all those things I’d been waiting for – a life between NYC and NZ, a career I loved, and the happiness I craved – almost disappeared. Are you ready for that reality? Then there are the long-term effects of life dreams on the back burner. We gradually become more and more stuck in place, and watch our motivation fizzle. We become frustrated, bored, and run down.... Read More...

Stressed and Overwhelmed: 5 Ways to Calm your Overachiever

There was so much that begged for my attention and so much that I needed to get done if I wanted to take my industry by storm... But then something happened. The inspiration came and gone. I was left with the distinct desire of wanting to do nothing at all. I gave myself permission to ‘take a day off’. But it turned out the desire to do nothing had other plans, setting up shop in my mind for the rest of the entire week! I couldn’t believe it. As a world-class overachiever, I was disappointed with myself. This was no time to take breaks! This was time to take action. Yet even s0, I couldn’t help but hear a small voice whisper: RELAX.... Read More...

Deep Listening: Taking a Sure Path to Authentic Relationships

I found the deep listening exercise challenging but also incredibly liberating! I was no longer focused on myself. I was instead focused on the storytellers, and my purpose was to seek a deep understanding of their experiences. The Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh has spoken often of the power of deep listening. He explained: “Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of another person. You can call it compassionate listening. You listen with only one purpose: to help him or her to empty his heart.” ... Read More...

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser & Take Control of Your life

For a long time I turned away from any recognition and achievement… I thought I was being spiritually enlightened, but now I know it’s because I was ashamed of my need to be loved. For the first 26 years of my life I had been heavily focused on competitive achievement in horse riding. I understand now I wasn’t always doing it for the right reasons... The wins were to appease my gods - teachers, trainers, owners and bosses. I was actually seeking a metaphoric gold star to prove, not that I was good at riding, but that I was worthy of loving and existing.... Read More...

Getting Things Done Even if You Don’t Feel Like It

We strive to finish something important when in mid air comes a sense that YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE DOING IT. It happens to the best of us - you, me and probably even the most motivated person on Earth – Oprah Winfrey! We have all been there facing the list of things to do when we didn't feel like doing any of them. At times, it feels like you don't even want to think about that bundle of tasks...And the time is ticking, the pile becomes even bigger and we still don't feel like doing it.... Read More...

Staying Happy No Matter What: 5 Simple Steps

Life is hectic. Sometimes it becomes so overwhelming that we hardly have a chance to catch our breath trying to keep our mind calm and stress-free. Deadlines, new projects, new assignments, goals, dreams and our desire to succeed make our mind race against the time exhausting it in the process. We go to bed with a list of things we failed to do; we wake up with a list that doubles. The whole experience is extremely energy draining, and it establishes stress and unrest in your life.... Read More...

How to Stop Worrying Effective Immediately

How many of us occupy themselves with pointless worrying? When we are in the middle of it, it seems impossible to get a handle on the situation and turn things around. It's like going downstream in a roaring mountain river in a canoe without a paddle. And the stream of worries just takes you down with no way of stopping. Or so it seems that way. But it's far from the truth. And there is this awesome technique you should try that works...... Read More...

10 Reasons You Should NEVER Give Up

Reasons You Should NEVER Give Up. There could be all sorts of different situations in our life when the time comes and we feel that we are about to give up. Sometimes we give up before we even started doing something new. Sometimes we give up just before making this huge breakthrough to success just because we saw how much effort should go through in order to succeed and it can really scare us. Don't give up beforehand! As long as you are going to be thinking anyway, think big. Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'! ... Read More...

7 Love Languages

Love is a choice you make everyday. We created different languages to speak up and make our mind in front of others, we created tons of devices to communicate with each other. But somehow we are still missing something. A deeper understanding. When it goes to building a strong and loving relationship with our other half - we are often trapped on the battlefield of love trying to figure out the best way possible to make things work. So what's causing those problems to begin with? Do we have the keys? Do we speak the love languages? And how many of those languages are out there to begin with?! They are as numerous as there are people out there in the world. But let's narrow it down to 7. Let's discuss in this post today 7 love languages we come up with as a basic to every family platform.... Read More...

10 Simple Habits to Improve Self-Esteem

Habits to Improve Self-Esteem. There are tons of articles out there claiming capability to change your life for the better, but the truth is that it's completely up to you. Or not. Let me paraphrase that. In order to change anything in your life you need to look up for your old limiting habits first. Yes, that's right. Let me suggest you the ones I found helpful in my own self-esteem improvement.... Read More...

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