Let Go

Letting go of the past and things that held us hostage

How to Remarkably Improve Your Life with Minimalism

Simplicity has its beauty, and it always boils down to eliminating the excess in our lives. And yet media and society try hard to convince us that having more stuff should be the goal and the answer to anything. But is having more actually improving the quality of our lives? Do more possessions add real value to our days? Do more commitments in our diaries help us feel less overwhelmed? Does always chasing the latest gadget on the market helps us feel happier? Hang on, is having more even feasible, especially for those of us who are struggling to make ends meet and pay monthly bills on time? Many people can barely afford enough, let alone more. That's where Minimalism can help to remarkably improve your life on all levels.... Read More...

3 Effective Ways to Reverse a Toxic Relationship

All of us at least once in our life experienced being in a toxic relationship. You probably know what it's like to move in and out of a state of total denial about how unhealthy and codependent it truly is. Perhaps, at one moment, you feel at the top of the world, yet at another, you are making tiny excuses trying to justify a partner’s absolutely inexcusable behavior. So is there a way to reverse a toxic relationship? ... Read More...

Helpful Life Skill: How to Avoid an Ugly Argument

Have you ever felt GOOD after an ugly argument? Me neither. Even on the rare (really rare) occasion when I was able to “agree to disagree” with whoever sat on the opposite end of that particular opinion scale, I still felt annoyed. Unhappy. It all felt unfinished… It makes sense because arguments are never based on interest, curiosity or any sense of mutual benefit.... Read More...

5 Steps That Will Turn Your Breakup Into a Breakthrough

Have you ever begged someone to stay? Like, literally got on the floor and begged? I did that once after I discovered my husband was having an affair. I didn’t beg straight away. First I was angry. I ranted and raged and then I questioned; “Do you love her? Was she better than me? Is she beautiful?”  I asked all the crazy things that you want to know when your heart has been broken into a million little pieces.... Read More...

Trust Interrupted: One Choice You Need to Make After Betrayal

Trust Interrupted. When someone breaks your trust, betrays you, your first reaction is mild disbelief. Back in 2003, In my first unpublished book, I noted that trust is a precious brick of gold too heavy to place in someones shaking hands… it appeared to be true over the years – I’d give that ‘golden brick of trust’waiting for it to drop, and as all self-fulfilling prophecies = it would come true. Time in and again.... Read More...

Pay Attention: 5 Thinking Patterns That Don’t Serve You

Critiquing someone’s thinking patterns is seen as rude and quite frankly, a lot of the time it won’t make a difference. That’s because, as humans, there are a few incorrect thinking patterns that we find ourselves feeding into because societal cues and our own experiences have told us it’s okay to. “Everyone must come to the realization of what thoughts do not serve them,” I explained. Here are some such thinking patterns.... Read More...

Releasing Resentment: How to Stop Swallowing Poison From the Past

Although normal, resentment is only useful when occurring in the short term. When it persists in the longer term, simmering under the surface, it becomes toxic for the individual experiencing it and also impacts on others they interact with. Like the old saying goes “Resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die”. A bitter person is usually someone who has been swallowing the poison of resentment for too long.... Read More...

Why Giving Up on Someone is Sometimes The Best Thing for You

giving up on a loved one is always an experience that shakes us to our core and you can be sure that your mind will do anything to dissuade you from going through with it. Thankfully, there are still people who decide they don’t want to live a half-life anymore, they turn away from half-love, half-respect, half-peace they struggle to have with someone in order to be whole on their own.... Read More...

How to Speak Out: Why It’s Okay to Not be Okay

Through these apps and social media, many of us pretend that our lives are perfect. I’m not innocent either! So many times I have felt pressured to post on my Instagram just to keep up face even though I am having a real rough time. Whack a ridiculously filtered selfie up on your page, and everyone is none the wiser. But everybody knows – nobody’s life is perfect. So why are we striving so hard to pretend that we are blemish free when we all secretly know that some days we just want to crawl back into bed and cry all day?... Read More...

5 Important Things I Learned in Rehab About Self-Confidence

People seemed to like me better when I was on my party-mode, and nobody ever hid those thoughts from me. I went from being the lame, silent kid in class, to be the King. My social circle grew as wide as the whole classroom and I didn’t have to worry about how I really felt because everyone around me was thinking that I was one of the cool ones to be around. Unfortunately, that reputation only lasted for a while.... Read More...

How to Quickly Identify the Things you Need to Let Go of

We can't hope to truly move on without releasing the ties and anchors that hold us down. It can be hurtful to find out that we are the holders of the key to release our leg, but I can promise that once you open the lock and release your emotional baggage, you will see happiness manifest and know that you empowered yourself to take the step. You are stronger than you can ever imagine. Begin today with basic honesty.... Read More...

4 Mind-Bending Secrets of the Process of Change

"If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you at all." Change is that unique spice that gets thrown into the mix of life, and we all get to experience it. And yet, change is not something we tend to get on with easily because most of us have grown up with the notion that change is potentially something "troublesome" or even dangerous when in fact it could be easily just another beginning of a new exciting and exhilarating adventure!... Read More...

How to Unpack Your Emotional Baggage in 5 Easy Steps

After facing a chain of traumatic events in a short space of time and having an outburst of emotions to deal with; I got curious and wanted to look closer into how we process our emotions in the Western society. I discovered that we seem to be polarized in our approach to dealing with our feelings. We either don’t validate them and adopt the position of “I’m fine, really, I’M FINE” through gritted teeth or we’re encouraged to wallow in them and make an identity out of the story, whilst in the background we’re told to shove some pills down our throat to ease the pain.... Read More...

How to Face and Solve Problems in Your Life

What if I tell you that I have seen you every time you tried to hide. Every time you thought of running away or actually did run away because you were too unsure you can face your problems. What if I tell you that I was there when you couldn't stand to fight for what you have always wanted because you thought it was bigger than what you could take. What if I tell you that I knew how you let your problems outgrow you when you decided to avoid them.... Read More...

How to Let Go of the Fear of Uncertainty & Be Free

As a law student and lawyer, I tried to think my way to a better life. I tried to think my way out of my depression. I failed completely. By the time I realized I had to stop thinking, I was mired in student debt, working at a job I hated, and taking pills every day just to get by. I still take antidepressants, but the other things have changed. How? I had to let go of my ruminating, overthinking rational self, and let intuition guide me to the answer. When you listen, the small voice of intuition speaks wise words.... Read More...

Trust Your Path: When It’s Time to Break Free

It’s easy to get swept up in the hype of what everyone else is doing. It’s even more easy to lose yourself when you’re in a group following a certain path. I was part of a group of people who enrolled in a personal development course, and while it was a powerful and life changing course, something inside of me felt off. It was time to break free.... Read More...

How to Get a Little Perspective When Bad Things Happen

We all know that life never happens like you want it to. The good and the bad have their own way of unfolding and it never happens when you expect it to happen. You can try with all your might, but you’ll never be able to control it. Although you don’t have much control over what will happen to you, the one thing you do have complete control over is how you interpret it – your perspective.... Read More...

How to Let Go of the Burdens That Hold You Back

When you think of the phrase 'letting go', it conjures up all sorts of images, thoughts and feelings doesn't it? Freedom, free falling, a sigh of relief, moving forwards, uncertainly - all kinds of things. Learning to know how and when to let go has been a big one for me. Letting go ultimately enables me to stress less, sleep more, feel free and just 'be'. It also brings up fear and uncertainty but for me, that's much better than the stress, angst and anxiety of clinging on. The thing about letting go is that in today's society we're not really conditioned to embrace it. It's all about being proactive and making stuff happen. Also, as someone building a business, there are many things I need to do and goals to achieve and 'letting go' doesn't really support that notion of work, work, work until you succeed! However, what I have found - in all areas of life actually, is that by letting go you let in all the things that in some weird, mystical or mysterious way, work for you so that all that graft doesn't feel quite so much like the 'sweat, blood and tears' we apparently need to endure to get things done.... Read More...

5 Steps to Find Peace After a Painful Breakup

It’s the oldest story in the world: Love is gained, it blooms and then it fades out or is squashed by outside forces. It’s always a learning experience and sometimes lost love can be tragic, visceral and all encompassing. As painful as it may feel at the time, it is a lesson that is acting upon each of us in ways that we can’t always see in the heat of the moment. ... Read More...

How to Stay Calm Even When Times are Tough

How to Stay Calm Even When Times are Tough... It’s the difference between riding the waves on the top of the ocean where it's tumultuous, and having a deeper awareness that you are the ocean, where you do not experience the up and down because you are in the steadiness of the depth. The ups and downs of the ocean still take place, but you do not experience them as tumultuous. The path to knowing who you are is not expecting your life circumstances to turn to gold, it’s the experience of staying in the joy of your beingness no matter what arises...... Read More...

This Will Help You to Recover From a Toxic Friendship

People themselves aren't toxic. Nevertheless, sometimes our temperaments might don't align together and then"toxicity" appears. It's nobody's fault. We might not pay attention, although with time there comes a time when you are taken by surprise discovering something you haven't seen all these years of being friends. Whether it is an overwhelming feeling of being exhausted and emotionally drained after you spent some time together with someone, eventually the veil has to come down.... Read More...

How to Diffuse Any Argument: 3 Helpful Tips

Let's agree for a moment that arguments are pointless. Let's concede that there's not a single person in this world who thinks exactly the way you think, who knows and believes the things you know and believe, nor acts and responds to certain situations specifically in the same manner you would. Obviously, we need to remember this if we want to get along with people.... Read More...

The 3 Ways Squat Toilets Made me a Happier Person

...I just returned to the US after spending a year in China. Unsurprisingly, it was transformative—as travel often tends to be. And as that year began, I knew I wasn’t heading into a serene, picturesque vacation. There would be no top-notch wine, no quaint seaside cottage stays. There would be bodily fluids on the streets, random power outages and pork shavings in everything (everything). And that was okay. I knew that the discomfort would be intermingled with plenty of debauchery and adventure, and I was ready for some boundary-stretching, some comfort zone-breaking...... Read More...

4 Reasons Why Being Alone Doesn’t Mean Lonely

Alone doesn't have to mean lonely. Having just moved to a new place where I only know a few people, I’ve spent a lot of time alone the last few months. At first, I was sad, lonely, even depressed without my friends around. But I’ve been learning that there’s an art to being alone and if you can work on it, it can bring a lot of positivity to your life! Society may tell you that you need a significant other, but I say, tune that out and read this list. Being alone might be just what you need!... Read More...

How to Deal With Emotional Baggage Effectively

All That You Can't Leave Behind...Why can’t you move on and let the past go? What is it with us and that enormous emotional baggage that we tend to carry around? Imagine yourself standing in the heavy pouring rain with an empty bucket. The longer we stand there holding the bucket, the heavier it gets. It gets heavier rather quickly, doesn't it? How long can we hold it for? There comes a point in time when we need to release it before it gets too overwhelming...... Read More...

This Will Help You In Turning a Bad Day Around

I remember being so negative about most days that the bad days slowly started to become a bad life. No matter how Zen we are, we all have bad days, when we just get up on the wrong side of the bed. Some of us have them more, some of us have them less, but we all experience them. There is no need to suffer through a bad day, and just wait for it to end; there are so many little things we can do to help ourselves and also the people around us. I used to get up and feel bad every day. Just all around depressed and anxious about life, and all I wanted to do when I got up was to go back to sleep. I didn’t realize all that I could have done to make my days better. Let’s go through an average day together and see how we can turn bad days around... Read More...

Perfectly Imperfect: Releasing the Shame That Binds You

Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. Every day, we get up and we talk about topics that we are comfortable with. We might chit-chat about a movie we saw over the weekend with a friend or talk about our chances for promotion with our husband. Somehow, we manage to talk about our loves, our hopes, even our failures. What we often don't talk about is that insidious feeling that sometimes festers inside us, that makes us feel like we are nothing, that colours our very being. What we can't talk about is a shame. Where Does Shame Come From? How Do We Get Beyond Our Shame? ... Read More...

Why Busyness Such a Badge of Honor? Discovered!

When we’re busy, we don’t have time to do the work we’re really meant to be doing. We don’t have time to go the extra mile for a client or customer. We don’t have time to make a difference for someone. Busyness acts like an invisible barrier around us, keeping us from getting over-involved, hurt or even from failing. We can’t fail if we’re too busy to start. Why is Busyness Such a Badge of Honour? Has Busyness Become the Ultimate Excuse for Not Making People a Priority in our Lives? ... Read More...

5 Tips to Move Beyond Envy and Start Enjoying Your Life

Envy is the art of counting the other fellow's blessings instead of your own. If we envy someone else, it’s like we’re unconsciously telling the universe we feel less worthy to receive and achieve than someone else, which is, of course, hogwash… I first began to leave envy behind (though this green monster still badgered me for rides home long after I’d attempted to ditch her) once I’d realized these five things...... Read More...

The Root of Envy and How to Cut it Immediately

We see other people going through life passing us by in "better" cars, having better relationships, kids, jobs, travelling adventures, opportunities and a bundle of astonishing achievements... Granted, we don't see the whole story behind the facade of someone else's "perfect" life. What we keep telling ourselves are the stories why we don't have what they have, or even worse, why we don't deserve to have better things in our lives. It's hard to feed an ungrateful wolf – it never seems enough. We go through Facebook updates and wonder even more how come that our friends seem to have more blessings, more joy, more fun... they seem to have it all. That awful feeling with a hot flush of jealousy overtakes our minds and souls and drifts us further away from focusing on the good that we already have in life. We seem to forget all at once that gratitude is the antidote to envy. It's easy to forget it while we are in a slump of envy, but it essential to remember when we are taking action to get out.... Read More...

3 Most Powerful Lessons Learned From Criticism

Sometimes in life we will meet people who will never agree with the things we choose to do. Perhaps it's them basking in their own sea of bitterness for not being able to do the same. Or perhaps they are locked in their little shell, with a courage half of ours, to not be able to do what they want to do. But it happens, and life will always throw us into one of those situations of unfair treatment and disapproval. As unfortunate as it sounds, I was one of them. But I learned three very important lessons out of this. And I hope I can spread it to you too.... Read More...

Dealing With Rejection: It’s Never About THEM

I recently received an email from a friend who was telling me about a particular man in her life who she’d once had a brief encounter with. This man however was married, completely unavailable both physically and emotionally and my friend was still struggling with the fact that he was making no effort to be a part of her life. This really riled me. It was clear as day that my friend was clinging onto this guy who was so obviously not interested and never would be. But she still refused to let go holding onto an idea of what could have been. She seemed to be living for him and for any sign or attempt of recognition that their encounter meant something to him.... Read More...

Stressed and Overwhelmed: 5 Ways to Calm your Overachiever

There was so much that begged for my attention and so much that I needed to get done if I wanted to take my industry by storm... But then something happened. The inspiration came and gone. I was left with the distinct desire of wanting to do nothing at all. I gave myself permission to ‘take a day off’. But it turned out the desire to do nothing had other plans, setting up shop in my mind for the rest of the entire week! I couldn’t believe it. As a world-class overachiever, I was disappointed with myself. This was no time to take breaks! This was time to take action. Yet even s0, I couldn’t help but hear a small voice whisper: RELAX.... Read More...

When Thoughts Pull You in Different Directions, Do This

Have you ever driven from Point A to Point B and not remembered the drive? Or have you ever got off the phone with someone and forget what you just talked about with them? Or have you ever been so worried and anxious about the future that you miss out on what's happening in the present? You may even felt stuck like you can't see a solution to a problem and all you think about is the problem and you miss what's happening around you. If any of this sounds familiar to you, you are...... Read More...

How to Stop Worrying Effective Immediately

How many of us occupy themselves with pointless worrying? When we are in the middle of it, it seems impossible to get a handle on the situation and turn things around. It's like going downstream in a roaring mountain river in a canoe without a paddle. And the stream of worries just takes you down with no way of stopping. Or so it seems that way. But it's far from the truth. And there is this awesome technique you should try that works...... Read More...

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