Let Go

Letting go of the past and things that held us hostage

3 Effective Ways to Reverse a Toxic Relationship

All of us at least once in our life experienced being in a toxic relationship. You probably know what it's like to move in and out of a state of total denial about how unhealthy and codependent it truly is. Perhaps, at one moment, you feel at the top of the world, yet at another, you are making tiny excuses trying to justify a partner’s absolutely inexcusable behavior. So is there a way to reverse a toxic relationship? ... Read More...

Helpful Life Skill: How to Avoid an Ugly Argument

Have you ever felt GOOD after an ugly argument? Me neither. Even on the rare (really rare) occasion when I was able to “agree to disagree” with whoever sat on the opposite end of that particular opinion scale, I still felt annoyed. Unhappy. It all felt unfinished… It makes sense because arguments are never based on interest, curiosity or any sense of mutual benefit.... Read More...

How to Cope with Grief When You Lose Someone You Love

No doubt, we’ll all lose someone we feel like we can’t live without, and our hearts will be badly broken. Our souls will weep, and no matter what we do, there will be no way to control the hurt. Grief becomes a scar on the part of our soul that survives. In a lot of cases, we will probably never completely get over the loss of this person. But there might be elements of good news in that loss. It's like having a broken leg that never heals correctly—it still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.... Read More...

5 Steps That Will Turn Your Breakup Into a Breakthrough

Have you ever begged someone to stay? Like, literally got on the floor and begged? I did that once after I discovered my husband was having an affair. I didn’t beg straight away. First I was angry. I ranted and raged and then I questioned; “Do you love her? Was she better than me? Is she beautiful?”  I asked all the crazy things that you want to know when your heart has been broken into a million little pieces.... Read More...

Trust Interrupted: One Choice You Need to Make After Betrayal

Trust Interrupted. When someone breaks your trust, betrays you, your first reaction is mild disbelief. Back in 2003, In my first unpublished book, I noted that trust is a precious brick of gold too heavy to place in someones shaking hands… it appeared to be true over the years – I’d give that ‘golden brick of trust’waiting for it to drop, and as all self-fulfilling prophecies = it would come true. Time in and again.... Read More...

Pay Attention: 5 Thinking Patterns That Don’t Serve You

Critiquing someone’s thinking patterns is seen as rude and quite frankly, a lot of the time it won’t make a difference. That’s because, as humans, there are a few incorrect thinking patterns that we find ourselves feeding into because societal cues and our own experiences have told us it’s okay to. “Everyone must come to the realization of what thoughts do not serve them,” I explained. Here are some such thinking patterns.... Read More...

Releasing Resentment: How to Stop Swallowing Poison From the Past

Although normal, resentment is only useful when occurring in the short term. When it persists in the longer term, simmering under the surface, it becomes toxic for the individual experiencing it and also impacts on others they interact with. Like the old saying goes “Resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die”. A bitter person is usually someone who has been swallowing the poison of resentment for too long.... Read More...

Why Giving Up on Someone is Sometimes The Best Thing for You

giving up on a loved one is always an experience that shakes us to our core and you can be sure that your mind will do anything to dissuade you from going through with it. Thankfully, there are still people who decide they don’t want to live a half-life anymore, they turn away from half-love, half-respect, half-peace they struggle to have with someone in order to be whole on their own.... Read More...

How to Speak Out: Why It’s Okay to Not be Okay

Through these apps and social media, many of us pretend that our lives are perfect. I’m not innocent either! So many times I have felt pressured to post on my Instagram just to keep up face even though I am having a real rough time. Whack a ridiculously filtered selfie up on your page, and everyone is none the wiser. But everybody knows – nobody’s life is perfect. So why are we striving so hard to pretend that we are blemish free when we all secretly know that some days we just want to crawl back into bed and cry all day?... Read More...

5 Important Things I Learned in Rehab About Self-Confidence

People seemed to like me better when I was on my party-mode, and nobody ever hid those thoughts from me. I went from being the lame, silent kid in class, to be the King. My social circle grew as wide as the whole classroom and I didn’t have to worry about how I really felt because everyone around me was thinking that I was one of the cool ones to be around. Unfortunately, that reputation only lasted for a while.... Read More...

How to Quickly Identify the Things you Need to Let Go of

We can't hope to truly move on without releasing the ties and anchors that hold us down. It can be hurtful to find out that we are the holders of the key to release our leg, but I can promise that once you open the lock and release your emotional baggage, you will see happiness manifest and know that you empowered yourself to take the step. You are stronger than you can ever imagine. Begin today with basic honesty.... Read More...

4 Cheeky Secrets of the Process of Change

"If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you at all." Change is that unique spice that gets thrown into the mix of life, and we all get to experience it. And yet, change is not something we tend to get on with easily because most of us have grown up with the notion that change is potentially something "troublesome" or even dangerous when in fact it could be easily just another beginning of a new exciting and exhilarating adventure!... Read More...

How to Unpack Your Emotional Baggage in 5 Easy Steps

After facing a chain of traumatic events in a short space of time and having an outburst of emotions to deal with; I got curious and wanted to look closer into how we process our emotions in the Western society. I discovered that we seem to be polarized in our approach to dealing with our feelings. We either don’t validate them and adopt the position of “I’m fine, really, I’M FINE” through gritted teeth or we’re encouraged to wallow in them and make an identity out of the story, whilst in the background we’re told to shove some pills down our throat to ease the pain.... Read More...

How to Face and Solve Problems in Your Life

What if I tell you that I have seen you every time you tried to hide. Every time you thought of running away or actually did run away because you were too unsure you can face your problems. What if I tell you that I was there when you couldn't stand to fight for what you have always wanted because you thought it was bigger than what you could take. What if I tell you that I knew how you let your problems outgrow you when you decided to avoid them.... Read More...

How to Let Go of the Fear of Uncertainty & Be Free

As a law student and lawyer, I tried to think my way to a better life. I tried to think my way out of my depression. I failed completely. By the time I realized I had to stop thinking, I was mired in student debt, working at a job I hated, and taking pills every day just to get by. I still take antidepressants, but the other things have changed. How? I had to let go of my ruminating, overthinking rational self, and let intuition guide me to the answer. When you listen, the small voice of intuition speaks wise words.... Read More...

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