Being heard is an inherent human need; being heard means someone cares, someone is willing to sit down and absorb what you have to express. The response may come in the form of words, a hug or just a smile, but in the end what matters is that someone showed up and listened.
I recently heard about a study that claims 60% of all humans feel like no one really loves them. That means that at any given moment some 4.4 billion people feel unloved. That number is staggering.
If that many people are experiencing a lack of love in their lives it would explain why there is such a vast amount of hatred and suffering on the planet.
It has been illustrated that children who grow up in households without love, as adults, they are often unable to give or accept love and can exhibit signs of self-loathing or anti-social behavior.
After breaking up with my ex-girlfriend this year, everything lost its meaning to me. Suddenly, I found myself alone, with no one to talk to, no one to cheer me up after a rough day at work. I felt like the ground fell out from beneath my feet.
In the era of #iwokeuplikethis Instagram scams, where no makeup usually means heavily applied foundation or a very strong filter, disappointment in the reality of things comes as a given – especially when you are dating online.
The feeling of not being good enough was so overwhelming and so powerful for me it took most of my life to break free from its reigns.
It was almost like a domino effect as self-doubt trickled into every area of my life. I began to please others so much that in my job I had my colleagues actually calling me the 'sorry girl' because I apologized so much it became a habit that I only broke when I left the job!
You want to feel needed, wanted and loved. You crave that special someone's touch, kiss, and affection hoping that they will love you back as much as you do. And that’s perfectly natural. But what happens when you are in the wrong relationship when everything you do is to please your partner?
In my clinic, I often see people seeking help for lack of sexual intimacy in their relationship. Both men and woman present with this problem and there is often concern about what is normal. People want to know “how much sex is normal in a long-term relationship?” Often they have read the statistic that married couples have sex on average three times a week, and they are worried.
Change doesn’t come from some anomalous omnipresent superpower. It comes from regular people holding up their hands, using their voice and owning their story. I want to be able to have conversations that mean that in some small way emotional abuse isn’t ignored, brushed under the carpet and allowed to continue behind