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How to Heal a Relationship When the Hurt Runs Deep

“Just get over it already!” “The past is gone!” “Move on!”  All the well-wishers might offer you their best advice, but their words hurt. How so? Because the past still haunts you every moment of each day. Are new beginnings even possible?! Is healing could be real when the hurt runs deep? Can we confidently release the pain from the past once and for all and embrace the future? How do we find the strength to “press on”?... Read More...

How to Make Your Relationship Work, No Matter What

We all strive to be that elderly couple holding hands on the bench, but not all of us are willing to put in the work. Far too many people flee as soon as the going gets tough. The problem is that they just flee to the next dysfunctional relationship which ends up following the same unhealthy patterns as their last one. It’s time to realize that perfection exists only on the screen and that real relationships take a real effort - which doesn’t make them any less magical.... Read More...

3 Effective Ways to Reverse a Toxic Relationship

All of us at least once in our life experienced being in a toxic relationship. You probably know what it's like to move in and out of a state of total denial about how unhealthy and codependent it truly is. Perhaps, at one moment, you feel at the top of the world, yet at another, you are making tiny excuses trying to justify a partner’s absolutely inexcusable behavior. So is there a way to reverse a toxic relationship? ... Read More...

Here’s Why You Need to Take Your Time in Finding the Love You Deserve

I am in my 50+ and dating at this age could seem even more like a treachery minefield. Especially if you've been through your fair share of painful heartbreaks, separation, and divorce, you know it's difficult at first to be emotionally prepared for venturing out back into the 'dating safari park.' But get this, even when you ready and find someone who is also single and in the same age group, there are good chances that they are divorced and solo parenting with impossible demands on their time too. So, how do singles in their 40-50s make dating work for them? Well, we give online dating an honest try.... Read More...

The Truth About “Starting a New Life”

Today I woke up with a renewing feeling of ‘moving on’. As I got into the shower on this fine Sunday morning in London, I said to myself, ‘it’s like I’m waking up on the first day of a new life. It’s like I’m learning to stand up on my own two feet again.’ And I breathed in the sense of excitement, nervousness, and loneliness that it evoked all at once.... Read More...

Why Criticizing People Never Inspires Them to Change

Do you ever criticize the people in your life, hoping it will get them to change themselves or their behavior? When people act in ways that turn you off, do you ever find fault with them by condemning them for what they’re “doing wrong”? And furthermore, have you ever stopped to consider the reasoning behind criticizing others, hoping it will change them? Or how do you react when someone criticizes you?... Read More...

10 Lessons I’ve Learned to Create an Amazing Love Life

Sometimes we all wish for a one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to relationships, especially when difficulties arise from time to time. We are different, we come from all walks of life... and we all build our relationships differently. Nothing is identical. But it was my observation lately that there is one thing that probably can help us all in creating amazing love life.... Read More...

5 Steps That Will Turn Your Breakup Into a Breakthrough

Have you ever begged someone to stay? Like, literally got on the floor and begged? I did that once after I discovered my husband was having an affair. I didn’t beg straight away. First I was angry. I ranted and raged and then I questioned; “Do you love her? Was she better than me? Is she beautiful?”  I asked all the crazy things that you want to know when your heart has been broken into a million little pieces.... Read More...

Self-Love: How to Love the “I” in “I Love You”

So, what is self-love?  Simply put it’s about loving the “I” in “I love you.”  When we usually think of the phrase “I love you” we are thinking about loving someone else.  This means accepting them for who they are, sticking by them through good times and bad, encouraging them in their life pursuits, celebrating their healthy choices, and being a constant companion and ally.  Sounds nice, huh?  But what about actually providing this to your very self, as well?... Read More...

6 Ways Poor Sleep Can Sink Your Relationship

When it comes to things in life we cherish, our relationships hit the top tiers of our lists. If you are fortunate enough to have a partner in life that shares your dreams and hopes for the future, how you treat each other is important. As much as we wish that being in love was easy it isn’t, so every chance we get to make our love lives smoother, we’ll take it.... Read More...

#PayItForward: How to Be a Story without an Author

Every day in every region of the world there are stories being told. Unknown names and faces help in emergencies or in simple moments of respect and kindness. A man with a free hugs sign in an open air mall. A random stranger running across a highway to help an overturned car. A sudden heart attack assisted by a card-carrying CPR member breathing for a random passerby while the paramedics arrive. All of these are stories without authors.... Read More...

Divorced: Opening My Heart to all the Love Again

The hot, humid July evening back in 2007 when I discovered I was pregnant was one of the best days of my life. I immediately fell in love with the little person growing inside of me, and I knew that my life would never again be the same. Knowing that I had a part of my husband growing inside of my body only intensified my love for him. I remember gazing at him and imagining the baseball playing, hockey coaching Dad he would become. I couldn't have loved him more. As my pregnancy progressed, things began to change. My husband grew distant and I grew lonely and anxious. I pushed his behavior and my feelings aside as expectant-first-time-parent-jitters.... Read More...

Why Giving Up on Someone is Sometimes The Best Thing for You

giving up on a loved one is always an experience that shakes us to our core and you can be sure that your mind will do anything to dissuade you from going through with it. Thankfully, there are still people who decide they don’t want to live a half-life anymore, they turn away from half-love, half-respect, half-peace they struggle to have with someone in order to be whole on their own.... Read More...

Put Down Your Phone: Millennial Men Hope To Meet ‘The One’ while Traveling

With the help of the digital revolution that has reshaped our lives beyond recognition, everything we do now has a new dimension – an “online” reality that allows for remote working, genuine reviews, and a wealth of information at our fingertips. But one trend that took the world by storm, and that I never really got the hang of, somehow dwindled as fast as it developed.... Read More...

6 Tips to Support Your Loved One During Recovery

Everybody knows someone. From your own family, from your circle of friends, from your workplace, from the community you live in - someone who is struggling with addiction - alcohol, social drugs, prescription drugs, so the list goes on. I know plenty of “someones,” but those are the circles I move in. In a way, I always have.... Read More...

‘Happily Ever After’ is Fiction, Real Love is What You Need

The bond between husband and wife can be one of the most beautiful things. Finding a best friend and loyal companion, someone that completes you is the ultimate gift. Putting all selfishness aside, when you make that leap of faith, joining hearts by uniting differences, strengths and weakness, you balance each other out, creating a thriving vessel for flourishing love.   Sounds amazing right? And let’s not forget, marriage always puts a smile on our face and its all smooth sailing from the moment we say “I do.”... Read More...

Powerful Ways to Rekindle the Spark in a Strained Relationship

Too many times we hear the phrase “grounds for divorce” and think about its devastating impact. Instead, we should be thinking about grounds for marriage. What is it that you do, feel, and say that keeps your loved one close? While no universal practice or theory of marriage and relationships exists, we can sort out a few important tips that span all relationships.... Read More...

4.4 Billion People Feel Unloved. Are You One?

I recently heard about a study that claims 60% of all humans feel like no one really loves them. That means that at any given moment some 4.4 billion people feel unloved. That number is staggering. If that many people are experiencing a lack of love in their lives it would explain why there is such a vast amount of hatred and suffering on the planet. It has been illustrated that children who grow up in households without love, as adults, they are often unable to give or accept love and can exhibit signs of self-loathing or anti-social behavior.... Read More...

How to Start Feeling Confident and Worthy

The feeling of not being good enough was so overwhelming and so powerful for me it took most of my life to break free from its reigns. It was almost like a domino effect as self-doubt trickled into every area of my life. I began to please others so much that in my job I had my colleagues actually calling me the 'sorry girl' because I apologized so much it became a habit that I only broke when I left the job!... Read More...

How to Get a Little Perspective When Bad Things Happen

We all know that life never happens like you want it to. The good and the bad have their own way of unfolding and it never happens when you expect it to happen. You can try with all your might, but you’ll never be able to control it. Although you don’t have much control over what will happen to you, the one thing you do have complete control over is how you interpret it – your perspective.... Read More...

5 Things to Consider When You Need a Relationship Advice

Relationship advice is everywhere! It seems like every time I turn around, I hear or read someone's two cents on a relationship that isn't theirs. The more I think about it, the more I believe that exposing yourself to this information is a bad idea, unless you're getting it straight from a certified professional. It's okay to occasionally vent to loved ones or read articles that give simple relationship tips every now and then. In fact, doing so can be quite helpful and therapeutic if done in moderation. But making relationship gossip and advice seeking a habit or giving away too many details to too many people can ultimately be detrimental to an otherwise perfectly good relationship. 5 Reasons to Avoid Seeking Relationship Advice From Non-Experts...... Read More...

How to Love and Accept Yourself When You Feel Insignificant

Learning to love yourself is simple. But just because it’s simple, doesn’t mean it’s easy. It can be uncomfortable to re-examine assumptions we have made. However, I have a hunch you wouldn’t be reading this if you wanted to feel comfortable all the time. You thrive on challenging yourself to grow! So are you ready to fall in love with yourself? Here’s what worked for me.... Read More...

5 Steps to Find Peace After a Painful Breakup

It’s the oldest story in the world: Love is gained, it blooms and then it fades out or is squashed by outside forces. It’s always a learning experience and sometimes lost love can be tragic, visceral and all encompassing. As painful as it may feel at the time, it is a lesson that is acting upon each of us in ways that we can’t always see in the heat of the moment. ... Read More...

This Will Help You to Recover From a Toxic Friendship

People themselves aren't toxic. Nevertheless, sometimes our temperaments might don't align together and then"toxicity" appears. It's nobody's fault. We might not pay attention, although with time there comes a time when you are taken by surprise discovering something you haven't seen all these years of being friends. Whether it is an overwhelming feeling of being exhausted and emotionally drained after you spent some time together with someone, eventually the veil has to come down.... Read More...

One Priceless Love Lesson From a Cheap Tiny Old Ring

One word frees us all of the weight and pain of life: that word is love. — Sophocles For the past however many years (I honestly can't remember how longs it's been), I've had this on again, off again, relationship with a cheap, gold-painted, little ring. There's nothing particularly amazing about this ring. It wasn’t expensive, and it’s definitely not from Tiffany’s. In fact, I believe I bought it for less than five bucks at Forever 21 (when I was still in the appropriate age bracket to shop there). But for whatever reason, unbeknownst to me, I've grown a strong affection for this cheap, little ring. I wear it all the time, for every occasion, always on the same hand, always on the same finger. The weird thing about this ring is...... Read More...

How to Diffuse Any Argument: 3 Helpful Tips

Let's agree for a moment that arguments are pointless. Let's concede that there's not a single person in this world who thinks exactly the way you think, who knows and believes the things you know and believe, nor acts and responds to certain situations specifically in the same manner you would. Obviously, we need to remember this if we want to get along with people.... Read More...

16 Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances of Getting Back Together

I've always maintained that fresh heartbreak leads people to make all kinds of poor decisions. These are things to stay away from if you're struggling with getting over a breakup. I've done every single thing on this list, so if you've already stumbled and made a few of these breakup mistakes, know that you're in good company. If you've been broken up with, here are 16 things to avoid doing at all costs. 16 Breakup Mistakes That Kill Your Chances of Getting Back Together... Read More...

Attract the Love You Desire With the Power of Choice

I went to Brazil to find myself, and I found love. Was it always easy? NO. There were many seemingly insurmountable obstacles to John and I being together and making it work. And 10 years later, that insurmountable love is brighter, stronger and lovelier than ever. When we make a commitment to choose love—just unabashedly choose love—the universe will answer us. Does it always show up in the perfect little package we expect? No, not always. But if our energy and vibration is pure, consistent and true—it will come to us. Love is our natural state. Love is the truth of who we really are. Love is our birthright.... Read More...

Dealing With Rejection: It’s Never About THEM

I recently received an email from a friend who was telling me about a particular man in her life who she’d once had a brief encounter with. This man however was married, completely unavailable both physically and emotionally and my friend was still struggling with the fact that he was making no effort to be a part of her life. This really riled me. It was clear as day that my friend was clinging onto this guy who was so obviously not interested and never would be. But she still refused to let go holding onto an idea of what could have been. She seemed to be living for him and for any sign or attempt of recognition that their encounter meant something to him.... Read More...

Deep Listening: Taking a Sure Path to Authentic Relationships

I found the deep listening exercise challenging but also incredibly liberating! I was no longer focused on myself. I was instead focused on the storytellers, and my purpose was to seek a deep understanding of their experiences. The Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh has spoken often of the power of deep listening. He explained: “Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of another person. You can call it compassionate listening. You listen with only one purpose: to help him or her to empty his heart.” ... Read More...

What We Should Learn About Love Right Now

Since the early age I was frequently told that there will come a day when, after some good chasing, longing, yearning and the ultimate hide and seek game, probably, if I am lucky enough, I will find that notorious "other half". Since the early age the idea that I am not WHOLE enough, not complete enough was haunting me. That idea of "INCOMPLETENESS" looked like a sad goon that would never leave my side. Back then I didn't know that I was deeply conditioned, tricked into a blind belief that in order to feel whole and complete I have to go and find my "other half". Meaning that I would have to accept the notion that my happiness/unhappiness is dependent on another person. Does it sound familiar? Subconsciously I felt resentment towards the idea that I needed someone to complete me in order to be truly happy but I couldn't quite figure out how to put that feeling into solid words.... Read More...

Playground Rules: 7 Lessons Children Teach Us

As adults, we’re often preoccupied with thoughts on how we should shape our children: What techniques can we use to influence their behavior?  How can we effectively guide their attitude towards others?  What examples should we set for them? Rarely do we pause to consider the lessons children can teach us.  Simply observe a child, and you’ll learn several of the most important instructions on life and love.... Read More...

Treat Yourself With the Love and Respect You Deserve

It is incredibly easy to forget to treat yourself with love and respect, and it is just as easy to be your worst critic. Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. You can't "break up" or "divorce" yourself; you need to be able to tolerate yourself for your entire life. You need to treat yourself like you expect others to treat you - yet unfortunately, this can be much easier said than done.... Read More...

7 Love Languages

Love is a choice you make everyday. We created different languages to speak up and make our mind in front of others, we created tons of devices to communicate with each other. But somehow we are still missing something. A deeper understanding. When it goes to building a strong and loving relationship with our other half - we are often trapped on the battlefield of love trying to figure out the best way possible to make things work. So what's causing those problems to begin with? Do we have the keys? Do we speak the love languages? And how many of those languages are out there to begin with?! They are as numerous as there are people out there in the world. But let's narrow it down to 7. Let's discuss in this post today 7 love languages we come up with as a basic to every family platform.... Read More...

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