We’ve probably all been told at one point or another that “relationships take work.” But what does this really mean? Time and attention to the relationship and our partner can be confused with difficulties and struggle as we skip over the deceptively simple conversation that leaves us feeling understood, respected, and cared for...
People themselves aren't toxic. Nevertheless, sometimes our temperaments might don't align together and then"toxicity" appears. It's nobody's fault. We might not pay attention, although with time there comes a time when you are taken by surprise discovering something you haven't seen all these years of being friends. Whether it is an overwhelming feeling of being exhausted and emotionally drained after you spent some time together with someone, eventually the veil has to come down.
One word frees us all of the weight and pain of life: that word is love. — Sophocles
For the past however many years (I honestly can't remember how longs it's been), I've had this on again, off again, relationship with a cheap, gold-painted, little ring. There's nothing particularly amazing about this ring. It wasn’t expensive, and it’s definitely not from Tiffany’s. In fact, I believe I bought it for less than five bucks at Forever 21 (when I was still in the appropriate age bracket to shop there). But for whatever reason, unbeknownst to me, I've grown a strong affection for this cheap, little ring. I wear it all the time, for every occasion, always on the same hand, always on the same finger. The weird thing about this ring is...
Let's agree for a moment that arguments are pointless. Let's concede that there's not a single person in this world who thinks exactly the way you think, who knows and believes the things you know and believe, nor acts and responds to certain situations specifically in the same manner you would. Obviously, we need to remember this if we want to get along with people.
All That You Can't Leave Behind...Why can’t you move on and let the past go?
What is it with us and that enormous emotional baggage that we tend to carry around? Imagine yourself standing in the heavy pouring rain with an empty bucket. The longer we stand there holding the bucket, the heavier it gets. It gets heavier rather quickly, doesn't it? How long can we hold it for? There comes a point in time when we need to release it before it gets too overwhelming...
I've always maintained that fresh heartbreak leads people to make all kinds of poor decisions. These are things to stay away from if you're struggling with getting over a breakup. I've done every single thing on this list, so if you've already stumbled and made a few of these breakup mistakes, know that you're in good company.
If you've been broken up with, here are 16 things to avoid doing at all costs.
16 Breakup Mistakes That Kill Your Chances of Getting Back Together
I went to Brazil to find myself, and I found love.
Was it always easy? NO. There were many seemingly insurmountable obstacles to John and I being together and making it work. And 10 years later, that insurmountable love is brighter, stronger and lovelier than ever.
When we make a commitment to choose love—just unabashedly choose love—the universe will answer us.
Does it always show up in the perfect little package we expect? No, not always. But if our energy and vibration is pure, consistent and true—it will come to us.
Love is our natural state. Love is the truth of who we really are. Love is our birthright.
I recently received an email from a friend who was telling me about a particular man in her life who she’d once had a brief encounter with. This man however was married, completely unavailable both physically and emotionally and my friend was still struggling with the fact that he was making no effort to be a part of her life.
This really riled me. It was clear as day that my friend was clinging onto this guy who was so obviously not interested and never would be. But she still refused to let go holding onto an idea of what could have been. She seemed to be living for him and for any sign or attempt of recognition that their encounter meant something to him.
I found the deep listening exercise challenging but also incredibly liberating! I was no longer focused on myself. I was instead focused on the storytellers, and my purpose was to seek a deep understanding of their experiences.
The Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh has spoken often of the power of deep listening. He explained: “Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of another person. You can call it compassionate listening. You listen with only one purpose: to help him or her to empty his heart.”
Since the early age I was frequently told that there will come a day when, after some good chasing, longing, yearning and the ultimate hide and seek game, probably, if I am lucky enough, I will find that notorious "other half".
Since the early age the idea that I am not WHOLE enough, not complete enough was haunting me. That idea of "INCOMPLETENESS" looked like a sad goon that would never leave my side. Back then I didn't know that I was deeply conditioned, tricked into a blind belief that in order to feel whole and complete I have to go and find my "other half". Meaning that I would have to accept the notion that my happiness/unhappiness is dependent on another person.
Does it sound familiar?
Subconsciously I felt resentment towards the idea that I needed someone to complete me in order to be truly happy but I couldn't quite figure out how to put that feeling into solid words.