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Finding a balance for everyday life

How to Wake Up in a Good Mood: One Simple Reminder

What is the first thing you think about when you open your eyes in the morning? Do you normally feel anxious about the scenarios and the routes your day might take? Do your thoughts run a marathon down your to-do list? I believe that the morning is the most powerful part of the day. What we put into it we get out of it. Think yeast and dough. If we charge our morning with positive thoughts of gratitude – the feel good mode arises making us energetic and happy. The more we focus on positivity, the better we feel...... Read More...

Going Unplugged: The Counterintuitive Way to Increase Your Energy

If you are a driven, ambitious, go-getter, the idea of taking a rest day, going unplugged and slowing down can feel baffling, counter-intuitive and well ain’t nobody got time for that. What if I told you that giving yourself a break every once in a while on a consistent basis can improve your productivity, would you do it? When you try to control everything, you enjoy nothing. Sometimes you just need to relax, breathe, let go and live in the moment.... Read More...

Everyone Wants to Be Heard: Practicing Deep Listening

When Encountering Someone Who Doesn’t Think Like You, Remember They Come From a Different Place... Allowing will bring you peace, because when you allow someone to be who they are, you don’t take on their drama or mindset because you have given them space to be. And in doing so, you take a breath and allow yourself to be. You embrace yourself and you embrace them, knowing that collectively we are on a journey but individually we are on different paths. Allowing people to be who they are is a principle that must be practiced daily. ... Read More...

8 Important Things We Wish to Forget but Essential to Remember

I have a book which was my to-got-to friend from the earliest age. It is a huge book and it looks like a brick :) I call it a brick of wisdom. Sometimes I find it comforting to address my questions and find some answers there. Surprisingly, by revisiting the same book every year, somehow I always find something new to discover... new conclusions, new thoughts and ideas. But most importantly I've found essential things to remember that are too easy to forget.... Read More...

The Root of Envy and How to Cut it Immediately

We see other people going through life passing us by in "better" cars, having better relationships, kids, jobs, travelling adventures, opportunities and a bundle of astonishing achievements... Granted, we don't see the whole story behind the facade of someone else's "perfect" life. What we keep telling ourselves are the stories why we don't have what they have, or even worse, why we don't deserve to have better things in our lives. It's hard to feed an ungrateful wolf – it never seems enough. We go through Facebook updates and wonder even more how come that our friends seem to have more blessings, more joy, more fun... they seem to have it all. That awful feeling with a hot flush of jealousy overtakes our minds and souls and drifts us further away from focusing on the good that we already have in life. We seem to forget all at once that gratitude is the antidote to envy. It's easy to forget it while we are in a slump of envy, but it essential to remember when we are taking action to get out.... Read More...

Accepting and Loving Yourself: Exactly the Thing That You Need

I believe narcissism is a big piece of the puzzle. For a long time, I held back from loving myself because I thought it was selfish and narcissistic. I thought to be a good person; you should concentrate on loving and taking care of other people. I thought if I was a good enough person, then someone else would discover my goodness and maybe decide I was loveable too. Then, I thought, I would feel loved. I understand now that being narcissistic is actually the exact opposite of self-love. Being narcissistic means living in service to the person you think you “should” be, rather than unconditionally loving yourself just the way you are! Do you find it challenging to truly love and take care of yourself?... Read More...

Extrovert & Introvert: The Key to Understanding Both

An introvert is a person who is absolutely cozy and comfortable within his permanent shell. A shy person is a person who has his temporary shell which he would love to lose at any given moment. Introverts find their comfort in calm low key places and they would rather read a book than go and dance in the club. Extensive socialising for introverts is an emotionally draining experience – shy people on the other hand do not always prefer solitude. They are just timid to connect with other people.... Read More...

3 Most Powerful Lessons Learned From Criticism

Sometimes in life we will meet people who will never agree with the things we choose to do. Perhaps it's them basking in their own sea of bitterness for not being able to do the same. Or perhaps they are locked in their little shell, with a courage half of ours, to not be able to do what they want to do. But it happens, and life will always throw us into one of those situations of unfair treatment and disapproval. As unfortunate as it sounds, I was one of them. But I learned three very important lessons out of this. And I hope I can spread it to you too.... Read More...

Dealing With Rejection: It’s Never About THEM

I recently received an email from a friend who was telling me about a particular man in her life who she’d once had a brief encounter with. This man however was married, completely unavailable both physically and emotionally and my friend was still struggling with the fact that he was making no effort to be a part of her life. This really riled me. It was clear as day that my friend was clinging onto this guy who was so obviously not interested and never would be. But she still refused to let go holding onto an idea of what could have been. She seemed to be living for him and for any sign or attempt of recognition that their encounter meant something to him.... Read More...

Stressed and Overwhelmed: 5 Ways to Calm your Overachiever

There was so much that begged for my attention and so much that I needed to get done if I wanted to take my industry by storm... But then something happened. The inspiration came and gone. I was left with the distinct desire of wanting to do nothing at all. I gave myself permission to ‘take a day off’. But it turned out the desire to do nothing had other plans, setting up shop in my mind for the rest of the entire week! I couldn’t believe it. As a world-class overachiever, I was disappointed with myself. This was no time to take breaks! This was time to take action. Yet even s0, I couldn’t help but hear a small voice whisper: RELAX.... Read More...

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser & Take Control of Your life

For a long time I turned away from any recognition and achievement… I thought I was being spiritually enlightened, but now I know it’s because I was ashamed of my need to be loved. For the first 26 years of my life I had been heavily focused on competitive achievement in horse riding. I understand now I wasn’t always doing it for the right reasons... The wins were to appease my gods - teachers, trainers, owners and bosses. I was actually seeking a metaphoric gold star to prove, not that I was good at riding, but that I was worthy of loving and existing.... Read More...

Feeling Upbeat in the Morning and Staying Positive All Day

Our minds are marvellous things, and when we allow them to flourish we reach a place that is not only beautiful, but peaceful and happy as well. Depression is a disease that can be defeated. It can be beat, but only if we truly commit. So stand up, call a friend, and go live your life. Give yourself a reason to wake up every day. It won’t be easy but it’s worth the fight to feel alive again! "When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive - to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love". ... Read More...

45 Movies That Will Change The Way You See The World

1.The Pursuit of Happyness (By Gabriele Muccino) 2006 2. A Good Year (Ridley Scott) 2006 3. Pay It Forward (Mimi Leder) 2000 4. Stranger Than Fiction (Marc Forster) 2006 5. Knocking On Heaven’s Door (Thomas Jahn) 1997 6. Feast of Love (Robert Benton) 2007 7. Sweet November (Pat O’Connor) 2001 8. The Lake House (Alejandro Agresti) 2006 9. The Truman Show (Peter Weir) 1998 10. The Family Man (Brett Ratner) 2000... Read More...

When Thoughts Pull You in Different Directions, Do This

Have you ever driven from Point A to Point B and not remembered the drive? Or have you ever got off the phone with someone and forget what you just talked about with them? Or have you ever been so worried and anxious about the future that you miss out on what's happening in the present? You may even felt stuck like you can't see a solution to a problem and all you think about is the problem and you miss what's happening around you. If any of this sounds familiar to you, you are...... Read More...

Staying Happy No Matter What: 5 Simple Steps

Life is hectic. Sometimes it becomes so overwhelming that we hardly have a chance to catch our breath trying to keep our mind calm and stress-free. Deadlines, new projects, new assignments, goals, dreams and our desire to succeed make our mind race against the time exhausting it in the process. We go to bed with a list of things we failed to do; we wake up with a list that doubles. The whole experience is extremely energy draining, and it establishes stress and unrest in your life.... Read More...

Mistakes Are Proof That You Are Trying

We have all been there... we all made mistakes: big and little ones. From "pink elephant in the room" to seamless yet vital ones. We can all show a scar or two as a result of those invaluable life lessons. Some people grow stronger and stay positive no matter what happened yesterday. Some people, including me, sometimes feel so petrified with the outcome of some actions that taking another step is like walking and shaking on the rope that's been stretched over the chasm of uncertainty down below.... Read More...

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