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Finding a balance for everyday life

6 Steps Towards Peace and Contentment

Once upon a time, there was a season for resolutions and realignment. Nowadays, that season is every day. This shift of focus created a powerful revolution in my life. I started being nice to myself, forgiving the blemishes, leaving room for growth and encouraging the best. It was a love revolution. The ugly parts suddenly weren’t so bad, and the bad parts really weren’t so bad after all. Best of all, I felt – well – perfect. Perfect just as is. How did I do it? By following these basic steps.... ... Read More...

3 Things That Really Make Life Worth Living

What Makes Life Worth Living? Things that make life worth living? How to Make Life Worth Living. I guess we grew accustomed to define ourselves in terms of the things that we own – things that make us feel special and worthy. Things that become an extended version of ourselves. We also live our lives expecting "big moments" to come and blow our minds away so we can forget about our ordinary and boring day-to-day life... Does it sound familiar?... Read More...

How to Deal With Emotional Baggage Effectively

All That You Can't Leave Behind...Why can’t you move on and let the past go? What is it with us and that enormous emotional baggage that we tend to carry around? Imagine yourself standing in the heavy pouring rain with an empty bucket. The longer we stand there holding the bucket, the heavier it gets. It gets heavier rather quickly, doesn't it? How long can we hold it for? There comes a point in time when we need to release it before it gets too overwhelming...... Read More...

This Will Help You In Turning a Bad Day Around

I remember being so negative about most days that the bad days slowly started to become a bad life. No matter how Zen we are, we all have bad days, when we just get up on the wrong side of the bed. Some of us have them more, some of us have them less, but we all experience them. There is no need to suffer through a bad day, and just wait for it to end; there are so many little things we can do to help ourselves and also the people around us. I used to get up and feel bad every day. Just all around depressed and anxious about life, and all I wanted to do when I got up was to go back to sleep. I didn’t realize all that I could have done to make my days better. Let’s go through an average day together and see how we can turn bad days around... Read More...

Perfectly Imperfect: Releasing the Shame That Binds You

Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. Every day, we get up and we talk about topics that we are comfortable with. We might chit-chat about a movie we saw over the weekend with a friend or talk about our chances for promotion with our husband. Somehow, we manage to talk about our loves, our hopes, even our failures. What we often don't talk about is that insidious feeling that sometimes festers inside us, that makes us feel like we are nothing, that colours our very being. What we can't talk about is a shame. Where Does Shame Come From? How Do We Get Beyond Our Shame? ... Read More...

16 Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances of Getting Back Together

I've always maintained that fresh heartbreak leads people to make all kinds of poor decisions. These are things to stay away from if you're struggling with getting over a breakup. I've done every single thing on this list, so if you've already stumbled and made a few of these breakup mistakes, know that you're in good company. If you've been broken up with, here are 16 things to avoid doing at all costs. 16 Breakup Mistakes That Kill Your Chances of Getting Back Together... Read More...

This Might Make You Happy and Stress-Free

Granted, we all give things different meaning according to our life experience, the way we think and tend to reflect, but… Why is it so addictive to think and react to the negative things? Why it is so challenging sometimes to stay truly present, to enjoy the very moment of our existence NOW? We live now. Not in the past, nor in the future. We live in the NOW. Your Ability to Appreciate and Enjoy the Moment of NOW is What Matters the Most!... Read More...

Why Busyness Such a Badge of Honor? Discovered!

When we’re busy, we don’t have time to do the work we’re really meant to be doing. We don’t have time to go the extra mile for a client or customer. We don’t have time to make a difference for someone. Busyness acts like an invisible barrier around us, keeping us from getting over-involved, hurt or even from failing. We can’t fail if we’re too busy to start. Why is Busyness Such a Badge of Honour? Has Busyness Become the Ultimate Excuse for Not Making People a Priority in our Lives? ... Read More...

How to Wake Up in a Good Mood: One Simple Reminder

What is the first thing you think about when you open your eyes in the morning? Do you normally feel anxious about the scenarios and the routes your day might take? Do your thoughts run a marathon down your to-do list? I believe that the morning is the most powerful part of the day. What we put into it we get out of it. Think yeast and dough. If we charge our morning with positive thoughts of gratitude – the feel good mode arises making us energetic and happy. The more we focus on positivity, the better we feel...... Read More...

Everyone Wants to Be Heard: Practicing Deep Listening

When Encountering Someone Who Doesn’t Think Like You, Remember They Come From a Different Place... Allowing will bring you peace, because when you allow someone to be who they are, you don’t take on their drama or mindset because you have given them space to be. And in doing so, you take a breath and allow yourself to be. You embrace yourself and you embrace them, knowing that collectively we are on a journey but individually we are on different paths. Allowing people to be who they are is a principle that must be practiced daily. ... Read More...

8 Important Things We Wish to Forget but Essential to Remember

I have a book which was my to-got-to friend from the earliest age. It is a huge book and it looks like a brick :) I call it a brick of wisdom. Sometimes I find it comforting to address my questions and find some answers there. Surprisingly, by revisiting the same book every year, somehow I always find something new to discover... new conclusions, new thoughts and ideas. But most importantly I've found essential things to remember that are too easy to forget.... Read More...

The Root of Envy and How to Cut it Immediately

We see other people going through life passing us by in "better" cars, having better relationships, kids, jobs, travelling adventures, opportunities and a bundle of astonishing achievements... Granted, we don't see the whole story behind the facade of someone else's "perfect" life. What we keep telling ourselves are the stories why we don't have what they have, or even worse, why we don't deserve to have better things in our lives. It's hard to feed an ungrateful wolf – it never seems enough. We go through Facebook updates and wonder even more how come that our friends seem to have more blessings, more joy, more fun... they seem to have it all. That awful feeling with a hot flush of jealousy overtakes our minds and souls and drifts us further away from focusing on the good that we already have in life. We seem to forget all at once that gratitude is the antidote to envy. It's easy to forget it while we are in a slump of envy, but it essential to remember when we are taking action to get out.... Read More...

Accepting and Loving Yourself: Exactly the Thing That You Need

I believe narcissism is a big piece of the puzzle. For a long time, I held back from loving myself because I thought it was selfish and narcissistic. I thought to be a good person; you should concentrate on loving and taking care of other people. I thought if I was a good enough person, then someone else would discover my goodness and maybe decide I was loveable too. Then, I thought, I would feel loved. I understand now that being narcissistic is actually the exact opposite of self-love. Being narcissistic means living in service to the person you think you “should” be, rather than unconditionally loving yourself just the way you are! Do you find it challenging to truly love and take care of yourself?... Read More...

Extrovert & Introvert: The Key to Understanding Both

An introvert is a person who is absolutely cozy and comfortable within his permanent shell. A shy person is a person who has his temporary shell which he would love to lose at any given moment. Introverts find their comfort in calm low key places and they would rather read a book than go and dance in the club. Extensive socialising for introverts is an emotionally draining experience – shy people on the other hand do not always prefer solitude. They are just timid to connect with other people.... Read More...

3 Most Powerful Lessons Learned From Criticism

Sometimes in life we will meet people who will never agree with the things we choose to do. Perhaps it's them basking in their own sea of bitterness for not being able to do the same. Or perhaps they are locked in their little shell, with a courage half of ours, to not be able to do what they want to do. But it happens, and life will always throw us into one of those situations of unfair treatment and disapproval. As unfortunate as it sounds, I was one of them. But I learned three very important lessons out of this. And I hope I can spread it to you too.... Read More...

Dealing With Rejection: It’s Never About THEM

I recently received an email from a friend who was telling me about a particular man in her life who she’d once had a brief encounter with. This man however was married, completely unavailable both physically and emotionally and my friend was still struggling with the fact that he was making no effort to be a part of her life. This really riled me. It was clear as day that my friend was clinging onto this guy who was so obviously not interested and never would be. But she still refused to let go holding onto an idea of what could have been. She seemed to be living for him and for any sign or attempt of recognition that their encounter meant something to him.... Read More...

Stressed and Overwhelmed: 5 Ways to Calm your Overachiever

There was so much that begged for my attention and so much that I needed to get done if I wanted to take my industry by storm... But then something happened. The inspiration came and gone. I was left with the distinct desire of wanting to do nothing at all. I gave myself permission to ‘take a day off’. But it turned out the desire to do nothing had other plans, setting up shop in my mind for the rest of the entire week! I couldn’t believe it. As a world-class overachiever, I was disappointed with myself. This was no time to take breaks! This was time to take action. Yet even s0, I couldn’t help but hear a small voice whisper: RELAX.... Read More...

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