In the previous post we discussed how it’s important for us to understand whether we want to be a part of the problem or a part of its solution. For everybody who chose the second option a new challenge stands up. Overcoming excuses to do or not to do something we wanted for a long time and solving a problem. How can we do that? I have an idea.
Give yourself credit
In childhood at some point some of you might have had a couple of “good” wishers who constantly were there for you to evaluate whether you can or cannot do things, like drawing, or dancing or chasing your dream because they found it both stupid and naive (from their perspective, of course). Those falls and limiting beliefs are nothing more than potential brakes. Good “wishers” from childhood might be gone by now, but habits of making doubts and excuses inside of us usually still sit there and dictate our behaviour. Be aware of that. Learn to distinguish the voice of your own from voices echoing from your past. And remember that the only person you have to answer to is yourself.
People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost… – Dalai Lama
You don’t need permission
Do you remember the time when you had to ask for permission to do something? A kid. How trembling did you feel inside when something was forbidden? And how good and guilty did you feel for trying to do something from that forbidden list having the courage and overcoming your stolen freedom to be yourself in order to discover who you truly are?
And when someone asked me if I miss being a child I laughed out loud remembering parents and other “good” wishers that tended to transfer their own insecurities, doubts, fears and false beliefs into pure soul and mind of a new human being. No, I definitely don’t miss that. But I learned a lot though. Well guess what, you don’t need permission to be yourself now and discover new and exciting things!
What’s your story?
Do you have something you wished to try for years even decades but something was constantly holding you back? Some old story that you have had in your head for years that was giving you excuses not to go out there and explore.
For the last 23 years I had a firm belief that my hands grow from other places but shoulders and that I suck at drawing, crafts and other “handy business”. I never tried. Why should I if I’ve heard a billion times that I can’t? That I don’t have a natural talent or gift to do anything creative…. There is no such thing as a natural talent so to speak. If you are interested in something – you just go and spend some quality time learning it in order to get better at that skill. As one wise man notes: “ people become experts by putting in thousands of hours” into work that they love.
Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good that we often may win by fearing to attempt. – William Shakespeare
Put your doubts aside. Get out there and explore whatever you’re into! Give yourself permission and forget about the limits that were set for you by other people. Remember, those limits are only in your mind and you have the power to believe whether they are real or not.
Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire. – Dale Carnegie
By Lesya Li
Photo by Amit Kujur