Finding Balance Between Holding on and Letting go

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Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our heart, we still cling to anything—anger, guilt,or possessions—we cannot be free. – Thich Nhat Hanh

What do you usually do before a big move to another flat, to another house, another country to create another life? You probably try to create a little bit more space by letting go of some things… Is it easy to let go, or do you struggle by adding sentimental value to things?

I’ve been moving places a lot. And every time before moving somewhere I see an ample opportunity to rid my life of the junk and unnecessary things. But I wasn’t so enthusiastic about that back in the days.

Somebody told me, that life is a balance of holding on and letting go. And I couldn’t agree more. It’s not easy to learn to let go. But here is a thing about our homes and our lives: we either collect dust-gatherers that fail to fill our lives with meaning or we hold things that really fill our lives with something of great value.

feelings The same goes to our feelings and our wild free-running emotions. If something bad happens there are 2 scenarios: we either plunge into bitterness and let it define us or we learn from it, cool off and then let it go. We cannot hold onto something forever and have it weigh us down. There comes a time when “the party is over” and the guests leave.

Feelings and emotions are brief visitors: they come and they go. 

Sometimes that balance between letting go and holding on reminds me of good surfing day. You are there to seize the moment, the opportunity to rise above the wave, to slice it with your surfing board, to catch excitement, adrenaline and a full range of emotions and you ultimately feel happy and excited to be ALIVE. It is a magnificent feeling that lasts for a brief moment. Then it too goes away.

The trick is to live every moment of your life trying to enjoy it, to be happy and to make someone else happy too.

Enjoy… every… moment. While it lasts.

Start today by letting go of the old burdens, of the old grudges and hard feelings that hold you back from experiencing life to the fullest. IF something hurts you, let it go. If something makes you happy, magnify the presence of it in your life.

Letting Go is Easy… One Step at a Time

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When you feel unsure about letting something go ask yourself this: Does this thing, situation or a person adds value to my living experience? And do I really need their presence in my life?

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How often do you find yourself in a state of mind where you hold on to painful memories that prevent you from receiving and giving love? What might happen if you’d choose to let those heavy memories go? Imagine stormy grey clouds and the way they tend to disappear leaving the sky clear eventually… Choose to let go to feel lighter and happier today.

We move on, and we move forward, but that doesn't mean the past never existed. It simply means that the past no longer controls us

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Lesya Li

Lesya Li

Founder, Head of Content at HavingTime
Lesya Li is a founder of HavingTime – a digitally native story magazine for people that need to share inspiration and be inspired.
Lesya Li
Lesya Li
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