We all have an ability. The difference is how we use it. – Stevie Wonder
Feeling self-doubt or any kind insecurity about unfamiliar situations is absolutely normal and a natural reaction. I’m sure we have all been there. But when we feel self-doubt, it indicates that on some level we feel as if we don’t measure up to some standards, that we are not good enough, especially in relation to others.
The self-doubt and the feeling of insecurity are that FEAR of a mistake or that you will be judged and punished for the mistakes you make. But self-doubt at the end of the day is the product of our own creation. It can negatively impact you when you spend your time looking for standards in other people’s lives and thinking that their lives and what they do are BETTER compared to what you have and do.
Self-doubt creates a negative impact on your work, relationships and it kills self-esteem little by little. It also prevents us from enjoying our life to the fullest.
Insecurity takes its roots from our hairy past experiences
Think about this. When you were a kid, did you have this “Am I good enough?” doubt stuck in your mind? I highly doubt it. We don’t come here pre-programmed to be insecure… We gather our insecurities as we grow up.
Every person we meet during our life without any doubt leaves an imprint on us: negative or a positive, which is just a matter of your own evaluation.
The negative type of self-perception begins to expand and sheerly feed upon itself. And then we see the world through the filter that brings us countless “proofs” that we are not good enough…
What I’m desperately trying to say here is… SELF-DOUBT often leads to self-sabotage when you set yourself to fail miserably. The underlying emotion behind it all is… FEAR.
I’m a super-duper over-analyser. You mix that with self-doubt and pressure, and that’s never healthy. – J. Cole
Get Familiar With Self-Doubt and What it Really Means
1. You Can Go Your Own Way, Fear…
Acknowledge your self-doubt when it comes your way. Get familiar with it. What do you feel? See it for what it really is and put a label of FEAR on it.
We might have tons of movies in our imagination that run 24/7 on any subject. Self-doubt movie? You’ve got it. But keep in mind this one thing: IT’S JUST YOUR IMAGINATION. Assumptions are not facts. Period.
2. On a Scale From 1 to 10, How Grimy Is It?
So how scared are you on a scale of 1-10? Where are you exactly on that scale? How much self-doubt is there on your plate at that moment?
By acknowledging what’s going on in our hearts and minds, we enable ourselves to doubt the very “basis” of the shaky foundation of insecurity.
3. Let’s Talk Benefits of This Fear, Shall We?
So, What are the benefits of this fear exactly? Does it serve you any good? Does it keep you away from taking risks of any kind? Or probably you are scared to find yourself in an embarrassing situation? Or maybe you are terrified of trying something new, adventurous and exciting? Look at it closely. All masks are off.
The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt. ― Sylvia Plath
4.Let’s Play With That Image of Life Without FEAR
Can you imagine your life without any insecurities and self-doubt? Would it feel different at all? How would you feel if you lived without fear and low self-esteem? Would you be able to do something extraordinary without that fear? What is it that scares you and makes you believe that you cannot do or accomplish something? And here’s a thought: shall we give this thing a test-run? A try? WHY NOT?
If you hear a voice within you say „you cannot paint“, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced. ― Vincent van Gogh
Thoughts and feelings. They are just thoughts and, you know, feelings. They are far from the things we call FACTS. I challenge my thoughts, feelings and emotions all the time. I don’t like when I’m their hostage. Why do we have to become a victim of emotions and thoughts especially when they have the ability to rob us of our self-confidence?!
Give yourself a chance. Give yourself a chance to take one step at a time to change your surroundings background. Practice positivity and your self-confidence will rise accordingly. Give yourself a chance to succeed. Give it a try.
Successful people are not gifted; they just work hard, then succeed on purpose. – G.K. Nielson
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