A woman’s mind is cleaner than a man’s: She changes it more often. – Oliver Herford
Our mind has its ways to receive information, analyse it, store it and then, deal with it. But there are some tricky things it does that hold us back in life. We feel trapped without courage to move and do something meaningful. Some say that is up to our Ego to limit and intimidate when it comes to enriching eternal potential, some people believe that we just fall for classic “pranks” of our mind.
I don’t know the right answer. And what exactly is considered to be right or wrong? I just know that my mind has sneaky traps that I would love to avoid on daily basis. And I think, so would you.
Mind Games: 8 Sneaky Traps to Avoid
1. Stubborn Like a Mule
I used to confuse this situation with another one when you NEVER GIVE UP. To be stubborn like a mule refers to the time when we do the same thing without succeeding but we still proceed expecting the desirable result. It’s that time when we keep crushing our heads against a brick wall thinking that one day we will break that wall instead of breaking our heads.
It’s like singing before the empty arena when no one listens and everyone left home hours ago. Stop repeating actions that don’t bring any results. If something doesn’t work, don’t be stubborn by repeating it over and over again because if you keep doing so, the result will not change.
2. Amplifying the Efforts
It’s when your mind tells you that a simple solution to a simple challenge is not enough. It’s when you are chasing a mosquito with a hammer. It’s when we are flying from London to New York through Hong Kong.
This trap turns you into neurotic perfectionist that wastes energy on those extra efforts seeking appreciation from those who are around. In another words, people, myself included, who get trapped and fall over this pitfall, seem to have this hidden talent of creating extra trouble where there shouldn’t be any to begin with.
3. Captured & Fixated
It’s when our mind puts us in the loop and we go on and on and on… There are next to limitless things we can get fixated on. And it’s yet another energy draining experience we need to avoid.
I have certain things I get completely captured by. One of them is ridiculous punctuality. Although some people admire my punctuality, they don’t see the whole picture. Whenever I have somewhere to be I would go and check the clock every ten minutes to make sure there is not a chance I will be late. I get fixated on the clock and become its hostage. I rush through the house getting things ready even when there is plenty of time to get it done. It creates this stressful state that I don’t enjoy and find extremely difficult to escape.
But at the end of the day, it’s only a matter of perspective. It’s just a trap.
4. If I Could Turn Back Time…
This is the time when our mind runs into the past. It runs there especially if some outcomes weren’t as satisfying as we were hoping them to be. So it runs there and spends a considerable amount of time giving us an endless train of possibilities of “coulda woulda shoulda”. And we go down our memory lane spending hours daydreaming and playing that invisible theatre of our past where we put ourselves into the role of the main director thinking that NOW we can change something in that play.
This is that time when we begin the sentence with the words: “What if…” that sends us into the trap of the Neverland.
Past stays there… in the past. The only thing we can do about it is to change the way we see it, accept it and move on.
5. A Few Steps Ahead of You…
When I think about this trap, it reminds me of the greatest multi-tusker I know: my mum. She starts solving the problem before she even hears all the conditions. She just jumps on full speed into the mess trying to tackle it and, most importantly, BEFORE anyone else did it first.
This trap makes us try to predict the future. It makes us live there, in the future that DOESN’T EXIST yet.
6. Change Direction? You Wish!
I bet we have all been there when our alarm clock went off and our cozy warm bed had no plans to let us out. We simply didn’t want to change the direction of our mind and turn it towards facing a new day.
This is the time when you are doing something so interesting and captivating that you do not want to change direction and switch to doing something that is more important or urgent.
This state of mind is where you play a game and something comes up but you just don’t feel like doing it even if it’s important. Because we are all afraid of the risk of coming out of our comfort zone.
Sometimes it happens that we have all the motivation and determination in the world in our pockets, but… somehow something constantly comes up and steals our attention away and LETS DELAYING begin.
Instead of going through even the smallest tasks, we keep procrastinating and delaying finishing them of. We are waiting for things to get done themselves.
This trap is very annoying and energy draining. It is when we do less than we are capable of during the day by delaying our tasks and challenges till tomorrow… then another tomorrow…
Will delaying produce any positive results? I doubt it. Does it do you any personal good? Not so much. No.
8. Divide? Multitask? Sure, Go Ahead.
This is a classical trap when we divide our attention multitasking, making two or three things happening at a time. It puts our nervous system under stress of a never resting press.
But here is the thing. It is virtually impossible to divide you attention. You cannot be talking on the phone with a friend gossiping around and at the same time deciding on something important involving your job.
It is impossible to think about 2 things at the same time. Let’s try it. When I tell you think about the Eiffel Tower and don’t think about the yellow door at the same time, did you succeed? Or did your mind start sporadically jumping between the two unable to focus on any one of them properly?
Everyday I’m trying to become as free from these mind traps as possible. And I hope you will become free from these sneaky traps as well and your daily life will become a little bit happier and filled with joy and new amazing accomplishments.