“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” –Dalai Lama
Your dream job. Financial freedom. More awesome mates. A great relationship. Location independence. A drop-dead healthy and stunning body. World peace.
I don’t think many people would complain about being able to tick off the above list of accomplishments from their bucket list…but the percentage of people that have them is few, and having ALL of them, even fewer!
Where in your life are you settling for less than what you want?
And what’s your response as to why you don’t have them? It is because of bad economy? A mortgage to pay? A shy personality that you blame your mother for?
Well, I’m sorry, but I got news for you. It ain’t any of these things.
One Simple Reason WHY Most People Never Get What They Want
The reason why most people don’t get what they want in life is that they ’re not willing to do what it takes to get it.
For most of us, achieving what we want to achieve requires massive change. It needs putting ourselves out there. It requires effort. It involves risk. It requires sacrifice. It requires facing failure and rejection. It requires perseverance.
But there’s another part of our beautiful human brain that doesn’t want any of these things. It wants safety, security, comfort, and familiarity. And unfortunately, most people spend too much time listening to this part of the brain instead of ignoring it and doing things anyway.
Ask anyone who has gotten to the top of their game, who’s created a life they love, a life on their terms and not someone else’s, and they will all tell you that it wasn’t easy, but it was worth it. Discomfort is the price of greatness.
For me, the thought of having to work a 9-5 (or more realistically 8-6) and having to negotiate my time off felt far more painful to me than the ups and downs of growing a business. The thought of feeling guilty and being unfit is far more painful than dragging my ass out of bed to exercise each day. The idea of being lonely is worse than the thought of having to say hello to the person I’d like to become friends with or go on a date with.
Whatever path you choose in life, there will be difficulties and downsides that come with it, in as much as there will be rewards and highlights too. So rather than fantasizing about what you want and being miserable for not getting it or giving up, choose your journey and embrace the ups and downs instead. Choose the path with its rewards and difficulties and walk it. If you find yourself moaning about your circumstances, realize that you are choosing those circumstances and there are always alternatives you can choose. You just got to be prepared to work for it.