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One Fundamental Thing You Need to Know About Self Esteem

We all have fears, we all know what it's like to feel stuck in the middle without a clue what to do and how to overcome that wall and to move forward. We all have fears undoubtedly, but this doesn't mean that we have to sit still in one place and be overtaken by mould while fear keeps us from taking action... It is irrelevant how tall that fire-wall of fear might be – we can make our breakthrough as long as we understand that it's up to us really. We can build our self-confidence brick by brick, one step at a time. And every little achievement on that journey will reinforce new achievements, therefore, new self-confidence to move on and beyond what we aspire to or think is possible.

Creating More Joy in Your Life Right Now

I recall a time when severe heart pains shot through my chest and startled me out of a deep sleep. This happened so often that I scheduled a doctor’s appointment. Surely, something was horribly wrong with my heart. Although my test results returned normal I didn’t feel fine. I had a beautiful life by society’s standards —a husband, 2 children, a house, and a “good” job. However, I worked long hours, I never saw my children, and my marriage was strained. My work no longer fulfilled me, my husband no longer fulfilled me, and my beliefs no longer fulfilled me. The song that sang inside of my head was sad and melancholic. Occasionally, what I thought was joy would surface but it would quickly dissipate into my dark and gloomy thoughts... I do whatever it takes to change my thoughts (sing, read, watch a good comedy) and when I shift my thoughts my mood follows. You can do this too.

No More Nightmares: Empowering Lesson From a Bad Dream

I had a dream within a dream today. Something that happens quite often. Have you ever had the feeling that you should learn something, you know it makes sense (for everyone else) and yet you haven't experienced its magnitude on yourself? "Learn to appreciate what you have before time makes you appreciate what you had".

How to Deal With Emotional Baggage Effectively

All That You Can't Leave Behind...Why can’t you move on and let the past go? What is it with us and that enormous emotional baggage that we tend to carry around? Imagine yourself standing in the heavy pouring rain with an empty bucket. The longer we stand there holding the bucket, the heavier it gets. It gets heavier rather quickly, doesn't it? How long can we hold it for? There comes a point in time when we need to release it before it gets too overwhelming...

5 Reasons Taking People Seriously Can Change Your Life

5 Reasons Taking People Seriously Can Change Your Life. “I’d like to give thanks for this meal,” I announced at the dinner table. In my second grade class, I had just learned the importance of being grateful, and thought my parents would be proud of me. I bowed my head and closed my eyes. Then, I heard chuckles. When I opened my eyes, I saw Mom and Dad giving me the same look they reserved for a puppy. “You’re so cute,” they said. My seven-year-old self became angry. I didn’t intend to be “cute.” This was serious business! All I wanted was to be taken seriously; to make a contribution. As years passed, I realized I wasn’t the only one feeling this way. All of us want to feel that we’re making a difference in the world, or at least in someone’s life, and yet, we forget that everyone around us also feels this way. Creating deep and long-lasting human connections is possible only when...

Perfectly Imperfect: Releasing the Shame That Binds You

Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. Every day, we get up and we talk about topics that we are comfortable with. We might chit-chat about a movie we saw over the weekend with a friend or talk about our chances for promotion with our husband. Somehow, we manage to talk about our loves, our hopes, even our failures. What we often don't talk about is that insidious feeling that sometimes festers inside us, that makes us feel like we are nothing, that colours our very being. What we can't talk about is a shame. Where Does Shame Come From? How Do We Get Beyond Our Shame?

How to Go Far in Life With These 5 Effective Intentions

I set the intention to see purple flowers. I was reading, E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Change Your Consciousness. I was on the second experiment which called for me to test the power of intention. The experiment required that I actively look for something, anything of my choosing. As soon as I set the intention, I began to panic. After all, it was wintertime in the city. The predominant colour was gray, surrounded by more gray. It would be nearly impossible to find any flowers at all, let alone the prized and rare purple ones... But I did find them. How to Get Far in Life: Setting 5 Effective Intentions

Tough Times: On Searching and Finding The Strength That You Need

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. There are many people that I have known, and many that I know still, who are searching for something – that thing that is going to make them happy, that idea that will tip the scales in the direction of abundance, that person who make them feel like they matter.

Why High Expectations Lead to Success Instead of Disappointment

We’re told that we need to “keep our feet on the ground” and to be practical. We are guided to follow the traditional cycle of life: Be born, go to school, get a job that pays the bills, marry, have children, raise the children to follow the same cycle, retire, and watch TV until it’s time to die. And while society condemns having high expectations of success, it accepts and even encourages expectations of failure.

Accepting and Loving Yourself: Exactly the Thing That You Need

I believe narcissism is a big piece of the puzzle. For a long time, I held back from loving myself because I thought it was selfish and narcissistic. I thought to be a good person; you should concentrate on loving and taking care of other people. I thought if I was a good enough person, then someone else would discover my goodness and maybe decide I was loveable too. Then, I thought, I would feel loved. I understand now that being narcissistic is actually the exact opposite of self-love. Being narcissistic means living in service to the person you think you “should” be, rather than unconditionally loving yourself just the way you are! Do you find it challenging to truly love and take care of yourself?

Attract the Love You Desire With the Power of Choice

I went to Brazil to find myself, and I found love. Was it always easy? NO. There were many seemingly insurmountable obstacles to John and I being together and making it work. And 10 years later, that insurmountable love is brighter, stronger and lovelier than ever. When we make a commitment to choose love—just unabashedly choose love—the universe will answer us. Does it always show up in the perfect little package we expect? No, not always. But if our energy and vibration is pure, consistent and true—it will come to us. Love is our natural state. Love is the truth of who we really are. Love is our birthright.

How to Use TODAY to Make TOMORROW Better

Have you ever had a bad day that seemed to be longer than usual and completely out of control? Have you ever found yourself in the storm of one lousy situation which was fast turning into worse? And the day seemed to be so long that the only thing you dreamed about was coming back home, falling on your bed and hitting your pillow with buzzy head overwhelmed with everything... It happens sometimes. It happens to everyone without exceptions. When your day starts on a positive vibe then turns into something extremely opposite! Although it's hard to believe in the moment, but the good news is that it never lasts forever.

3 Most Powerful Lessons Learned From Criticism

Sometimes in life we will meet people who will never agree with the things we choose to do. Perhaps it's them basking in their own sea of bitterness for not being able to do the same. Or perhaps they are locked in their little shell, with a courage half of ours, to not be able to do what they want to do. But it happens, and life will always throw us into one of those situations of unfair treatment and disapproval. As unfortunate as it sounds, I was one of them. But I learned three very important lessons out of this. And I hope I can spread it to you too.

How to Become The Best Version of You

When you’re in your last days on Earth, you’ll never, ever think to yourself “I wish I’d waited longer.” Time and life won’t hold off until you’re ready. Wrapped up in our “success bubbles”, it’s easy to forget we’re not invincible. That something could happen in an hour/month/year from now that could make your lifelong dreams impossible. Take it from me. I woke up one morning to arthritis that kept me bedridden for six months. For the first time, all those things I’d been waiting for – a life between NYC and NZ, a career I loved, and the happiness I craved – almost disappeared. Are you ready for that reality? Then there are the long-term effects of life dreams on the back burner. We gradually become more and more stuck in place, and watch our motivation fizzle. We become frustrated, bored, and run down.

Stressed and Overwhelmed: 5 Ways to Calm your Overachiever

There was so much that begged for my attention and so much that I needed to get done if I wanted to take my industry by storm... But then something happened. The inspiration came and gone. I was left with the distinct desire of wanting to do nothing at all. I gave myself permission to ‘take a day off’. But it turned out the desire to do nothing had other plans, setting up shop in my mind for the rest of the entire week! I couldn’t believe it. As a world-class overachiever, I was disappointed with myself. This was no time to take breaks! This was time to take action. Yet even s0, I couldn’t help but hear a small voice whisper: RELAX.

7 Secret Actions to Boost Your Self-Esteem

In a non-egotistical way, I now have more self-confidence and love for myself than I could ever imagine, I am no longer socially awkward and I’m now holding seminars across Australia. How was I able to go from being shy and struggling to hold a conversation with one person, to being able to speak for three days in a row for 12 hours to hundreds of people… The answer? Self love. I want to reveal my secrets to instantly boost your self-confidence to help you not only love yourself more but to increase the quality of your life.

When Thoughts Pull You in Different Directions, Do This

Have you ever driven from Point A to Point B and not remembered the drive? Or have you ever got off the phone with someone and forget what you just talked about with them? Or have you ever been so worried and anxious about the future that you miss out on what's happening in the present? You may even felt stuck like you can't see a solution to a problem and all you think about is the problem and you miss what's happening around you. If any of this sounds familiar to you, you are...