Hands up if you’ve ever had a traumatic experience that you felt changed you. I’ll go first: in 2010 I had my colon removed due to cancer, and shortly after that I found out I had Lynch syndrome, which is a genetic condition that makes me more likely to get certain types of cancer in the future. I’ve written a lot about these experiences, particularly about how they have affected me emotionally. I’ve also thought a lot about how they have changed me as a person, and I’ve come to the conclusion that it hasn’t all been negative. In some ways, I’ve even changed for the better. Here are three things to think about that may help you feel better about your bad experiences too, whatever those may be.
Recognition of the effects of ‘frostbite.' It wasn’t the first time I’d seen this affliction in myself; the frostbite of the Digital Winter. I’d been suffering this disconnectedness for years sleepwalking, like those New Yorkers on the train, into the cold.
What if I tell you that I have seen you every time you tried to hide. Every time you thought of running away or actually did run away because you were too unsure you can face your problems. What if I tell you that I was there when you couldn't stand to fight for what you have always wanted because you thought it was bigger than what you could take. What if I tell you that I knew how you let your problems outgrow you when you decided to avoid them.
The idea of positive self-talk and the declarative statements that many people call “affirmations” have been around for a long time. Maybe you’ve even tried them yourself, but without much luck. I was in the same boat until recently, when I discovered one imperative wrinkle in the practice that changed everything for me (including my life). What I didn’t understand before was this: The key to an effective affirmation – or what I like to call a mantra – is not the words themselves, but how they make you feel. To be effective, a mantra has to make you feel good when you say it.
How busy is your life? Do you work long hours barely getting enough sleep? Do you tend to stress a lot? Do you often forget to take care of yourself? If you answered yes to any of those questions then you should look closer into practicing self-care, to help improve your mental health and overall quality of life.
You want to feel needed, wanted and loved. You crave that special someone's touch, kiss, and affection hoping that they will love you back as much as you do. And that’s perfectly natural. But what happens when you are in the wrong relationship when everything you do is to please your partner?
By Shereen Soliman “To change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions.” ― Stephen R. Covey This week I got in an uberpool taxi in N... Read More...
You’ve heard about the power of positivity. What happens when it doesn’t work? You can! You can! You tell yourself this enough; magic will occur. But not always...
Snapchat changed my life. You might think I’m exaggerating but as an introvert who avoids attention and confrontation at all costs, I can assure you from the bottom of my easily-offended heart that it’s the truth.
By Steven Goff “They tried to bury us; they did not know we were the seeds.” – Mexican proverb As I was walking on a windy day, leaves began to swirl arou... Read More...
Confidence comes from experience and experience comes from trying new things and occasionally failing... then trying again without stopping. In everything: studying, work, love, relationships, fulfillment. The more we stubbornly choose to expose ourselves and say yes to experiences, the more we are getting out there no matter how bumpy the road of exploring gets. We learn we grow; we move on to new lessons... like opening an advent calendar – one day at a time.
Part of my role as a clinical psychologist working with someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one is to explain that the physical pain and sense of being lost are normal. It’s tough to handle, but it’s normal.
I suspect you have heard the Serenity Prayer before. It was written by theologian Reinhold Niebuhr in the early 20th Century. (Despite some controversy a fe... Read More...
How can you expect to reach a dream that you haven't defined? And the beauty is, your dream is yours to create! It's not to be dictated to you although some may try to do just that. But you aren't held to the dreams others make for you... you are free to design your own.
You hear people talking about how great their run was and how good they feel afterwards. And so you have decided you want to try going for a run, but you don’t run often or have never tried it before. Or maybe you are not sure if you doing it right! Not to worry, I have some easy and helpful tips to get you started. Remember this: running should be enjoyable! Running should get your heart rate going, make you sweat a little (or a lot) and boost your energy, vitality, and self-confidence.
Did you know that one of the biggest obstacles to our success is stopping just before we cross the finish line of our goal? This is a normal human tendency and definitely something to be aware of. Starting an important task is difficult. Continuing with it amidst distractions and potential pitfalls is also not easy. But perhaps most challenging of all is once we are 90% complete with what we are working on, finishing that final 10% of the task.