healing

How to Heal a Relationship When the Hurt Runs Deep

“Just get over it already!” “The past is gone!” “Move on!”  All the well-wishers might offer you their best advice, but their words hurt. How so? Because the past still haunts you every moment of each day. Are new beginnings even possible?! Is healing could be real when the hurt runs deep? Can we confidently release the pain from the past once and for all and embrace the future? How do we find the strength to “press on”?... Read More...

10 Lessons I’ve Learned to Create an Amazing Love Life

Sometimes we all wish for a one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to relationships, especially when difficulties arise from time to time. We are different, we come from all walks of life... and we all build our relationships differently. Nothing is identical. But it was my observation lately that there is one thing that probably can help us all in creating amazing love life.... Read More...

5 Steps That Will Turn Your Breakup Into a Breakthrough

Have you ever begged someone to stay? Like, literally got on the floor and begged? I did that once after I discovered my husband was having an affair. I didn’t beg straight away. First I was angry. I ranted and raged and then I questioned; “Do you love her? Was she better than me? Is she beautiful?”  I asked all the crazy things that you want to know when your heart has been broken into a million little pieces.... Read More...

Releasing Resentment: How to Stop Swallowing Poison From the Past

Although normal, resentment is only useful when occurring in the short term. When it persists in the longer term, simmering under the surface, it becomes toxic for the individual experiencing it and also impacts on others they interact with. Like the old saying goes “Resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die”. A bitter person is usually someone who has been swallowing the poison of resentment for too long.... Read More...

Divorced: Opening My Heart to all the Love Again

The hot, humid July evening back in 2007 when I discovered I was pregnant was one of the best days of my life. I immediately fell in love with the little person growing inside of me, and I knew that my life would never again be the same. Knowing that I had a part of my husband growing inside of my body only intensified my love for him. I remember gazing at him and imagining the baseball playing, hockey coaching Dad he would become. I couldn't have loved him more. As my pregnancy progressed, things began to change. My husband grew distant and I grew lonely and anxious. I pushed his behavior and my feelings aside as expectant-first-time-parent-jitters.... Read More...

5 Important Things I Learned in Rehab About Self-Confidence

People seemed to like me better when I was on my party-mode, and nobody ever hid those thoughts from me. I went from being the lame, silent kid in class, to be the King. My social circle grew as wide as the whole classroom and I didn’t have to worry about how I really felt because everyone around me was thinking that I was one of the cool ones to be around. Unfortunately, that reputation only lasted for a while.... Read More...

4.4 Billion People Feel Unloved. Are You One?

I recently heard about a study that claims 60% of all humans feel like no one really loves them. That means that at any given moment some 4.4 billion people feel unloved. That number is staggering. If that many people are experiencing a lack of love in their lives it would explain why there is such a vast amount of hatred and suffering on the planet. It has been illustrated that children who grow up in households without love, as adults, they are often unable to give or accept love and can exhibit signs of self-loathing or anti-social behavior.... Read More...

Trust Your Path: When It’s Time to Break Free

It’s easy to get swept up in the hype of what everyone else is doing. It’s even more easy to lose yourself when you’re in a group following a certain path. I was part of a group of people who enrolled in a personal development course, and while it was a powerful and life changing course, something inside of me felt off. It was time to break free.... Read More...

5 Things to Consider When You Need a Relationship Advice

Relationship advice is everywhere! It seems like every time I turn around, I hear or read someone's two cents on a relationship that isn't theirs. The more I think about it, the more I believe that exposing yourself to this information is a bad idea, unless you're getting it straight from a certified professional. It's okay to occasionally vent to loved ones or read articles that give simple relationship tips every now and then. In fact, doing so can be quite helpful and therapeutic if done in moderation. But making relationship gossip and advice seeking a habit or giving away too many details to too many people can ultimately be detrimental to an otherwise perfectly good relationship. 5 Reasons to Avoid Seeking Relationship Advice From Non-Experts...... Read More...

5 Steps to Find Peace After a Painful Breakup

It’s the oldest story in the world: Love is gained, it blooms and then it fades out or is squashed by outside forces. It’s always a learning experience and sometimes lost love can be tragic, visceral and all encompassing. As painful as it may feel at the time, it is a lesson that is acting upon each of us in ways that we can’t always see in the heat of the moment. ... Read More...

How to Deal With Emotional Baggage Effectively

All That You Can't Leave Behind...Why can’t you move on and let the past go? What is it with us and that enormous emotional baggage that we tend to carry around? Imagine yourself standing in the heavy pouring rain with an empty bucket. The longer we stand there holding the bucket, the heavier it gets. It gets heavier rather quickly, doesn't it? How long can we hold it for? There comes a point in time when we need to release it before it gets too overwhelming...... Read More...

Perfectly Imperfect: Releasing the Shame That Binds You

Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. Every day, we get up and we talk about topics that we are comfortable with. We might chit-chat about a movie we saw over the weekend with a friend or talk about our chances for promotion with our husband. Somehow, we manage to talk about our loves, our hopes, even our failures. What we often don't talk about is that insidious feeling that sometimes festers inside us, that makes us feel like we are nothing, that colours our very being. What we can't talk about is a shame. Where Does Shame Come From? How Do We Get Beyond Our Shame? ... Read More...

16 Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances of Getting Back Together

I've always maintained that fresh heartbreak leads people to make all kinds of poor decisions. These are things to stay away from if you're struggling with getting over a breakup. I've done every single thing on this list, so if you've already stumbled and made a few of these breakup mistakes, know that you're in good company. If you've been broken up with, here are 16 things to avoid doing at all costs. 16 Breakup Mistakes That Kill Your Chances of Getting Back Together... Read More...

Tough Times: On Searching and Finding The Strength That You Need

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. There are many people that I have known, and many that I know still, who are searching for something – that thing that is going to make them happy, that idea that will tip the scales in the direction of abundance, that person who make them feel like they matter. ... Read More...

How to Use TODAY to Make TOMORROW Better

Have you ever had a bad day that seemed to be longer than usual and completely out of control? Have you ever found yourself in the storm of one lousy situation which was fast turning into worse? And the day seemed to be so long that the only thing you dreamed about was coming back home, falling on your bed and hitting your pillow with buzzy head overwhelmed with everything... It happens sometimes. It happens to everyone without exceptions. When your day starts on a positive vibe then turns into something extremely opposite! Although it's hard to believe in the moment, but the good news is that it never lasts forever.... Read More...

3 Most Powerful Lessons Learned From Criticism

Sometimes in life we will meet people who will never agree with the things we choose to do. Perhaps it's them basking in their own sea of bitterness for not being able to do the same. Or perhaps they are locked in their little shell, with a courage half of ours, to not be able to do what they want to do. But it happens, and life will always throw us into one of those situations of unfair treatment and disapproval. As unfortunate as it sounds, I was one of them. But I learned three very important lessons out of this. And I hope I can spread it to you too.... Read More...

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