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One Fundamental Thing You Need to Know About Self Esteem

We all have fears, we all know what it's like to feel stuck in the middle without a clue what to do and how to overcome that wall and to move forward. We all have fears undoubtedly, but this doesn't mean that we have to sit still in one place and be overtaken by mould while fear keeps us from taking action... It is irrelevant how tall that fire-wall of fear might be – we can make our breakthrough as long as we understand that it's up to us really. We can build our self-confidence brick by brick, one step at a time. And every little achievement on that journey will reinforce new achievements, therefore, new self-confidence to move on and beyond what we aspire to or think is possible.

How to Let Go of the Burdens That Hold You Back

When you think of the phrase 'letting go', it conjures up all sorts of images, thoughts and feelings doesn't it? Freedom, free falling, a sigh of relief, moving forwards, uncertainly - all kinds of things. Learning to know how and when to let go has been a big one for me. Letting go ultimately enables me to stress less, sleep more, feel free and just 'be'. It also brings up fear and uncertainty but for me, that's much better than the stress, angst and anxiety of clinging on. The thing about letting go is that in today's society we're not really conditioned to embrace it. It's all about being proactive and making stuff happen. Also, as someone building a business, there are many things I need to do and goals to achieve and 'letting go' doesn't really support that notion of work, work, work until you succeed! However, what I have found - in all areas of life actually, is that by letting go you let in all the things that in some weird, mystical or mysterious way, work for you so that all that graft doesn't feel quite so much like the 'sweat, blood and tears' we apparently need to endure to get things done.

Having Trouble Meditating? Try This

“Turn off your mind, relax and float downstream,” goes the Beatles song: Tomorrow Never Knows. Ever since the Fab Four went to India in 1968 to study transcendental meditation with the Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, the concept of meditation has steadily seeped into Western culture and language. By far the biggest roadblock for most people is they have trouble getting their mind to turn off. Trying to stop the mind from producing thoughts during mediation is the number one reason people quit in frustration. Having Trouble Meditating? Try This...

Genuine Happiness: 10 Ways to Live Freely in Love

Love is not just a feeling, but a state of being and a way of living everyday… Having grown up surrounded by fear I longed for freedom and love, but this took finding enough bravery in myself to discover what that really means to be free; authentically me, trusting in love and able to be loved freely!

4 Reasons Why Being Alone Doesn’t Mean Lonely

Alone doesn't have to mean lonely. Having just moved to a new place where I only know a few people, I’ve spent a lot of time alone the last few months. At first, I was sad, lonely, even depressed without my friends around. But I’ve been learning that there’s an art to being alone and if you can work on it, it can bring a lot of positivity to your life! Society may tell you that you need a significant other, but I say, tune that out and read this list. Being alone might be just what you need!

5 Reasons Taking People Seriously Can Change Your Life

5 Reasons Taking People Seriously Can Change Your Life. “I’d like to give thanks for this meal,” I announced at the dinner table. In my second grade class, I had just learned the importance of being grateful, and thought my parents would be proud of me. I bowed my head and closed my eyes. Then, I heard chuckles. When I opened my eyes, I saw Mom and Dad giving me the same look they reserved for a puppy. “You’re so cute,” they said. My seven-year-old self became angry. I didn’t intend to be “cute.” This was serious business! All I wanted was to be taken seriously; to make a contribution. As years passed, I realized I wasn’t the only one feeling this way. All of us want to feel that we’re making a difference in the world, or at least in someone’s life, and yet, we forget that everyone around us also feels this way. Creating deep and long-lasting human connections is possible only when...

This Might Make You Happy and Stress-Free

Granted, we all give things different meaning according to our life experience, the way we think and tend to reflect, but… Why is it so addictive to think and react to the negative things? Why it is so challenging sometimes to stay truly present, to enjoy the very moment of our existence NOW? We live now. Not in the past, nor in the future. We live in the NOW. Your Ability to Appreciate and Enjoy the Moment of NOW is What Matters the Most!

Going Unplugged: The Counterintuitive Way to Increase Your Energy

If you are a driven, ambitious, go-getter, the idea of taking a rest day, going unplugged and slowing down can feel baffling, counter-intuitive and well ain’t nobody got time for that. What if I told you that giving yourself a break every once in a while on a consistent basis can improve your productivity, would you do it? When you try to control everything, you enjoy nothing. Sometimes you just need to relax, breathe, let go and live in the moment.

Why High Expectations Lead to Success Instead of Disappointment

We’re told that we need to “keep our feet on the ground” and to be practical. We are guided to follow the traditional cycle of life: Be born, go to school, get a job that pays the bills, marry, have children, raise the children to follow the same cycle, retire, and watch TV until it’s time to die. And while society condemns having high expectations of success, it accepts and even encourages expectations of failure.

Changing Today for a Better Tomorrow: 5 Simple Steps

Granted, nothing stands still and everything stirs in the constant flow of everlasting change. Whether we like it or not, everything's changing. Resistance? It's pointless. The question is simple: are we interested to introduce some mild yet mindful changes into our daily life? Are we interested changing our ways today for a better tomorrow? Is it really necessary? How happy we are today? How happy we are with things that happen around us?

Accepting and Loving Yourself: Exactly the Thing That You Need

I believe narcissism is a big piece of the puzzle. For a long time, I held back from loving myself because I thought it was selfish and narcissistic. I thought to be a good person; you should concentrate on loving and taking care of other people. I thought if I was a good enough person, then someone else would discover my goodness and maybe decide I was loveable too. Then, I thought, I would feel loved. I understand now that being narcissistic is actually the exact opposite of self-love. Being narcissistic means living in service to the person you think you “should” be, rather than unconditionally loving yourself just the way you are! Do you find it challenging to truly love and take care of yourself?

How to Become The Best Version of You

When you’re in your last days on Earth, you’ll never, ever think to yourself “I wish I’d waited longer.” Time and life won’t hold off until you’re ready. Wrapped up in our “success bubbles”, it’s easy to forget we’re not invincible. That something could happen in an hour/month/year from now that could make your lifelong dreams impossible. Take it from me. I woke up one morning to arthritis that kept me bedridden for six months. For the first time, all those things I’d been waiting for – a life between NYC and NZ, a career I loved, and the happiness I craved – almost disappeared. Are you ready for that reality? Then there are the long-term effects of life dreams on the back burner. We gradually become more and more stuck in place, and watch our motivation fizzle. We become frustrated, bored, and run down.

Stressed and Overwhelmed: 5 Ways to Calm your Overachiever

There was so much that begged for my attention and so much that I needed to get done if I wanted to take my industry by storm... But then something happened. The inspiration came and gone. I was left with the distinct desire of wanting to do nothing at all. I gave myself permission to ‘take a day off’. But it turned out the desire to do nothing had other plans, setting up shop in my mind for the rest of the entire week! I couldn’t believe it. As a world-class overachiever, I was disappointed with myself. This was no time to take breaks! This was time to take action. Yet even s0, I couldn’t help but hear a small voice whisper: RELAX.

Deep Listening: Taking a Sure Path to Authentic Relationships

I found the deep listening exercise challenging but also incredibly liberating! I was no longer focused on myself. I was instead focused on the storytellers, and my purpose was to seek a deep understanding of their experiences. The Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh has spoken often of the power of deep listening. He explained: “Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of another person. You can call it compassionate listening. You listen with only one purpose: to help him or her to empty his heart.”

7 Secret Actions to Boost Your Self-Esteem

In a non-egotistical way, I now have more self-confidence and love for myself than I could ever imagine, I am no longer socially awkward and I’m now holding seminars across Australia. How was I able to go from being shy and struggling to hold a conversation with one person, to being able to speak for three days in a row for 12 hours to hundreds of people… The answer? Self love. I want to reveal my secrets to instantly boost your self-confidence to help you not only love yourself more but to increase the quality of your life.

When Thoughts Pull You in Different Directions, Do This

Have you ever driven from Point A to Point B and not remembered the drive? Or have you ever got off the phone with someone and forget what you just talked about with them? Or have you ever been so worried and anxious about the future that you miss out on what's happening in the present? You may even felt stuck like you can't see a solution to a problem and all you think about is the problem and you miss what's happening around you. If any of this sounds familiar to you, you are...