Everybody has problems on daily basis. Some of them are tiny, some of them can seem like “the end of the world”. Sometimes problems can easily be solved by themselves, some of them are eating a lot more time than we would prefer, and there are problems that can be seen as impossible to solve.
Personally, I believe that each problem, despite the challenges that come with it, is brought to us as another self-development step. And you have a decision to make whether you are a part of the problem, or a part of it’s solution!
If worrying over your problems eats your nervous system away and you barely sleep and eat – STOP. You will not solve anything by stressing yourself out of your mind. Sometimes everything sucks and you can’t see a way out. But there are plenty of ways out. I promise. Turn your bunch of problems into a GAME. Create your rules. Prioritise. Push your CREATIVITY out more! And learn to gain a playful approach to any challenge possible. Reward yourself after every accomplishment on your problem solving journey.
I never forget my step down from a helicopter on 5 May 2002. That was my first skydive. And I will definitely remember my first scuba diving experience I had this year. But it wouldn’t had happen if only I gave in to that fear. How stupid I would have felt if I let those opportunities to try something new pass me by…..
Fear paralyses you. It owns you. Completely. Instead of being the BIOTCH of your fear you have to overcome it. Build confidence on the ashes of your fear and you will find your happiness and success. No limits.
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face…You must do the thing you think you cannot do — Eleanor Roosevelt
Whining out and about
I had this annoying friend who had no better business than call and whine about the same stupid problem over and over and over again. At first, I felt very sympathetic towards him and offered my advice continuously. He ignored the problem solving tool I suggested and instead he started whining even more. Some people just like attention so much – that they choose not to do anything about their problems as they often think it will leave them with no (better) topics to discuss. That is wrong. So I bailed. It’s never OK to flush your precious time down the toilet of unproductivity. I respect myself and my time on this Earth enough to give my help to those who really listen. So if you have this tendency to call your friend and talk about how crappy your life is in never ending pointless conversations – STOP IT. If you have a problem – solve it. Don’t parade it.
You have to decide ONE & ONLY thing – whether you are a PART of the problem, or a part of it’s solution.
Concentrate on things you CAN control
Some problems are like fireworks – fast, shiny and hard to prioritise and concentrate on one thing at a time. But don’t get distracted that easily and concentrate on things you can control. One thing at a time.
I wish you the best of luck in solving your problems, becoming even more experienced than yesterday! You have a freedom to be yourself here and now…