Lesya Li

One Thing You Probably Didn’t Know About Social Media

Social Media gave me false sense of a constant "presence" next to people I cared for. If you asked me about the most memorable text message or Skype conversation, I would probably fail to recall anything. Because all the fun, great and extraordinary things that we will remember are happening out there right now in the real and beautiful world. And I would find them only if I chose to look up.... Read More...

This Will Help You to Recover From a Toxic Friendship

People themselves aren't toxic. Nevertheless, sometimes our temperaments might don't align together and then"toxicity" appears. It's nobody's fault. We might not pay attention, although with time there comes a time when you are taken by surprise discovering something you haven't seen all these years of being friends. Whether it is an overwhelming feeling of being exhausted and emotionally drained after you spent some time together with someone, eventually the veil has to come down.... Read More...

How to Diffuse Any Argument: 3 Helpful Tips

Let's agree for a moment that arguments are pointless. Let's concede that there's not a single person in this world who thinks exactly the way you think, who knows and believes the things you know and believe, nor acts and responds to certain situations specifically in the same manner you would. Obviously, we need to remember this if we want to get along with people.... Read More...

How to Deal With Emotional Baggage Effectively

All That You Can't Leave Behind...Why can’t you move on and let the past go? What is it with us and that enormous emotional baggage that we tend to carry around? Imagine yourself standing in the heavy pouring rain with an empty bucket. The longer we stand there holding the bucket, the heavier it gets. It gets heavier rather quickly, doesn't it? How long can we hold it for? There comes a point in time when we need to release it before it gets too overwhelming...... Read More...

What to Do When You Don’t Feel Like Doing Anything

Why We Don't Feel Like Doing Anything? Have you ever woken up and felt like you don't want to do anything? Energy levels are low, so as your mood and any desire to shift yourself throughout your day using legs... Why do kids run chasing pigeons in a local park and look so happy, vibrant, energetic and content? Because they find their joy in every step they take and in every movement. They seem to be happy to be able to take themselves from point A to point B. They find joy in every movement because most emotions are created by motion which is absolutely true. Therefore, the more we move, the better we feel.... Read More...

8 Important Things We Wish to Forget but Essential to Remember

I have a book which was my to-got-to friend from the earliest age. It is a huge book and it looks like a brick :) I call it a brick of wisdom. Sometimes I find it comforting to address my questions and find some answers there. Surprisingly, by revisiting the same book every year, somehow I always find something new to discover... new conclusions, new thoughts and ideas. But most importantly I've found essential things to remember that are too easy to forget.... Read More...

The Root of Envy and How to Cut it Immediately

We see other people going through life passing us by in "better" cars, having better relationships, kids, jobs, travelling adventures, opportunities and a bundle of astonishing achievements... Granted, we don't see the whole story behind the facade of someone else's "perfect" life. What we keep telling ourselves are the stories why we don't have what they have, or even worse, why we don't deserve to have better things in our lives. It's hard to feed an ungrateful wolf – it never seems enough. We go through Facebook updates and wonder even more how come that our friends seem to have more blessings, more joy, more fun... they seem to have it all. That awful feeling with a hot flush of jealousy overtakes our minds and souls and drifts us further away from focusing on the good that we already have in life. We seem to forget all at once that gratitude is the antidote to envy. It's easy to forget it while we are in a slump of envy, but it essential to remember when we are taking action to get out.... Read More...

How to Use TODAY to Make TOMORROW Better

Have you ever had a bad day that seemed to be longer than usual and completely out of control? Have you ever found yourself in the storm of one lousy situation which was fast turning into worse? And the day seemed to be so long that the only thing you dreamed about was coming back home, falling on your bed and hitting your pillow with buzzy head overwhelmed with everything... It happens sometimes. It happens to everyone without exceptions. When your day starts on a positive vibe then turns into something extremely opposite! Although it's hard to believe in the moment, but the good news is that it never lasts forever.... Read More...

What We Should Learn About Love Right Now

Since the early age I was frequently told that there will come a day when, after some good chasing, longing, yearning and the ultimate hide and seek game, probably, if I am lucky enough, I will find that notorious "other half". Since the early age the idea that I am not WHOLE enough, not complete enough was haunting me. That idea of "INCOMPLETENESS" looked like a sad goon that would never leave my side. Back then I didn't know that I was deeply conditioned, tricked into a blind belief that in order to feel whole and complete I have to go and find my "other half". Meaning that I would have to accept the notion that my happiness/unhappiness is dependent on another person. Does it sound familiar? Subconsciously I felt resentment towards the idea that I needed someone to complete me in order to be truly happy but I couldn't quite figure out how to put that feeling into solid words.... Read More...

45 Movies That Will Change The Way You See The World

1.The Pursuit of Happyness (By Gabriele Muccino) 2006 2. A Good Year (Ridley Scott) 2006 3. Pay It Forward (Mimi Leder) 2000 4. Stranger Than Fiction (Marc Forster) 2006 5. Knocking On Heaven’s Door (Thomas Jahn) 1997 6. Feast of Love (Robert Benton) 2007 7. Sweet November (Pat O’Connor) 2001 8. The Lake House (Alejandro Agresti) 2006 9. The Truman Show (Peter Weir) 1998 10. The Family Man (Brett Ratner) 2000... Read More...

Staying Happy No Matter What: 5 Simple Steps

Life is hectic. Sometimes it becomes so overwhelming that we hardly have a chance to catch our breath trying to keep our mind calm and stress-free. Deadlines, new projects, new assignments, goals, dreams and our desire to succeed make our mind race against the time exhausting it in the process. We go to bed with a list of things we failed to do; we wake up with a list that doubles. The whole experience is extremely energy draining, and it establishes stress and unrest in your life.... Read More...

Mistakes Are Proof That You Are Trying

We have all been there... we all made mistakes: big and little ones. From "pink elephant in the room" to seamless yet vital ones. We can all show a scar or two as a result of those invaluable life lessons. Some people grow stronger and stay positive no matter what happened yesterday. Some people, including me, sometimes feel so petrified with the outcome of some actions that taking another step is like walking and shaking on the rope that's been stretched over the chasm of uncertainty down below.... Read More...

Break Free From the Past

We’ve all been hurt by another person at some time or another — we were treated badly, trust was broken, hearts were hurt. Sometimes our mind overflows with memories. Some memories tend to bring nothing but pain. Then we wonder if it’s even ... Read More...

Why Do People Discourage & How to Pursue Your Dreams Nevertheless

Why Do People Discourage & How to Pursue Your Dreams Nevertheless We are in great danger when we encounter people who make us question ourselves and our abilities to do anything. It might even hurt when someone else is not only doubting your abilities but makes you question yourself even more. The best way to put some daylight on this is to get an idea why do people tend to discourage others in the first place. What is exactly standing behind that?... Read More...

Lesya Li

Lesya is a curious storyteller, a chronic insomniac, avid book reader, psychology nerd, and the founder of havingtime – a digital magazine and a worldwide movement rooted in impactful storytelling and mindfulness. Stay in touch with Lesya via Twitter and Instagram.

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