Change Archives — HavingTime

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ― Albert Einstein

The Power of a Positive NO & How it Changes Your Life for the Better

Saying ‘no’ is difficult even when it's a positive NO. We are so used to saying yes to a lot of things and coming up with excuses when we should have just said no. There are people you feel like you can never say no to such as close friends, your boss or even your family. However, it is high time you learned that sometimes declining to do things will bring a positive impact on your life. It can enable you to achieve your dreams and become more successful in life.... Read More...

How to Save Yourself From Drowning in Other People’s Expectations

In the last few years, we have heard the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) more and more in popular culture. An estimated 1 in 5 people have the SPS (Sensory Processing Sensitivity) trait, which is the scientific term behind the more colloquial term Highly Sensitive Person, popularized by Dr. Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking book of the same name. If you have the SPS trait and are an HSP, you are hardwired to notice subtleties that other people miss. You are also highly tuned in to other people’s emotions and moods.... Read More...

This is Why Most People Give Up on Their Dreams

So this is for you when you’re tired of trying. When you’re on the verge of giving up. Or if you’re contemplating not even starting.... Read More...

What my dog’s Cancer Taught me about Living a Good Life

Dogs are our wonderful guides through life, teaching us invaluable lessons on love, relationships, how to live in a moment and what makes a good life lived well.... Read More...

The Life-Changing Magic of Validating Your Feelings

Growing up, I developed a deep need for validation. Validation of my feelings. I’m assuming this is the same for most children: we look to our parents and other people around us for guidance. We are praised for doing things “right” and told off for doing things “wrong.” I’d say that most of us are raised with a binary view of the world: it is good and that is bad. It is normal and abnormal. Appropriate and inappropriate. And those seem clear cut – only that they aren’t and growing up we are always trying to figure out what is expected of us and it can feel like walking a tightrope.... Read More...

The 2 Most Important Questions to Ask Yourself Every Day

We need to be proactive about creating practical, sustainable self-care habits and include both short-term and long-term focused self-care activities in our weeks. And there are two most important questions you should ask yourself every day to help you with that.... Read More...

What Happens When You go on a 10-day Vipassana Meditation Retreat

Vipassana meditation means "to see things as they really are" – and in this story, we are talking about a 10-day retreat in which one takes a vow of silence and... Read More...

4 Things You Need to Know to Live Your Best Life

We live in an ever-changing world of constant comparison, looking at people's carefully curated digital lives, wistfully wishing that we had more of what they h... Read More...

Why Do People Stay Stuck When They Are Unhappy?

Why do we get stuck and unhappy in life? The ability to quiet a busy mind isn’t as impossible as most people think. However, we tend to believe that this is just ‘the way we are’ and feel stuck living our lives with a constant stream of thought, one after another, after another. We don’t consider there is a better, less stressful and more peaceful way to live. But there is.... Read More...

How to Be Less Judgemental About People

How do you deal with judgemental people? The truth is, we are all judgmental without an exception because it’s human nature. And yet, even though it is in our code to be judgmental – it’s hardly ever useful to us. It makes us look down on people as if we are way better than the next person on the street; judgment creates huge division between people –– so much so we won't even make an effort to get to know that person, or try to understand them, or try to see whether our judgment was right in the first place.... Read More...

How to Clean Up & Keep the Oceans Free From Plastic

Does plastic ever go away disappearing in thin air, or, shall we ask, does plastic simply vanish in the ocean over time? Global plastic pollution crisis is now at its highest since records began; sadly, plastic waste can now be found on every beach in the world, whether that is your local beach or a distant tropical island. Alarmingly, the amount of single-use plastic in the ocean is set to increase tenfold by 2020. Moreover, current estimates show that at least 8 million pieces of plastic end up in our oceans every single day! We are drowning in it, so let's put our heads together and figure out how to clean up the mess and keep our oceans free from plastic; we need to act fast.... Read More...

How to Stay Calm When it Feels Like Your Life is About to Fall Apart

Listen, I wish I could tell you it gets better, but it doesn’t get better. You get better. Joan Rivers said these words back in 2011, talking about her calling as a comedian and actress. But – as it goes with insightful thoughts conjured up by vibrant minds – Joan’s words stretch far beyond the context in which they came to life.... Read More...

One Powerful Thing You Can Do to Fund Your Dream

We all have dreams. Some of those dreams need investments. So have you ever wondered how you CAN find money to fund your dreams?... Read More...

From Hopeless to Hopeful: How to Rebuild Your Life

Everyone has pain. No one gets through life without scratches and bruises and scars. But if you can learn how to rebuild your life after experiencing intense deep pain, it becomes easier to see that pain has a purpose. Pain can lead us from hopeless to hopeful.... Read More...

How ONE Simple Key to Behavior Change Can Improve Your Life

“If [more] information was the answer, then we’d all be billionaires with perfect abs.” – Derek Sivers We will never run out of information, but what really separates the billionaire from the beggar, the triathlete from the lazy couch potato, and the happy joyful person from the deeply depressed one is this: doing the work + one simple key to behavior change that CAN improve your life.... Read More...

Feeling Stuck in Life? How to Never Get Stuck Again

Feeling stuck is a wonderful telltale sign that it's time to make a move and introduce some changes in your life. Yes, those changes are meant to shake-up your old patterns, create new energy and propel you forward, changing your outlook on life. Whenever you feel stuck and unhappy, it indicates that something isn't working for you anymore.... Read More...

When Owning Too Many Things Get in the Way of All the Good Things

Do we have too much stuff?! Let's face it, along with the hard earned money that’s being constantly wasted buying clothes that we never wear, having too many things makes it much harder to stay organized, isn't it? So why do we own too many things and does it get in the way of all the good things?... Read More...

What Happens When You Accept Yourself & Stop Seeking Approval?

“By accepting yourself and being fully what you are, your presence can make others happy.” – Jane Roberts... Read More...

How to Leave a Toxic Relationship and Move On With Your Life

You want to feel needed, wanted and loved. You crave that special someone's touch, kiss, and affection hoping that they will love you back as much as you do. And that’s perfectly natural. But what happens when you are in the wrong relationship when everything you do is to please your partner?... Read More...

How to Find Peace and Joy & Release Deep Emotional Pain

Until you allow yourself to fully embrace that you are 100% responsible for writing your own future, there will be always this slight disconnect between where you are and what you think about where you’re at. You can always choose to turn pain into incredible power. Start working out where the pain stems from, understand that there's a lesson to be learned, and turn your new knowledge into massive positive action, and see yourself coming through any suffering a stronger, more resilient person.... Read More...

If You Struggle With Anxiety, These 3 Steps Will Change Your Life

There is a natural way to stop severe anxiety from controlling your life. Here are three steps that are guaranteed to help you treat anxiety, including anxiety attacks, once and for all.... Read More...

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