Let Go Archives — HavingTime

The past can keep us imprisoned if we don’t learn to let go of painful memories, preventing us from moving on in a healthier, happier way.

How to Take Your Relationship to the Next Level

With the high divorce rate in the United States, many couples are waiting longer to get married, and rightly so. The CDC reports that almost three out of every ... Read More...

Healthy Divorce: How to Make your Split as Smooth as Possible

It is estimated that as many as 50% of marriages end in divorce. Of those, a number will involve children. Divorce can be a very stressful, excruciatingly painf... Read More...

Why Breakups are Devastating and How to Heal From Pain

Have you ever had to go through a devastating breakup; the kind of breakup when you were hurting deeply, and it felt rather unlikely ever to find healing and bounce back from being an emotional wreck sobbing on the bathroom floor. Breakups do that to us; they rip us into million shreds from the inside out, and the emotional pain can be unbearable. But let’s pause for a moment and investigate why is that so? Why do breakups unstitch us so spectacularly and how can we heal from pain?... Read More...

One Powerful Thing You Can Do to Fund Your Dream

We all have dreams. Some of those dreams need investments. So have you ever wondered how you CAN find money to fund your dreams?... Read More...

When Owning Too Many Things Get in the Way of All the Good Things

Do we have too much stuff?! Let's face it, along with the hard earned money that’s being constantly wasted buying clothes that we never wear, having too many things makes it much harder to stay organized, isn't it? So why do we own too many things and does it get in the way of all the good things?... Read More...

What Happens When You Accept Yourself & Stop Seeking Approval?

“By accepting yourself and being fully what you are, your presence can make others happy.” – Jane Roberts... Read More...

How to Leave a Toxic Relationship and Move On With Your Life

You want to feel needed, wanted and loved. You crave that special someone's touch, kiss, and affection hoping that they will love you back as much as you do. And that’s perfectly natural. But what happens when you are in the wrong relationship when everything you do is to please your partner?... Read More...

How to Find Peace and Joy & Release Deep Emotional Pain

Until you allow yourself to fully embrace that you are 100% responsible for writing your own future, there will be always this slight disconnect between where you are and what you think about where you’re at. You can always choose to turn pain into incredible power. Start working out where the pain stems from, understand that there's a lesson to be learned, and turn your new knowledge into massive positive action, and see yourself coming through any suffering a stronger, more resilient person.... Read More...

How to Clear Your Headspace & Feel at Ease

Does a clear headspace really mean a clear mind? What is the best way to clear your mind anyway? It's quite simple.... Read More...

How to Release Painful Memories & Thrive No Matter What

Trauma and painful memories associated with it is a challenging subject to bring up in any conversation. It's not often that you even hear about it, despite the... Read More...

How to Remarkably Improve Your Life with Minimalism

Simplicity has its beauty, and it always boils down to eliminating the excess in our lives. And yet media and society try hard to convince us that having more stuff should be the goal and the answer to anything. But is having more actually improving the quality of our lives? Do more possessions add real value to our days? Do more commitments in our diaries help us feel less overwhelmed? Does always chasing the latest gadget on the market helps us feel happier? Hang on, is having more even feasible, especially for those of us who are struggling to make ends meet and pay monthly bills on time? Many people can barely afford enough, let alone more. That's where Minimalism can help to remarkably improve your life on all levels.... Read More...

The Single Best Thing You Can Do for Your Relationship

Around fifteen years ago I dated a very fiery and emotional woman. I met her at a difficult time for her when she was going through a lot of upheaval in her l... Read More...

Can Sharing Your Story Help with Building Mental Immunity?

Life throws unspeakable challenges at us sometimes and in order to cope and survive we need to attain mental immunity, which is the very foundation of emotional resilience. Mental immunity is not about resisting negative thoughts, it is about acknowledging, observing them without believing they represent reality.... Read More...

How to Recover From Loss and Survive Grief

Grief becomes a scar on the part of our soul that survives. In a lot of cases, we will probably never completely get over the loss of this person. But there might be elements of good news in that loss. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals correctly—it still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.... Read More...

5 Reasons Why Staying in a Terrible Relationship is The Wrong Thing To Do

If you are suffering in silence being locked in a miserable, terrible relationship –– LEAVE. People change, feelings change, relationships change and sometimes you have to face the music and know when enough is enough.... Read More...

3 Effective Ways to Reverse a Toxic Relationship

All of us at least once in our life experienced being in a toxic relationship. You probably know what it's like to move in and out of a state of total denial about how unhealthy and codependent it truly is. Perhaps, at one moment, you feel at the top of the world, yet at another, you are making tiny excuses trying to justify a partner’s absolutely inexcusable behavior. So is there a way to reverse a toxic relationship? ... Read More...

5 Lies You Need to Stop Telling Yourself After a Breakup

Breakups are brutal. They leave you feeling alone, anxious, and helpless. You search for answers and support but all you find are useless clichés. You’re told, ... Read More...

Sensitivity is Your Greatest Asset & How to Heal After Pretending it’s Not

If you are a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), sometimes the world can feel too much. Although you are aware of the wonderful gifts of sensitivity – the capacity to empathize, a great love for nature and beauty and the ability to access greater nuances of meaning – you also have the sense that your sensitivity is tricky, shape-shifting.... Read More...

Helpful Life Skill: How to Avoid an Ugly Argument

Have you ever felt GOOD after an ugly argument? Me neither. Even on the rare (really rare) occasion when I was able to “agree to disagree” with whoever sat on the opposite end of that particular opinion scale, I still felt annoyed. Unhappy. It all felt unfinished… It makes sense because arguments are never based on interest, curiosity or any sense of mutual benefit.... Read More...

How to Cope with Grief When You Lose Someone You Love

How do you cope with grief when you lose someone you love? Grief is one of the hardest things we all have to deal with in our life. I’m a man… I put my hands up, and admit I’m a total novice at talking about my feelings.... Read More...

What to Do When the Shame Dodgeball Hits You

Shame disables us and prevents us from experiencing abundant life. This is when we need a shame catcher, to free us from our shame and to help us soar again.... Read More...

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