Goals are a wonderful, crucial, tool and should be taken seriously. I am, though, fully against putting your all into any one thing for too long. This is not a knock against focus or motivation (let me be clear). But burn-out is real and it will take you down swinging if you let it.
The bond between husband and wife can be one of the most beautiful things. Finding a best friend and loyal companion, someone that completes you is the ultimate gift.
Putting all selfishness aside, when you make that leap of faith, joining hearts by uniting differences, strengths and weakness, you balance each other out, creating a thriving vessel for flourishing love.
Sounds amazing right? And let’s not forget, marriage always puts a smile on our face and its all smooth sailing from the moment we say “I do.”
One of the most important things to starting every day right and on a positive note is what are our last thoughts are we go to sleep and what are our first thoughts when we wake. Most of us don’t even give it a second thought, I know I never used to.. I just stumbled through life accepting life as it was and my mood was my mood. I didn’t realize then that I could control my mood that I could decide what mood I would wake up in!
Everyone’s experience anxiety at least once in their lives and it can easily become paralyzing in the right conditions, making us feel like we’re out of control. Focusing on work becomes harder, traveling any distance is panic-inducing, and everyday tasks can feel like impossible tests. We are, however, able to pull ourselves out of these episodes by using grounding techniques.
I want it and I want it now! I couldn’t wait.
I’d dropped out of university to pursue this dream and, while still young and free, I took the first flight I could out to the USA to fulfill my ambition. It was there, at an airfield in Florida that I embarked on my first step to achieving my so-called wings. I began training to become a pilot. And then...
At a certain point, I stopped counting the number of times people told me to “think positively” in order to cope with my sorrows. And while I admire those who have a predisposition towards such a state of mind that is naturally transformed from negative into positive, I’ve always found it almost impossible to achieve that peace of mind.
Beginning to talk about our feelings cannot happen too soon. By equipping our children with this skill we are really emotionally empowering them for life. Having the ability to say accurately how we are feeling not only allows us to communicate more effectively with each other but also develops our ability to consider and recognize feelings being expressed by others. A vital skill for all young children to develop!
Havingtimers, our amazing guys and girls, thank you ALL so much for joining this global havingtime family! We cannot thank you enough for sharing your incredible stories, and challenges, and inspiration learning from each other, keeping each other stronger and supported in this ever changing world where happiness often can take a back seat to the breakneck speed of life.
Stop trying to be an artist. That title has been spoiled by the pressure it carries. Don’t focus internally - “am I good enough” - “am I truly an artist” - but focus on the simple work you can do to tend to your art, discover your creativity, swing for your home run, reflect the world around you, and inspire movement. “The muse honors the working stiff.” Start painting a hundred paintings, one at a time, and someday you might step back to find your masterpiece.
Through these apps and social media, many of us pretend that our lives are perfect. I’m not innocent either! So many times I have felt pressured to post on my Instagram just to keep up face even though I am having a real rough time. Whack a ridiculously filtered selfie up on your page, and everyone is none the wiser. But everybody knows – nobody’s life is perfect. So why are we striving so hard to pretend that we are blemish free when we all secretly know that some days we just want to crawl back into bed and cry all day?
People seemed to like me better when I was on my party-mode, and nobody ever hid those thoughts from me. I went from being the lame, silent kid in class, to be the King. My social circle grew as wide as the whole classroom and I didn’t have to worry about how I really felt because everyone around me was thinking that I was one of the cool ones to be around. Unfortunately, that reputation only lasted for a while.
While everyone reacts to a situation in a different way, one thing stands out for some people; the amount of time they take to process and react to the situation. These emotionally sensitive individuals think and feel a lot more deeply than most people.
Our lives are so connected to what we do, that I now feel naïve that I didn’t even consider the challenges that would come with letting go of this significant role in my life. I had never considered the feelings of aimlessness, hopelessness or frustration that might arise as a result of giving up this identity.