What is it that you want? Close your eyes and think about it for a moment. Now, how do you know you've taken the right path? In this peculiar treasure hunt called life, are you reading the clues correctly? The thing is, a lot of us don’t even know what we are chasing after and there is a good reason for that: Life doesn’t come with a GPS! But what if we made joy our GPS to help us navigate through life more easily?
Simplicity has its beauty, and it always boils down to eliminating the excess in our lives. And yet media and society try hard to convince us that having more stuff should be the goal and the answer to anything. But is having more actually improving the quality of our lives? Do more possessions add real value to our days? Do more commitments in our diaries help us feel less overwhelmed? Does always chasing the latest gadget on the market helps us feel happier? Hang on, is having more even feasible, especially for those of us who are struggling to make ends meet and pay monthly bills on time? Many people can barely afford enough, let alone more. That's where Minimalism can help to remarkably improve your life on all levels.
I am in my 50+ and dating at this age could seem even more like a treachery minefield. Especially if you've been through your fair share of painful heartbreaks, separation, and divorce, you know it's difficult at first to be emotionally prepared for venturing out back into the 'dating safari park.' But get this, even when you ready and find someone who is also single and in the same age group, there are good chances that they are divorced and solo parenting with impossible demands on their time too. So, how do singles in their 40-50s make dating work for them? Well, we give online dating an honest try.
Everyone’s mental health journey is personal and unique, but sometimes it helps to hear from someone else what worked for them. Here are the top five changes I made in my life that helped me boost happiness and improve mental health.
I believe that practical medicine is good for some things, for some people, but our happiness is within our own mental capacity if we train our brains and support our brains physical and environmental needs.
One of the most important things to starting every day right and on a positive note is what are our last thoughts are we go to sleep and what are our first thoughts when we wake. Most of us don’t even give it a second thought, I know I never used to.. I just stumbled through life accepting life as it was and my mood was my mood. I didn’t realize then that I could control my mood that I could decide what mood I would wake up in!
Humans seem to always want that “something else” in order to make our lives just that much better. If only I were single. If only I were married. If only I lived there or had that job or habit or sanity.
"If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you at all." Change is that unique spice that gets thrown into the mix of life, and we all get to experience it. And yet, change is not something we tend to get on with easily because most of us have grown up with the notion that change is potentially something "troublesome" or even dangerous when in fact it could be easily just another beginning of a new exciting and exhilarating adventure!
Think about the unhealthy behaviors in your life. Maybe it is food, an addiction, smoking, or negative self-talk. Now think about all the steps it will take to get from unhealthy to healthy. Feel overwhelmed yet?
The idea of positive self-talk and the declarative statements that many people call “affirmations” have been around for a long time. Maybe you’ve even tried them yourself, but without much luck. I was in the same boat until recently, when I discovered one imperative wrinkle in the practice that changed everything for me (including my life). What I didn’t understand before was this: The key to an effective affirmation – or what I like to call a mantra – is not the words themselves, but how they make you feel. To be effective, a mantra has to make you feel good when you say it.
As a law student and lawyer, I tried to think my way to a better life. I tried to think my way out of my depression. I failed completely. By the time I realized I had to stop thinking, I was mired in student debt, working at a job I hated, and taking pills every day just to get by. I still take antidepressants, but the other things have changed. How? I had to let go of my ruminating, overthinking rational self, and let intuition guide me to the answer. When you listen, the small voice of intuition speaks wise words.
How busy is your life? Do you work long hours barely getting enough sleep? Do you tend to stress a lot? Do you often forget to take care of yourself? If you answered yes to any of those questions then you should look closer into practicing self-care, to help improve your mental health and overall quality of life.
I want to invite us all to revel in who we are. Approve of yourself. Approve of your so-called ‘weaknesses’ as well as your strengths. Rather than spending all your time trying to compensate for what doesn’t come naturally to you, find ways to capitalize on what does. It’s so much easier and more enjoyable to boot.
Happiness. A very common and overused word – one which we all hear on a daily basis, but what does it actually mean? Can anyone provide a definitive explanation? I looked it up and it turns out that no: even dictionaries of the highest calibre seem to struggle.
Being selfish (in a good way) is a conscious choice you can make to refrain from any action or interpretation that is harmful to you. The reality is that to be truly happy, sometimes you need to put "you" first. So, if you decide to take extra good care of yourself and be happier, become more selfish in the way you treat your Human (emotions, body, and mind.) That’s the kind of selfishness I think we can all embrace.