psychology

The Life-Changing Magic of Validating Your Feelings

Growing up, I developed a deep need for validation. Validation of my feelings. I’m assuming this is the same for most children: we look to our parents and other people around us for guidance. We are praised for doing things “right” and told off for doing things “wrong.” I’d say that most of us are raised with a binary view of the world: it is good and that is bad. It is normal and abnormal. Appropriate and inappropriate. And those seem clear cut – only that they aren’t and growing up we are always trying to figure out what is expected of us and it can feel like walking a tightrope.... Read More...

How to Have a Strong Emotional Core When You Have No Time for a Morning Routine

“Routine, in an intelligent man, is a sign of ambition.”  – W. H. Auden Tim Ferriss believes that morning routines should be strictly followed, to avoid wasting time thinking. He shared time in again that "in the morning and elsewhere, the more constraints I can create where I fly on autopilot and get a result I need or enjoy, the more horsepower, the more calories I have to allocate to being creative, and to doing things where thinking should actually be applied."... Read More...

How to Stop the War in Your Mind and Find Peace

Why am I so unproductive? Am I going to accomplish anything worthwhile in this life? Why am I such an introvert? When will I stop punishing myself? Sometimes the pit of self-absorption deepens until you can’t escape by normal means. And although you really would like to climb out, digging yourself deeper is so temptingly easy. But there are ways of stopping the war in your mind and finding peace...... Read More...

Why Depression is so Hard to Deal with in Your Twenties?

Our twenties often feel challenging and like it's the final stage of growing up. You're hit with the brunt of new responsibilities, mental growth, and emotional development. This can have an enormous influence on your mind and mental state. Most people aren’t ready for this, which is why there are some negative things that accompany this period. Here are some reasons why depression is so hard to deal with in your twenties.... Read More...

Why Breakups are Devastating and How to Heal From Pain

Have you ever had to go through a devastating breakup; the kind of breakup when you were hurting deeply, and it felt rather unlikely ever to find healing and bounce back from being an emotional wreck sobbing on the bathroom floor. Breakups do that to us; they rip us into million shreds from the inside out, and the emotional pain can be unbearable. But let’s pause for a moment and investigate why is that so? Why do breakups unstitch us so spectacularly and how can we heal from pain?... Read More...

How to Be Less Judgemental About People

How do you deal with judgemental people? The truth is, we are all judgmental without an exception because it’s human nature. And yet, even though it is in our code to be judgmental – it’s hardly ever useful to us. It makes us look down on people as if we are way better than the next person on the street; judgment creates huge division between people –– so much so we won't even make an effort to get to know that person, or try to understand them, or try to see whether our judgment was right in the first place.... Read More...

5 Ways You CAN Build a Strong Intimate Relationship

How do you build a strong love relationship? What are the most important things in a relationship? And how do you increase intimacy in a relationship? We glad you've asked because there are five ways you can build a strong intimate and long-lasting relationship.... Read More...

How to Improve Mental Health Without Medication

How to improve mental health is becoming a topic that more people are talking openly about. This, in turn, has increased the general public’s awareness and desire to do something about the issue. This raised interest has led to several advances in treating and improving mental health without medication.... Read More...

3 Steps You Need to Take When You Want to Set Healthy Boundaries

To take care of yourself properly, you need to start setting healthy boundaries. But how can you start to overcome feelings of intense guilt and begin to prioritize your own needs? Please, remember that setting healthy boundaries will be the most important self-care action you will ever make because practicing self-care also benefit those around you.... Read More...

Feeling Stuck in Life? How to Never Get Stuck Again

Feeling stuck is a wonderful telltale sign that it's time to make a move and introduce some changes in your life. Yes, those changes are meant to shake-up your old patterns, create new energy and propel you forward, changing your outlook on life. Whenever you feel stuck and unhappy, it indicates that something isn't working for you anymore.... Read More...

How to Leave a Toxic Relationship and Move On With Your Life

You want to feel needed, wanted and loved. You crave that special someone's touch, kiss, and affection hoping that they will love you back as much as you do. And that’s perfectly natural. But what happens when you are in the wrong relationship when everything you do is to please your partner?... Read More...

How to Save Yourself From Drowning in Other People’s Expectations

In the last few years, we have heard the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) more and more in popular culture. An estimated 1 in 5 people have the SPS (Sensory Processing Sensitivity) trait, which is the scientific term behind the more colloquial term Highly Sensitive Person, popularized by Dr. Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking book of the same name. If you have the SPS trait and are an HSP, you are hardwired to notice subtleties that other people miss. You are also highly tuned in to other people’s emotions and moods.... Read More...

How to Create the Things you Want to See in your Life

January is that wonderful time of year when we promise to ourselves that this will be THE year. The year that we finally make positive changes, stick to new helpful habits and achieve the things we really want... Whether it be to get fit, quit the day job, start a business, go travel, find a partner – the chances are you've got hopes, dreams, and aspirations that for whatever reason, haven't quite yet manifested themselves. I'm going to let you into a secret about how I create the things I desire in my life, and how I help others to do the same.... Read More...

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