psychology

The Life-Changing Magic of Validating Your Feelings

Growing up, I developed a deep need for validation. Validation of my feelings. I’m assuming this is the same for most children: we look to our parents and other people around us for guidance. We are praised for doing things “right” and told off for doing things “wrong.” I’d say that most of us are raised with a binary view of the world: it is good and that is bad. It is normal and abnormal. Appropriate and inappropriate. And those seem clear cut – only that they aren’t and growing up we are always trying to figure out what is expected of us and it can feel like walking a tightrope.... Read More...

What Happens When You Overcome Limiting Beliefs

We all go through life with limiting beliefs, it’s natural to believe the things we’re told growing up, that’s why they’re called beliefs. But this doesn’t mean we have to live with them. In this article, I’m going to be sharing with you a personal story of how I worked to overcome limiting beliefs and share actionable steps to help you overcome yours.... Read More...

How to Create Calm and Peaceful Family Home

Is your home an oasis of calm that brings a sense of relaxation at the end of the hard day at work? How can you create a positive and calm atmosphere at home? This can sometimes be a challenge when you have children playing and a wide variety of personalities to balance. But matter how busy your life can get sometimes, there are always effective ways to bring about an aura of calm and peace to your family home. Creating an ambiance of fun, you must balance fun and spontaneity with moments of quiet.... Read More...

The Power of a Positive NO & How it Changes Your Life for the Better

Saying ‘no’ is difficult even when it's a positive NO. We are so used to saying yes to a lot of things and coming up with excuses when we should have just said no. There are people you feel like you can never say no to such as close friends, your boss or even your family. However, it is high time you learned that sometimes declining to do things will bring a positive impact on your life. It can enable you to achieve your dreams and become more successful in life.... Read More...

How to Save Yourself From Drowning in Other People’s Expectations

In the last few years, we have heard the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) more and more in popular culture. An estimated 1 in 5 people have the SPS (Sensory Processing Sensitivity) trait, which is the scientific term behind the more colloquial term Highly Sensitive Person, popularized by Dr. Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking book of the same name. If you have the SPS trait and are an HSP, you are hardwired to notice subtleties that other people miss. You are also highly tuned in to other people’s emotions and moods.... Read More...

How to Respond When Your Parents Hurt Your Feelings

We've all been there when our parents would say or do something that hurt our feelings. But do our parents mean those hurtful things they say? One thing for sure is that being a good parent means always protecting your kids from harm and the last person that should hurt you, is your parent. But it happens sometimes, unfortunately. And here's something that you CAN do about it.... Read More...

This is Why ALL Relationships Move at The Speed of Trust

On the first date, the most common scene in the western world is of two people, sitting across from each other, sizing each other up. “Is this person different than the others?” At least, is he/she different than the others who hurt me or who never earned my trust? Trust and faith in the other person are essential for more reasons than you might think.... Read More...

How to Have a Strong Emotional Core When You Have No Time for a Morning Routine

“Routine, in an intelligent man, is a sign of ambition.”  – W. H. Auden Tim Ferriss believes that morning routines should be strictly followed, to avoid wasting time thinking. He shared time in again that "in the morning and elsewhere, the more constraints I can create where I fly on autopilot and get a result I need or enjoy, the more horsepower, the more calories I have to allocate to being creative, and to doing things where thinking should actually be applied."... Read More...

How to Stop the War in Your Mind and Find Peace

Why am I so unproductive? Am I going to accomplish anything worthwhile in this life? Why am I such an introvert? When will I stop punishing myself? Sometimes the pit of self-absorption deepens until you can’t escape by normal means. And although you really would like to climb out, digging yourself deeper is so temptingly easy. But there are ways of stopping the war in your mind and finding peace...... Read More...

Why Depression is so Hard to Deal with in Your Twenties?

Our twenties often feel challenging and like it's the final stage of growing up. You're hit with the brunt of new responsibilities, mental growth, and emotional development. This can have an enormous influence on your mind and mental state. Most people aren’t ready for this, which is why there are some negative things that accompany this period. Here are some reasons why depression is so hard to deal with in your twenties.... Read More...

Why Breakups are Devastating and How to Heal From Pain

Have you ever had to go through a devastating breakup; the kind of breakup when you were hurting deeply, and it felt rather unlikely ever to find healing and bounce back from being an emotional wreck sobbing on the bathroom floor. Breakups do that to us; they rip us into million shreds from the inside out, and the emotional pain can be unbearable. But let’s pause for a moment and investigate why is that so? Why do breakups unstitch us so spectacularly and how can we heal from pain?... Read More...

How to Be Less Judgemental About People

How do you deal with judgemental people? The truth is, we are all judgmental without an exception because it’s human nature. And yet, even though it is in our code to be judgmental – it’s hardly ever useful to us. It makes us look down on people as if we are way better than the next person on the street; judgment creates huge division between people –– so much so we won't even make an effort to get to know that person, or try to understand them, or try to see whether our judgment was right in the first place.... Read More...

5 Ways You CAN Build a Strong Intimate Relationship

How do you build a strong love relationship? What are the most important things in a relationship? And how do you increase intimacy in a relationship? We glad you've asked because there are five ways you can build a strong intimate and long-lasting relationship.... Read More...

How to Improve Mental Health Without Medication

How to improve mental health is becoming a topic that more people are talking openly about. This, in turn, has increased the general public’s awareness and desire to do something about the issue. This raised interest has led to several advances in treating and improving mental health without medication.... Read More...

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