letting go Archives — HavingTime

How to Untie Your Self-Worth from Your Work

"What do you do?" – is the most common question people ask us when they meet us for the first time. If your self-worth is tied up into your work it might be a good time to take a little step back and reframe; it's essential to remember that we are NOT defined by our job titles.... Read More...

Healthy Divorce: How to Make your Split as Smooth as Possible

Having Time

It is estimated that as many as 50% of marriages end in divorce. Of those, a number will involve children. Divorce can be a very stressful, excruciatingly painf... Read More...

One Powerful Thing You Can Do to Fund Your Dream

Chris Lovett

We all have dreams. Some of those dreams need investments. So have you ever wondered how you CAN find money to fund your dreams?... Read More...

How to Leave a Toxic Relationship and Move On With Your Life

Tee R. Sebastian

You want to feel needed, wanted and loved. You crave that special someone's touch, kiss, and affection hoping that they will love you back as much as you do. And that’s perfectly natural. But what happens when you are in the wrong relationship when everything you do is to please your partner?... Read More...

How to Release Painful Memories & Thrive No Matter What

Lisa Cybaniak

Trauma and painful memories associated with it is a challenging subject to bring up in any conversation. It's not often that you even hear about it, despite the... Read More...

How to Heal a Relationship When the Hurt Runs Deep

Aimee Teesdale

“Just get over it already!” “The past is gone!” “Move on!” All the well-wishers might offer you their best advice, but their words hurt. How so? Because the past still haunts you every moment of each day. Are new beginnings even possible?! Is healing could be real when the hurt runs deep? Can we confidently release the pain from the past once and for all and embrace the future? How do we find the strength to “press on”?... Read More...

How to Recover From Loss and Survive Grief

Audrey Wojciechowski

Grief becomes a scar on the part of our soul that survives. In a lot of cases, we will probably never completely get over the loss of this person. But there might be elements of good news in that loss. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals correctly—it still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.... Read More...

5 Lies You Need to Stop Telling Yourself After a Breakup

Eric Ibey

Breakups are brutal. They leave you feeling alone, anxious, and helpless. You search for answers and support but all you find are useless clichés. You’re told, ... Read More...

How to Cope with Grief When You Lose Someone You Love

Pete Trainor

How do you cope with grief when you lose someone you love? Grief is one of the hardest things we all have to deal with in our life. I’m a man… I put my hands up, and admit I’m a total novice at talking about my feelings.... Read More...

How to Stop Letting Painful Memories Control Your Present

Lesya Li

Have you ever wondered why do we hold on to the past so tightly at times? If it burns we get to take our hands off the stove in that instant, yet why is it so challenging to let go of the experiences that have caused us unthinkable amounts of pain and suffering?... Read More...

What to Do When Life Doesn’t Go The Way You Wanted

Laurel Moll

By letting it go, it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning. – Lao-Tzu I use... Read More...

5 Steps That Will Turn Your Breakup Into a Breakthrough

Maxine Clancy

Have you ever begged someone to stay? Like, literally got on the floor and begged? I did that once after I discovered my husband was having an affair. I didn’t beg straight away. First I was angry. I ranted and raged and then I questioned; “Do you love her? Was she better than me? Is she beautiful?” I asked all the crazy things that you want to know when your heart has been broken into a million little pieces.... Read More...

Trust Interrupted: One Choice You Need to Make After Betrayal

Lesya Li

Trust Interrupted. When someone breaks your trust, betrays you, your first reaction is mild disbelief. Back in 2003, In my first unpublished book, I noted that trust is a precious brick of gold too heavy to place in someones shaking hands… it appeared to be true over the years – I’d give that ‘golden brick of trust’waiting for it to drop, and as all self-fulfilling prophecies = it would come true. Time in and again.... Read More...

How to Release the Doubt that’s Holding You Back

Lisa Jeffs

We aren’t born into this world doubting ourselves. We learn to do it. Often in childhood. And it begins with a single planted seed. That seed is often one incidence that makes us feel ‘less than’ or not good enough.... Read More...

Releasing Resentment: How to Stop Swallowing Poison From the Past

Nadene van der Linden

Although normal, resentment is only useful when occurring in the short term. When it persists in the longer term, simmering under the surface, it becomes toxic for the individual experiencing it and also impacts on others they interact with. Like the old saying goes “Resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die”. A bitter person is usually someone who has been swallowing the poison of resentment for too long.... Read More...

Fighting Through the Pain and Making it to the Other Side

Katie Logue

My heart was overwhelmed with love and happiness, and, admittedly, a bit of sadness. I was so happy to know that all of the talking about my grandfather to my son is paying off. He remembers him, and he remembers him fondly. Yet I was sad because I still miss my grandfather every day and I know I always will.... Read More...

What Are You Clinging to That’s Dragging You Down?

Lesya Li

Every great ship has its heavy anchor. It plays different roles in our lives. In a storm it keeps us safely grounded to one spot. When the storm is over we sh... Read More...

Divorced: Opening My Heart to all the Love Again

Katie Logue

The hot, humid July evening back in 2007 when I discovered I was pregnant was one of the best days of my life. I immediately fell in love with the little person growing inside of me, and I knew that my life would never again be the same. Knowing that I had a part of my husband growing inside of my body only intensified my love for him. I remember gazing at him and imagining the baseball playing, hockey coaching Dad he would become. I couldn't have loved him more. As my pregnancy progressed, things began to change. My husband grew distant and I grew lonely and anxious. I pushed his behavior and my feelings aside as expectant-first-time-parent-jitters.... Read More...

Why Giving Up on Someone is Sometimes The Best Thing for You

Howard Scalia

giving up on a loved one is always an experience that shakes us to our core and you can be sure that your mind will do anything to dissuade you from going through with it. Thankfully, there are still people who decide they don’t want to live a half-life anymore, they turn away from half-love, half-respect, half-peace they struggle to have with someone in order to be whole on their own.... Read More...

Being Authentic May Feel Risky at first, But Totally Worth It

Mercedes Torres

By Mercy Torres photo source “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” –Thich Nhat... Read More...

How Acceptance Can Help in Coping with Chronic Pain

Nadene van der Linden

If you or someone you love has chronic pain consider utilizing acceptance-based strategies. Reducing the struggle with and having a more peaceful relationship with pain means better outcomes.... Read More...

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