Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun, like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now. – Fred Rogers
10 Things That Make Your Relationships Work Better
1. Do You Know for Sure?
What do you want out of a relationship? Do you know for sure?
Some of us do whatever it takes to make a current relationship work. Why? Because we cannot and imagine our life without each other – that kind of relationship when anything else doesn’t make sense unless you two are together.
2. Team Player
That is a very important thing to learn, to be together as a team. Support and guide each other like in that song of Bon Jovi:
Thank you for loving me
For being my eyes
When I couldn’t see
For parting my lips
When I couldn’t breathe
Thank you for loving me!
3. Respect Matters
Never undermine your partner. Never. Especially in front of the people he/she knows. Every ironic word in his/her address will compromise only one person and that would be – You. So not only love, but respect your partner. Respect and support. Eradicate criticizing or keep it to a minimum.
Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. ‘To know all is to forgive all.’
4. Instant Troubleshooter
There’s this good old saying: don’t delay until tomorrow what you can solve (delegate) now.
Why do we carry a bag of problems and collect more and more until its weight becomes overwhelming?! Solve it now and together as a team. Communication is key. Use it.
5. The Art Of Negotiating
Negotiation is an art. It takes a lot of effort to learn how to negotiate with our loved ones aiming for a mutual happiness & understanding.
6. Listen and Hear
Don’t we all struggle with this? We know how to listen, though often times we have a problem with an actual hearing of what other people want & need. So if your loved one shares with you – make sure you give him/her your full attention and participation in sharing his/her thoughts.
7. Keep it out of the bedroom!
I’m talking about arguments, bickering in relationships and other unpleasant moments. As a rule, to keep it out of the bedroom and never go to bed in a bad mood. The bedroom has to be a place of love, peace, and positive atmosphere. Where else would your wonderful dreams come from?! Keep your bedroom as peaceful as possible.
8. Hard to Say “I’m Sorry”
We all make mistakes. We are living creatures trying to figure out the best for each other… Some things we say – we don’t say on purpose. In any event – it takes courage to say “I’m sorry”. Courage derives from the old Latin word “coer” which means HEART. So take a piece of your heart and learn to ask for forgiveness. Truly.
9. Make It Special
Add something new to your activities and I’m talking about new interests! It can be wake boarding, passionate and sexy salsa dancing to spice things up between you two or scuba diving, rafting, ice skating and even hot air balloon flight with a bottle of champagne and a picnic basket.
Whatever you come up with – do it together. Make it special.
10. Stay Close to Each Other
What matters the most is how you generate that warm feeling of love and connection to each other. That’s what makes each relationship unique and special.
Be passionate in your desire to be with that person you cherish and love. Count every minute till your next tet-a-tet… Treasure those pleasant moments together… Be happy! Stay close to each other.
“I don’t wanna close my eyes,
I don’t wanna fall asleep,
Cause I’d miss you babe,
And I don’t wanna miss a thing…”