“What’s done is done. What’s gone is gone. One of life’s lessons is always moving on. It’s okay to look back to see how far you’ve come but keep moving forward.” ― Roy T. Bennett
Keep Moving Forward, One Step at a Time
August 8th, 1999. This is when my life stopped. For a while. And not because I had a heart attack. But because I had just lost my chance to live my dream.
The 3 years prior to that day were filled with focus.
Missing family reunions.
Strengthening my body.
Getting mentally prepared.
As a member of the Canadian Handball Team, I was training a minimum of 25 hours per week. Plus, I was a full-time physical therapy student.
Every day, from 1996 until 1999, I would picture August 8th perfectly. Handball Court. Pan Am Games. GOLD medal.
Unfortunately, we got silver.
You might think that I’m being silly thinking that the silver medal was a curse. But to me, it meant no trip to Sydney for the 2000 Olympics. (That was actually my closest chance to be an Olympian.)
After that loss, I had to go back to school to finish my degree. And I really thought about giving up. But for some reason, the universe had a great mentor on my path, who really allowed me to continue at my own pace and graduate.
You ask yourself deep questions about your purpose. About your mistakes. You review the lost game. What else could I have done better? Did I really give my all? You doubt yourself for everything. Because your confidence level drops from really high to extremely low.
But somewhere, there was a little light. A glimpse of hope. A low level of strength. That allowed me to keep moving forward in life.
2 years later, I was offered a spot on a Danish team, in Copenhagen. At that time, Denmark was in the top countries in my sport. The opportunity to improve my technical skills was huge!
So I left my family.
And jumped in a plane to a country where I knew no one and couldn’t speak the language.