“Trust your own instinct. Your mistakes might as well be your own, instead of someone else’s.” – Billy Wilder
Sometimes we look at a happy couple and think this is what an ideal relationship is about. Then, they suddenly break up, and our universe is shattered. How could they? They were perfect matches. If two people want to be together, they will, no matter what. Unfortunately, life proves the opposite. The signs that the relations between partners are not as good as they may seem can be spotted long before people finally breakup. Sometimes, it’s useful to look at your relationship from aside to realize what you and your partner are doing wrong. Probably, the reason why you don’t feel happy in a relationship is that your partner isn’t the right person for you. The following signs indicate that your relationship is not healthy and your partner is not the one you need by your side.
5 Warning Signs Indicating You Are with the Wrong Person
Fights are a usual thing. Of course, disagreement and quarrels are inevitable. They show that your relationship is alive and developing. However, if you fight frequently, you should give it a thought. Maybe, you will not even notice that you crossed the line when your quarrels turn into mutual insults and humiliation. It’s time to think how your relationship will look like after several years. When romantic euphoria wears off, you’ll have quite a few scenes, fights. Picture your future with this person and think whether it coincides with your views on family life.
Jealousy is not the sign of love. There is a widespread belief that jealousy strengthens a relationship. In fact, it’s far from the truth. Jealousy stems from a lack of trust to oneself. In order to ease the pain caused by this distrust, a person shifts it onto their nearest and dearest. This poisonous feeling has nothing to do with love. But it’s an apparent sign of a dependent relationship that is never healthy.
Distance is often a relationship killer. They say that only the true love can stand the test of distance. If you managed to keep your relationship living in different cities or countries, your feelings are real and strong. However, most long-distance relationships fail in the long run. Hundreds of miles separate you; you see each other very seldom, and you learn to spend your leisure on your own or in the company of other people. It’s tough to keep your relationship alive if you are far away from each other. After living apart for some time, the image of your loved one gradually becomes blurred. Regular calls and texting will never replace live communication. Even if your love survives, the end of your relationship is practically inevitable.
Commitment scares you. It’s OK to have the moments of doubts, succumb to cowardice, and feel a bit anxious when it comes to thinking about possible marriage and family life. If you’re in a healthy relationship, your doubts and fears will gradually disappear. This is because you get to know your partner better, find out their virtues, personal values and realize that you’re compatible. This understanding eliminates anxiety and calms you down. If you’re full of doubts, there is something wrong with your relationship or your state of mind. Perhaps, your past still prevents you from moving on, or your current relationship arouses certain doubts.
You look in different directions. How many times have you heard that opposites attract? In reality, this principle can’t be applied to relationships. It’s possible to build a healthy relationship only with a person with whom you’re on the same page. Your values, views on life, distribution of family roles should coincide. If they are too different, don’t cherish vain hopes your relationship will work.