All the literature on grief seemed to be telling me my life would be in tatters for years. I was determined not to accept this. Running away from grief was not an option, but I could cycle through it. My late partner had wanted to cycle the British coast to coast in one day; I would take on the challenge in his memory.
Part of my role as a clinical psychologist working with someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one is to explain that the physical pain and sense of being lost are normal. It’s tough to handle, but it’s normal.
Unfortunately, in some families, bullying is an accepted behavior—this usually occurs because parents don’t know any other way. And so they continue parenting their kids the same way they were brought up. But that doesn’t make it right.
Change doesn’t come from some anomalous omnipresent superpower. It comes from regular people holding up their hands, using their voice and owning their story. I want to be able to have conversations that mean that in some small way emotional abuse isn’t ignored, brushed under the carpet and allowed to continue behind
We all know that life never happens like you want it to. The good and the bad have their own way of unfolding and it never happens when you expect it to happen. You can try with all your might, but you’ll never be able to control it. Although you don’t have much control over what will happen to you, the one thing you do have complete control over is how you interpret it – your perspective.
Recently I've been thinking about times when we are judgmental of others. Why does it take so long to recognise that if we are judging others there is a little part of us that wants to be more or less like them?
Dealing with difficult people never easy... The sooner we look through the superficial facts to the truth of one’s character, the better. It is too easy to be blinded by someone’s position, profession or by their life path.