The past can keep us imprisoned if we don’t learn to let go of painful memories, preventing us from moving on in a healthier, happier way.
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The Gift of Grief: How to Embrace Peace When You Feel Overwhelmed
By Daphne Greer “It’s not the events of our lives that shape us but our beliefs as to what those...
What is the Supervillain of the Creative Self?
By Jeff Leisawitz Some theories of psychology believe that we’re made of psychological parts. Lover, brother, leader, activist, humanitarian,...
Emotions Are a Strength, Not Something to Be Ashamed of
As I stand up, acknowledge, and validate these emotions, something weird happens. They disappear. As though, they were never real in the first place, just an illusion created in my mind. A cloud dispersing into the mist. A reflection from a mirror which turns out to be a clear window instead... Read More
4 Mind-Bending Secrets of the Process of Change
"If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you at all." Change is that unique spice that gets thrown into the mix of life, and we all get to experience it. And yet, change is not something we tend to get on with easily because most of us have grown up with the notion that change is potentially something "troublesome" or even dangerous when in fact it could be easily just another beginning of a new exciting and exhilarating adventure! Read More
Finding Your Purpose and Passion in the Midst of Chaos
By Lesya Li Finding Your Purpose and Passion in the Midst of Chaos For years I’ve been struggling to find...
Change of Perspective: Why Feeling Bad is a Good Thing
“The more you hide your feelings, the more they show. The more you deny your feelings, the more they grow.” – Unknown When was the last time you felt bad? And I mean REALLY bad? Like “what the hell is...
How to Unpack Your Emotional Baggage in 5 Easy Steps
After facing a chain of traumatic events in a short space of time and having an outburst of emotions to deal with; I got curious and wanted to look closer into how we process our emotions in the Western society. I discovered that we seem to be polarized in our approach to dealing with our feelings. We either don’t validate them and adopt the position of “I’m fine, really, I’M FINE” through gritted teeth or we’re encouraged to wallow in them and make an identity out of the story, whilst in the background we’re told to shove some pills down our throat to ease the pain. Read More
How to Face and Solve Problems in Your Life
What if I tell you that I have seen you every time you tried to hide. Every time you thought of running away or actually did run away because you were too unsure you can face your problems. What if I tell you that I was there when you couldn't stand to fight for what you have always wanted because you thought it was bigger than what you could take. What if I tell you that I knew how you let your problems outgrow you when you decided to avoid them. Read More
How to Break Free From the Perfectionist Trap
By Nadene van der Linden “I have done my best. That is all the philosophy of living one needs.” – Lin-yutang When clients are stuck, I sometimes find we have encountered perfectionism at play. Perfectionism has many guises. Perfectionism can...
How to Answer ‘What Are You Doing With Your Life?’ Question With Confidence
By Virginia Warren What are you doing with your life? Well, who wants to know? Me, that’s who. Which “me”...
How to Let Go of the Fear of Uncertainty & Be Free
As a law student and lawyer, I tried to think my way to a better life. I tried to think my way out of my depression. I failed completely. By the time I realized I had to stop thinking, I was mired in student debt, working at a job I hated, and taking pills every day just to get by. I still take antidepressants, but the other things have changed. How? I had to let go of my ruminating, overthinking rational self, and let intuition guide me to the answer. When you listen, the small voice of intuition speaks wise words. Read More
How One Uber Ride Can Change Your Perspective for The Better
“To change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions.” ― Stephen R. Covey This week I got in an uberpool taxi in New York and listened to some poignant words from an insightful passenger named Dante. “It’s your...
Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work for You and How to Fix it
You’ve heard about the power of positivity. What happens when it doesn’t work? You can! You can! You tell yourself this enough; magic will occur. But not always... Read More
5 Simple But Powerful Things You Can Do to Reduce Stress Immediately
“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” – Sydney Harris We’ve read countless books and...
How to Calm The Mind Under Stress and Win Your Ticket to Freedom
By Daniel James Rutter Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. – Viktor E. Frankl Modern life can feel overwhelming...
How to Heal and Recover After Ending a Friendship
“Celebrate endings, for they precede new beginnings.” – Jonathan Lockwood Huie Some friendships end with a bang. Others dwindle away...
Trust Your Path: When It’s Time to Break Free
It’s easy to get swept up in the hype of what everyone else is doing. It’s even more easy to lose yourself when you’re in a group following a certain path. I was part of a group of people who enrolled in a personal development course, and while it was a powerful and life changing course, something inside of me felt off. It was time to break free. Read More
Loss & Grief: How I Found My Way Towards Healing
All the literature on grief seemed to be telling me my life would be in tatters for years. I was determined not to accept this. Running away from grief was not an option, but I could cycle through it. My late partner had wanted to cycle the British coast to coast in one day; I would take on the challenge in his memory. Read More
When The Bottom Drops Out: How to Keep Living After Loss
Part of my role as a clinical psychologist working with someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one is to explain that the physical pain and sense of being lost are normal. It’s tough to handle, but it’s normal. Read More
How to Find Inner Peace that Endures
By Tina Zarlenga “Our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world as being able to remake...
4 Simple Ways to Break a Vicious Cycle
“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a happier world.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien They may not readily admit it, but most runners run to lose weight or at least to manage...
