I want it and I want it now! I couldn’t wait.
I’d dropped out of university to pursue this dream and, while still young and free, I took the first flight I could out to the USA to fulfill my ambition. It was there, at an airfield in Florida that I embarked on my first step to achieving my so-called wings. I began training to become a pilot. And then...
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Through these apps and social media, many of us pretend that our lives are perfect. I’m not innocent either! So many times I have felt pressured to post on my Instagram just to keep up face even though I am having a real rough time. Whack a ridiculously filtered selfie up on your page, and everyone is none the wiser. But everybody knows – nobody’s life is perfect. So why are we striving so hard to pretend that we are blemish free when we all secretly know that some days we just want to crawl back into bed and cry all day?
People seemed to like me better when I was on my party-mode, and nobody ever hid those thoughts from me. I went from being the lame, silent kid in class, to be the King. My social circle grew as wide as the whole classroom and I didn’t have to worry about how I really felt because everyone around me was thinking that I was one of the cool ones to be around. Unfortunately, that reputation only lasted for a while.
Our lives are so connected to what we do, that I now feel naïve that I didn’t even consider the challenges that would come with letting go of this significant role in my life. I had never considered the feelings of aimlessness, hopelessness or frustration that might arise as a result of giving up this identity.
Being heard is an inherent human need; being heard means someone cares, someone is willing to sit down and absorb what you have to express. The response may come in the form of words, a hug or just a smile, but in the end what matters is that someone showed up and listened.
If you are “obsessing” over Instagram pictures and social media little too much, that is an indicator that you are actually lacking fun, adventure, travel, excitement, joy, beauty in our own life. Your soul and heart desires that you live an Instagram kind of life: travel more, pursue your own dreams, experience more fun, joy, adventures…
You also can create beautiful, happy, successful, fulfilled life for yourself which you’ll love, just like those Instagram bloggers and influencers that you are following. You only need to decide that you will not settle for mediocre life and that you will go after your dreams, commit to work hard and follow the right strategy to do it.
Have you ever heard of the term authentic leadership? Many people hear this term and don't take it seriously enough. The truth is authentic leadership is not reserved for the elite few or a set group of people. Authentic leadership is an essential skillset to be embraced by everyone. No matter what your title is or where you are at in your career, you can be a leader starting today.
Humans seem to always want that “something else” in order to make our lives just that much better. If only I were single. If only I were married. If only I lived there or had that job or habit or sanity.
I see often see stress as our not-so-friendly neighbor that enters our lives without knocking. Also, stress can be beneficial (eustress); or we could experience bad stress (distress), both could impact our life for the better or worse. I’m here to talk about distress and ways that we can cope when we unexpectedly experience it in our life.
Read the list of top 5 regrets in life and imagine what it would look like to live a life without those regrets: not living simply to meet the expectations of others; giving yourself permission to rest and relax; courageously telling people what you are really feeling; calling up a friend to say hello; enjoying life in the moment without worrying about the future.
I would never have thought that I would get hooked on social media! But here I am, struggling with my addiction. I became addicted about a year and a half ago, and I’m still fighting my problem. I had an account on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Heck, I even got one on MySpace (do you remember MySpace?).
In essence, we all have experiences that we bury in the shadow and which unconsciously drive our behavior. However, given the will, we also have what it takes to look beyond the 38th parallel, beyond the borders of the DMZ and into the northern unconscious. We can do this when we choose to, again, not in a tiring act of restless pursuit to catalog our entire lives hitherto, but as a natural part of reflection and emotional growth. And then, once we discover these gems, we can let them go.
We can't hope to truly move on without releasing the ties and anchors that hold us down. It can be hurtful to find out that we are the holders of the key to release our leg, but I can promise that once you open the lock and release your emotional baggage, you will see happiness manifest and know that you empowered yourself to take the step. You are stronger than you can ever imagine. Begin today with basic honesty.