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Viktor Frankl: Shedding More Light on The Meaning of Life

Viktor E. Frankl (1905-1997) the author of the book, psychiatrist, and neurologist wrote about his torturous experience (during the World War II) as an inmate in a notorious concentration camp Auschwitz. Fascinatingly enough, he noted that people that survived longest in concentration camps were not people who were physically strong, but those few who managed to stay strong soulfully and kept a sense of control over their internal environment, their outlook, their attitude.... Read More...

How to Stop Apologizing For Everything You Do

Apologizing is a weak attempt at a quick fix. We hate to rock the boat so when we do, we wave the magic wand frantically while chanting, “I’m sorry!” with the unsureness of Ron Weasley. But, over-apologizing is not an admission of the heart--it’s fluff as useless as a magic wand. And, while, sometimes, “I’m sorry” needs to be said, most of the time, it is better to refrain.... Read More...

Get Smarter: 3 Powerful Brain Hacks to Skyrocket Your IQ

The human brain is astounding.  Brain research continues, almost daily, to excite us and challenge our formal understanding of what is really going on within. We used to think that we had access to only 10% of our brainpower.  This, of course, is entirely misunderstood and is a fact that continues to be misused and misquoted. Let me explain this statement to expose the nature of this conspiracy that continues to limit our thinking and gives us doubt.... Read More...

5 Best Tourist Attractions In Singapore

Singapore is one of the most expensive places to travel to on Earth. This city state in Asia boasts of a wonderful blend of European and Asian cultures, modern architectural brilliance, centuries-old street markets, world-renowned shopping malls, limitless opportunities to taste authentic Asian cuisines and lots of adventure activities to take part in. If you are planning your next trip to Singapore, make sure you visit the following 5 best tourist attractions in Singapore:... Read More...

#PayItForward: How to Be a Story without an Author

Every day in every region of the world there are stories being told. Unknown names and faces help in emergencies or in simple moments of respect and kindness. A man with a free hugs sign in an open air mall. A random stranger running across a highway to help an overturned car. A sudden heart attack assisted by a card-carrying CPR member breathing for a random passerby while the paramedics arrive. All of these are stories without authors.... Read More...

How to be at Peace When Your World Turns to Chaos

I was hit from every angle but discovered that this was a fight I could win. I could give up or take it head on. It never was easy, except when I was sleeping, but I was determined to come out of it with myself intact. I started asking myself how the future would look? I wondered if I should envision it with a lesser hope to protect myself from the worst case scenario. Or should I envision better than ever things for my future instead?... Read More...

How to Explain Anxiety to Someone Who Doesn’t Get it

When we talk to people suffering from anxiety, most of them would describe this as a feeling of deep dread, apprehension of doom and gloom. It is a part of 'fight or flight' response which is a natural reaction to events we find rather stressful; it helps us deal with various demanding situations like before delivering a speech and getting exposed in front of a massive audience, or studying and trying to pass the excruciatingly important exam. In fairness, short-term anxiety can help us stay more focused and alert which could be useful when dealing with perceived threat, but long-term anxiety has a harmful impact on the body and the mind. ... Read More...

Divorced: Opening My Heart to all the Love Again

The hot, humid July evening back in 2007 when I discovered I was pregnant was one of the best days of my life. I immediately fell in love with the little person growing inside of me, and I knew that my life would never again be the same. Knowing that I had a part of my husband growing inside of my body only intensified my love for him. I remember gazing at him and imagining the baseball playing, hockey coaching Dad he would become. I couldn't have loved him more. As my pregnancy progressed, things began to change. My husband grew distant and I grew lonely and anxious. I pushed his behavior and my feelings aside as expectant-first-time-parent-jitters.... Read More...

#NeverGiveUP: 7 Good Reminders for When You Are About to Quit

When things are going well, it's always good to know how to keep and expand that. And, when we struggle to catch a breath, facing challenging circumstances, we got to take other actions that help us pull through rough patches on the way. Some situations seem to be so excruciatingly terrible, we think it's going to last forever. That is when we need to explore what works best for us when it comes to reframing our mind making the transition from a tough place to the brighter one easier. That's when we need to remind ourselves of some fundamental truths just before we were about to give up...... Read More...

Dreams Come True, But if You Don’t Ask, the Answer is Always No!

If we go after our dreams and give it a try, there is no guaranty that we will make it happen. But, by trying, we will create a possibility for ourselves to make it happen! Bon the other hand, if we do not give it a try, we will not even create that possibility for ourselves, and therefore, the only guarantee we have is that it will never become true for us!... Read More...

Why Giving Up on Someone is Sometimes The Best Thing for You

giving up on a loved one is always an experience that shakes us to our core and you can be sure that your mind will do anything to dissuade you from going through with it. Thankfully, there are still people who decide they don’t want to live a half-life anymore, they turn away from half-love, half-respect, half-peace they struggle to have with someone in order to be whole on their own.... Read More...

7 Amazing Health Benefits of Walking in the Woods

We all know that spending time outside is good for us and our bodies, but sometimes we forget just how important it is to maintain proper physical and mental health. And because of our hectic lives and our 9 to 5 jobs, a lot of us think that it’s too much of a hassle to find time to idly prance around a forest. However, according to new studies it’s a really good idea to spend at least an hour per day outside of your living room, as it can really improve your overall health. In this article, I want to focus on just some of the benefits that spending extended amounts of time in nature can have for your body and your psyche.... Read More...

Do You Have to Know the Darkness Before You Can Appreciate the Light?

When I started writing my blog about my mental health, I realized that at some point, I was going to be writing while in the middle of an episode of depression.  As I have been mentally well for such a long time, I thought that could take ages to be the case, and I may almost seem a fraud.  Call it the law of attraction, but here I am a short time later in the midst of what seems to be one of the worst episodes I have had for some time.... Read More...

How to Turn Depression Into a Powerful Tool for Creativity

There are a lot of times in your life where things do not go your way. Every person has different criteria and way of dealing with things. Some get out of trouble without having to even ask for help; while others may suffer so much that they start getting bouts of depression marked by periods of anxiety and inner turmoil. There are multiple ways to battle depression and live a healthy life, and even though depression affects all of us differently, it has its effects more on a creative person.... Read More...

What I’ve Learned From My Student Life

If I were to give an advice to a prospective student – please, become as open-minded as possible. Never let your experience to be limited to your expectations; try the things you are fascinated by even though it may seem risky and scary at first, be willing to grow personally, every single day. See any curveball or a barrier or 'unfortunate incident' as yet another opportunity given to you to grow as a person.... Read More...

How to Cope With Panic Attack

Panic + Fear = Powerless. An equation that has frequently been added up in my head! Anyone who has ever suffered from panic attacks (even if you have only had one once) will know they’re hard to forget. Not to mention tough to manage. In this post, I hope to be able to share my experiences of panic attacks and give some advice on how to live life alongside these unpredictable moments.... Read More...

Put Down Your Phone: Millennial Men Hope To Meet ‘The One’ while Traveling

With the help of the digital revolution that has reshaped our lives beyond recognition, everything we do now has a new dimension – an “online” reality that allows for remote working, genuine reviews, and a wealth of information at our fingertips. But one trend that took the world by storm, and that I never really got the hang of, somehow dwindled as fast as it developed.... Read More...

One Thing You Should Know About Overcoming Eating Disorder

It was November and I was sat there in a waiting room at the front of an inpatient mental health adolescent hospital in Bristol. My parents sat either side of me. All of us were quite anxious and a bit on edge. The last 24 hours hung over us, my heart ECG coming back as bad and a huge family argument about what was right for me. I guess the reality was that those arguments had pretty much been my life for the last year or so. Ever since my parents had decided to interfere with my eating and made me go to CAMHs.  ... Read More...

How to Have Effective Conversation

In this world, everyone likes to be heard, but few seem to stop talking long enough to listen. More often than not, as soon as someone starts to speak, we are guilty of spending our internal energy on mustering up something awesome to say in response. Active listening is a lost art to the excessive barking of Dodo birds.... Read More...

6 Tips to Support Your Loved One During Recovery

Everybody knows someone. From your own family, from your circle of friends, from your workplace, from the community you live in - someone who is struggling with addiction - alcohol, social drugs, prescription drugs, so the list goes on. I know plenty of “someones,” but those are the circles I move in. In a way, I always have.... Read More...

7 Simple Ways to Find Your Purpose and Live Meaningfully

I used to spend a lot of time daydreaming about all of the things I’d like to be doing with my life.  But I had a corporate job and was busy ticking things off my bucket list, settling down, finding a house and a man who’d love me.  All of the things I felt I should do, all of the things society tells us is the way.  But my life lacked meaning and I was unsure of what my real purpose was.  Stuck is a job that suffocated my soul, I thought there must be other ways to make ends meet?  Do you ever find yourself asking those questions; is this all there is?  Is this what life is all about?  What would you do if you had more time, money, freedom?... Read More...

How to Help Your Loved One with Mental Health Problems

We like to comfort ourselves with the thought that medicine has advanced so much that few things are still a mystery and that most, if not all, diseases can be resolved. There is only a category of diseases that still cause fear, confusion and anxiety, the ones about which people talk in a low voice – mental disorders. However, even such an extreme situation as having or living with a loved one who has a mental disorder can be survived with the right approach.... Read More...

What Makes a Good Night’s Sleep?

A good night’s rest is an important part of your overall health, and not getting the recommended 7 to 9 hours a night can eventually play havoc on both your mental and physical state. Long term sleep debt results in not only a sluggish you, but can even increase your risk for cardiovascular problems, obesity, and even stroke. If you struggle with insomnia, tossing and turning, or pain throughout the night, you may want to consider a few factors contributing to your discomfort.... Read More...

‘Happily Ever After’ is Fiction, Real Love is What You Need

The bond between husband and wife can be one of the most beautiful things. Finding a best friend and loyal companion, someone that completes you is the ultimate gift. Putting all selfishness aside, when you make that leap of faith, joining hearts by uniting differences, strengths and weakness, you balance each other out, creating a thriving vessel for flourishing love.   Sounds amazing right? And let’s not forget, marriage always puts a smile on our face and its all smooth sailing from the moment we say “I do.”... Read More...

Eating Well is Something We Should Aim to Do Every Day, Right?

Some of us learned to associate 'eating well' with 'dieting' – those things are fundamentally different. Eating well is something ALL of us should aim for on a daily basis, so there is no need to rush and therefore there is no risk giving up on it too. It's way better to take things slowly, one step at a time, gradually shifting your eating habits in an enjoyable and sustainable way over the long term.... Read More...

5 Helpful Tips to Start Every Day on a Positive Note

One of the most important things to starting every day right and on a positive note is what are our last thoughts are we go to sleep and what are our first thoughts when we wake.  Most of us don’t even give it a second thought, I know I never used to..  I just stumbled through life accepting life as it was and my mood was my mood.  I didn’t realize then that I could control my mood that I could decide what mood I would wake up in!... Read More...

Top 10 Success Quotes

Of course, personal success comes in many different shapes and my concept of being a success might not look the same as yours. If you wish to be successful in life, then the very fundamental thing you should do is to define exactly what “success” means to you. Take a moment to think, think deeply, what does success mean to you? And whilst you are thinking, let us share top 10 success quotes we found particularly inspirational!... Read More...

How to Alleviate Anxiety: Use These 5 Helpful Techniques

Everyone’s experience anxiety at least once in their lives and it can easily become paralyzing in the right conditions, making us feel like we’re out of control. Focusing on work becomes harder, traveling any distance is panic-inducing, and everyday tasks can feel like impossible tests. We are, however, able to pull ourselves out of these episodes by using grounding techniques.... Read More...

Can You Really Emotionally Empower Your Kids for Life?

Beginning to talk about our feelings cannot happen too soon. By equipping our children with this skill we are really emotionally empowering them for life. Having the ability to say accurately how we are feeling not only allows us to communicate more effectively with each other but also develops our ability to consider and recognize feelings being expressed by others. A vital skill for all young children to develop!... Read More...

Havingtimers, Welcome! Thank’s For Joining The Family!

Havingtimers, our amazing guys and girls, thank you ALL so much for joining this global havingtime family! We cannot thank you enough for sharing your incredible stories, and challenges, and inspiration learning from each other, keeping each other stronger and supported in this ever changing world where happiness often can take a back seat to the breakneck speed of life.... Read More...

5 Better Things to Be Than Just An Artist

Stop trying to be an artist. That title has been spoiled by the pressure it carries. Don’t focus internally - “am I good enough” - “am I truly an artist” - but focus on the simple work you can do to tend to your art, discover your creativity, swing for your home run, reflect the world around you, and inspire movement. “The muse honors the working stiff.” Start painting a hundred paintings, one at a time, and someday you might step back to find your masterpiece.... Read More...

How to Speak Out: Why It’s Okay to Not be Okay

Through these apps and social media, many of us pretend that our lives are perfect. I’m not innocent either! So many times I have felt pressured to post on my Instagram just to keep up face even though I am having a real rough time. Whack a ridiculously filtered selfie up on your page, and everyone is none the wiser. But everybody knows – nobody’s life is perfect. So why are we striving so hard to pretend that we are blemish free when we all secretly know that some days we just want to crawl back into bed and cry all day?... Read More...

5 Important Things I Learned in Rehab About Self-Confidence

People seemed to like me better when I was on my party-mode, and nobody ever hid those thoughts from me. I went from being the lame, silent kid in class, to be the King. My social circle grew as wide as the whole classroom and I didn’t have to worry about how I really felt because everyone around me was thinking that I was one of the cool ones to be around. Unfortunately, that reputation only lasted for a while.... Read More...

Powerful Ways to Rekindle the Spark in a Strained Relationship

Too many times we hear the phrase “grounds for divorce” and think about its devastating impact. Instead, we should be thinking about grounds for marriage. What is it that you do, feel, and say that keeps your loved one close? While no universal practice or theory of marriage and relationships exists, we can sort out a few important tips that span all relationships.... Read More...

How to Create a Beautiful and Exciting Life

If you are “obsessing” over Instagram pictures and social media little too much, that is an indicator that you are actually lacking fun, adventure, travel, excitement, joy, beauty in our own life. Your soul and heart desires that you live an Instagram kind of life: travel more, pursue your own dreams, experience more fun, joy, adventures… You also can create beautiful, happy, successful, fulfilled life for yourself which you’ll love, just like those Instagram bloggers and influencers that you are following. You only need to decide that you will not settle for mediocre life and that you will go after your dreams, commit to work hard and follow the right strategy to do it.... Read More...

When You Lead: 5 Crucial Tips on Authentic Leadership to Learn

Have you ever heard of the term authentic leadership? Many people hear this term and don't take it seriously enough. The truth is authentic leadership is not reserved for the elite few or a set group of people. Authentic leadership is an essential skillset to be embraced by everyone. No matter what your title is or where you are at in your career, you can be a leader starting today.... Read More...

The top 5 Regrets in Life You Should Avoid

Read the list of top 5 regrets in life and imagine what it would look like to live a life without those regrets: not living simply to meet the expectations of others; giving yourself permission to rest and relax; courageously telling people what you are really feeling; calling up a friend to say hello; enjoying life in the moment without worrying about the future.... Read More...

4.4 Billion People Feel Unloved. Are You One?

I recently heard about a study that claims 60% of all humans feel like no one really loves them. That means that at any given moment some 4.4 billion people feel unloved. That number is staggering. If that many people are experiencing a lack of love in their lives it would explain why there is such a vast amount of hatred and suffering on the planet. It has been illustrated that children who grow up in households without love, as adults, they are often unable to give or accept love and can exhibit signs of self-loathing or anti-social behavior.... Read More...

Want to Know Yourself Better? One Question to Answer Right Now

In essence, we all have experiences that we bury in the shadow and which unconsciously drive our behavior. However, given the will, we also have what it takes to look beyond the 38th parallel, beyond the borders of the DMZ and into the northern unconscious. We can do this when we choose to, again, not in a tiring act of restless pursuit to catalog our entire lives hitherto, but as a natural part of reflection and emotional growth. And then, once we discover these gems, we can let them go.... Read More...

Tackling Insomnia: How to Get a Good Night’s Sleep

Can't sleep? Thinking too much? If you’ve ever had insomnia you probably know how sleep problems can affect your wellbeing, in particular, your mood and anxiety levels. Thinking often plays a role in maintaining sleep problems, such as insomnia. Today, I’m going to walk you through what sleep problems or insomnia look like and then how to address problematic thinking styles that contribute to sleep problems.... Read More...

How to Quickly Identify the Things you Need to Let Go of

We can't hope to truly move on without releasing the ties and anchors that hold us down. It can be hurtful to find out that we are the holders of the key to release our leg, but I can promise that once you open the lock and release your emotional baggage, you will see happiness manifest and know that you empowered yourself to take the step. You are stronger than you can ever imagine. Begin today with basic honesty.... Read More...

How to Develop the Freedom to Fail & Achieve Your Goals

Nike’s slogan has never worked for me. After excessively failing at my self-appointed objectives, I eventually realized that my failure was not in not accomplishing my goal nor in unsuccessfully creating a habit but in not setting myself up for success. My failure wasn’t after the fact but before it. I was setting myself up to fail by being impatient with myself and expecting too much out of myself too soon. I had the wrong mindset back then...... Read More...

An Open Letter to ALL Therapists

The World is different these days. I am in an abundance of information and I have instant access to it at the drop of the hat. I am constantly bombarded with messages, day and night that drown out my inner voice. I’m in a state of emotional hypersensitivity and I am terrified about it. At best I am coping. Safeguarding, by locking out all depth of emotion so as not to show my true self, because I am different, I am the problem. Or so I believe.... Read More...

4 Mind-Bending Secrets of the Process of Change

"If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you at all." Change is that unique spice that gets thrown into the mix of life, and we all get to experience it. And yet, change is not something we tend to get on with easily because most of us have grown up with the notion that change is potentially something "troublesome" or even dangerous when in fact it could be easily just another beginning of a new exciting and exhilarating adventure!... Read More...

How to Face and Solve Problems in Your Life

What if I tell you that I have seen you every time you tried to hide. Every time you thought of running away or actually did run away because you were too unsure you can face your problems. What if I tell you that I was there when you couldn't stand to fight for what you have always wanted because you thought it was bigger than what you could take. What if I tell you that I knew how you let your problems outgrow you when you decided to avoid them.... Read More...

How to Use Mantras Effectively to Change Your Life

The idea of positive self-talk and the declarative statements that many people call “affirmations” have been around for a long time. Maybe you’ve even tried them yourself, but without much luck. I was in the same boat until recently, when I discovered one imperative wrinkle in the practice that changed everything for me (including my life). What I didn’t understand before was this: The key to an effective affirmation – or what I like to call a mantra – is not the words themselves, but how they make you feel. To be effective, a mantra has to make you feel good when you say it.... Read More...

How to Let Go of the Fear of Uncertainty & Be Free

As a law student and lawyer, I tried to think my way to a better life. I tried to think my way out of my depression. I failed completely. By the time I realized I had to stop thinking, I was mired in student debt, working at a job I hated, and taking pills every day just to get by. I still take antidepressants, but the other things have changed. How? I had to let go of my ruminating, overthinking rational self, and let intuition guide me to the answer. When you listen, the small voice of intuition speaks wise words.... Read More...

7 Tips to Keep Yourself Motivated When You’re Not Feeling It

Sometimes, successful people lead us to believe that they keep going, 24/7/365 based on sheer willpower and passion. You hear buzzwords everywhere and you think that if you just find that one thing that drives you, you’ll be all set. Naturally, if you believe this and find yourself struggling to find that one thing, you might feel defeated. Remove the notion that you’re missing a secret ingredient. You aren’t missing anything. Rather, you’re misunderstanding, which brings me to my next point.... Read More...

Trust Your Path: When It’s Time to Break Free

It’s easy to get swept up in the hype of what everyone else is doing. It’s even more easy to lose yourself when you’re in a group following a certain path. I was part of a group of people who enrolled in a personal development course, and while it was a powerful and life changing course, something inside of me felt off. It was time to break free.... Read More...

This Will Lead You to Unstoppable Self-Confidence

Confidence comes from experience and experience comes from trying new things and occasionally failing... then trying again without stopping. In everything: studying, work, love, relationships, fulfillment. The more we stubbornly choose to expose ourselves and say yes to experiences, the more we are getting out there no matter how bumpy the road of exploring gets. We learn we grow; we move on to new lessons... like opening an advent calendar – one day at a time.... Read More...

5 Things to Consider When You Need a Relationship Advice

Relationship advice is everywhere! It seems like every time I turn around, I hear or read someone's two cents on a relationship that isn't theirs. The more I think about it, the more I believe that exposing yourself to this information is a bad idea, unless you're getting it straight from a certified professional. It's okay to occasionally vent to loved ones or read articles that give simple relationship tips every now and then. In fact, doing so can be quite helpful and therapeutic if done in moderation. But making relationship gossip and advice seeking a habit or giving away too many details to too many people can ultimately be detrimental to an otherwise perfectly good relationship. 5 Reasons to Avoid Seeking Relationship Advice From Non-Experts...... Read More...

How to Be Wealthy, Even When Your Wallet is Empty

We have a tendency to equate success based on what we have or what we earn. I grew up thinking the more money I had, the more successful I was, and that more was always better. I spent much of my life chasing the elusive dream, the house, car, corporate titles and earned a lot of money in the process but it was doing this that made me realize material wealth does not make me happy, in fact, it can have the opposite effect. I worked all hours to earn more money, but it left me with no time to do the things I enjoyed and to live my life, beyond the material. ... Read More...

One Book That Will Change Your Life For The Better

Through Eyes That See Book Review. A couple of weeks ago I've received a gift from a friend. A gift that really made a difference. A gift that showed that immense support and understanding we all yearn for once in a while. It was a book by amazing Nadyne T. Hicks "Through Eyes That See". In that book I found a new friend named Darcy with whom each of us could find so much in common... it's astonishing!... Read More...

One Fundamental Thing You Need to Know About Self Esteem

We all have fears, we all know what it's like to feel stuck in the middle without a clue what to do and how to overcome that wall and to move forward. We all have fears undoubtedly, but this doesn't mean that we have to sit still in one place and be overtaken by mould while fear keeps us from taking action... It is irrelevant how tall that fire-wall of fear might be – we can make our breakthrough as long as we understand that it's up to us really. We can build our self-confidence brick by brick, one step at a time. And every little achievement on that journey will reinforce new achievements, therefore, new self-confidence to move on and beyond what we aspire to or think is possible.... Read More...

Hidden Reasons Why We Suck at Getting What We Want

Do you ever wonder why you’re not getting what you want? Maybe it’s the job, the relationship, the money, the passion, the excitement, or the love? Well, here’s the good news – you’re not alone. This is something many of us struggle with on a constant basis. I am here to tell why these limiting beliefs are blocking you off from getting what you want and how to begin confronting and combating them. Still not getting what you want? Here's why.... Read More...

How to Let Go of the Burdens That Hold You Back

When you think of the phrase 'letting go', it conjures up all sorts of images, thoughts and feelings doesn't it? Freedom, free falling, a sigh of relief, moving forwards, uncertainly - all kinds of things. Learning to know how and when to let go has been a big one for me. Letting go ultimately enables me to stress less, sleep more, feel free and just 'be'. It also brings up fear and uncertainty but for me, that's much better than the stress, angst and anxiety of clinging on. The thing about letting go is that in today's society we're not really conditioned to embrace it. It's all about being proactive and making stuff happen. Also, as someone building a business, there are many things I need to do and goals to achieve and 'letting go' doesn't really support that notion of work, work, work until you succeed! However, what I have found - in all areas of life actually, is that by letting go you let in all the things that in some weird, mystical or mysterious way, work for you so that all that graft doesn't feel quite so much like the 'sweat, blood and tears' we apparently need to endure to get things done.... Read More...

5 Quirky Things You Can Do to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed

When the walls are closing in and you’re feeling an avalanche of emotions, you’ve simply got to do something to break the momentum your brain is building. I’m sure that health experts and psychologists could offer practical tips for disrupting an undesirable mental pattern, but I’m here to offer some offbeat advice that takes no training (and not a lot of time to do it!).... Read More...

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