Let Go

Letting go of the past and things that held us hostage

The 3 Ways Squat Toilets Made me a Happier Person

...I just returned to the US after spending a year in China. Unsurprisingly, it was transformative—as travel often tends to be. And as that year began, I knew I wasn’t heading into a serene, picturesque vacation. There would be no top-notch wine, no quaint seaside cottage stays. There would be bodily fluids on the streets, random power outages and pork shavings in everything (everything). And that was okay. I knew that the discomfort would be intermingled with plenty of debauchery and adventure, and I was ready for some boundary-stretching, some comfort zone-breaking...... Read More...

4 Reasons Why Being Alone Doesn’t Mean Lonely

Alone doesn't have to mean lonely. Having just moved to a new place where I only know a few people, I’ve spent a lot of time alone the last few months. At first, I was sad, lonely, even depressed without my friends around. But I’ve been learning that there’s an art to being alone and if you can work on it, it can bring a lot of positivity to your life! Society may tell you that you need a significant other, but I say, tune that out and read this list. Being alone might be just what you need!... Read More...

How to Deal With Emotional Baggage Effectively

All That You Can't Leave Behind...Why can’t you move on and let the past go? What is it with us and that enormous emotional baggage that we tend to carry around? Imagine yourself standing in the heavy pouring rain with an empty bucket. The longer we stand there holding the bucket, the heavier it gets. It gets heavier rather quickly, doesn't it? How long can we hold it for? There comes a point in time when we need to release it before it gets too overwhelming...... Read More...

This Will Help You In Turning a Bad Day Around

I remember being so negative about most days that the bad days slowly started to become a bad life. No matter how Zen we are, we all have bad days, when we just get up on the wrong side of the bed. Some of us have them more, some of us have them less, but we all experience them. There is no need to suffer through a bad day, and just wait for it to end; there are so many little things we can do to help ourselves and also the people around us. I used to get up and feel bad every day. Just all around depressed and anxious about life, and all I wanted to do when I got up was to go back to sleep. I didn’t realize all that I could have done to make my days better. Let’s go through an average day together and see how we can turn bad days around... Read More...

Perfectly Imperfect: Releasing the Shame That Binds You

Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. Every day, we get up and we talk about topics that we are comfortable with. We might chit-chat about a movie we saw over the weekend with a friend or talk about our chances for promotion with our husband. Somehow, we manage to talk about our loves, our hopes, even our failures. What we often don't talk about is that insidious feeling that sometimes festers inside us, that makes us feel like we are nothing, that colours our very being. What we can't talk about is a shame. Where Does Shame Come From? How Do We Get Beyond Our Shame? ... Read More...

This Might Make You Happy and Stress-Free

Granted, we all give things different meaning according to our life experience, the way we think and tend to reflect, but… Why is it so addictive to think and react to the negative things? Why it is so challenging sometimes to stay truly present, to enjoy the very moment of our existence NOW? We live now. Not in the past, nor in the future. We live in the NOW. Your Ability to Appreciate and Enjoy the Moment of NOW is What Matters the Most!... Read More...

Why Busyness Such a Badge of Honor? Discovered!

When we’re busy, we don’t have time to do the work we’re really meant to be doing. We don’t have time to go the extra mile for a client or customer. We don’t have time to make a difference for someone. Busyness acts like an invisible barrier around us, keeping us from getting over-involved, hurt or even from failing. We can’t fail if we’re too busy to start. Why is Busyness Such a Badge of Honour? Has Busyness Become the Ultimate Excuse for Not Making People a Priority in our Lives? ... Read More...

5 Tips to Move Beyond Envy and Start Enjoying Your Life

Envy is the art of counting the other fellow's blessings instead of your own. If we envy someone else, it’s like we’re unconsciously telling the universe we feel less worthy to receive and achieve than someone else, which is, of course, hogwash… I first began to leave envy behind (though this green monster still badgered me for rides home long after I’d attempted to ditch her) once I’d realized these five things...... Read More...

The Root of Envy and How to Cut it Immediately

We see other people going through life passing us by in "better" cars, having better relationships, kids, jobs, travelling adventures, opportunities and a bundle of astonishing achievements... Granted, we don't see the whole story behind the facade of someone else's "perfect" life. What we keep telling ourselves are the stories why we don't have what they have, or even worse, why we don't deserve to have better things in our lives. It's hard to feed an ungrateful wolf – it never seems enough. We go through Facebook updates and wonder even more how come that our friends seem to have more blessings, more joy, more fun... they seem to have it all. That awful feeling with a hot flush of jealousy overtakes our minds and souls and drifts us further away from focusing on the good that we already have in life. We seem to forget all at once that gratitude is the antidote to envy. It's easy to forget it while we are in a slump of envy, but it essential to remember when we are taking action to get out.... Read More...

3 Most Powerful Lessons Learned From Criticism

Sometimes in life we will meet people who will never agree with the things we choose to do. Perhaps it's them basking in their own sea of bitterness for not being able to do the same. Or perhaps they are locked in their little shell, with a courage half of ours, to not be able to do what they want to do. But it happens, and life will always throw us into one of those situations of unfair treatment and disapproval. As unfortunate as it sounds, I was one of them. But I learned three very important lessons out of this. And I hope I can spread it to you too.... Read More...

Dealing With Rejection: It’s Never About THEM

I recently received an email from a friend who was telling me about a particular man in her life who she’d once had a brief encounter with. This man however was married, completely unavailable both physically and emotionally and my friend was still struggling with the fact that he was making no effort to be a part of her life. This really riled me. It was clear as day that my friend was clinging onto this guy who was so obviously not interested and never would be. But she still refused to let go holding onto an idea of what could have been. She seemed to be living for him and for any sign or attempt of recognition that their encounter meant something to him.... Read More...

Stressed and Overwhelmed: 5 Ways to Calm your Overachiever

There was so much that begged for my attention and so much that I needed to get done if I wanted to take my industry by storm... But then something happened. The inspiration came and gone. I was left with the distinct desire of wanting to do nothing at all. I gave myself permission to ‘take a day off’. But it turned out the desire to do nothing had other plans, setting up shop in my mind for the rest of the entire week! I couldn’t believe it. As a world-class overachiever, I was disappointed with myself. This was no time to take breaks! This was time to take action. Yet even s0, I couldn’t help but hear a small voice whisper: RELAX.... Read More...

When Thoughts Pull You in Different Directions, Do This

Have you ever driven from Point A to Point B and not remembered the drive? Or have you ever got off the phone with someone and forget what you just talked about with them? Or have you ever been so worried and anxious about the future that you miss out on what's happening in the present? You may even felt stuck like you can't see a solution to a problem and all you think about is the problem and you miss what's happening around you. If any of this sounds familiar to you, you are...... Read More...

How to Stop Worrying Effective Immediately

How many of us occupy themselves with pointless worrying? When we are in the middle of it, it seems impossible to get a handle on the situation and turn things around. It's like going downstream in a roaring mountain river in a canoe without a paddle. And the stream of worries just takes you down with no way of stopping. Or so it seems that way. But it's far from the truth. And there is this awesome technique you should try that works...... Read More...

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