mental health

Self-Love: How to Love the “I” in “I Love You”

So, what is self-love?  Simply put it’s about loving the “I” in “I love you.”  When we usually think of the phrase “I love you” we are thinking about loving someone else.  This means accepting them for who they are, sticking by them through good times and bad, encouraging them in their life pursuits, celebrating their healthy choices, and being a constant companion and ally.  Sounds nice, huh?  But what about actually providing this to your very self, as well?... Read More...

How to Build Your Confidence After a Life-Altering Event

Hands up if you’ve ever had a traumatic experience that you felt changed you. I’ll go first: in 2010 I had my colon removed due to cancer, and shortly after that I found out I had Lynch syndrome, which is a genetic condition that makes me more likely to get certain types of cancer in the future. I’ve written a lot about these experiences, particularly about how they have affected me emotionally. I’ve also thought a lot about how they have changed me as a person, and I’ve come to the conclusion that it hasn’t all been negative. In some ways, I’ve even changed for the better. Here are three things to think about that may help you feel better about your bad experiences too, whatever those may be.... Read More...

8 Amazing Habits to Improve Positivity In Your Life

Having a positive outlook on life is perhaps the most important habit aiming towards the belief of how everything can always change for the best. In the face of adversity and difficulties, it can be hard to remain calm and optimistic, which is why just like everything that requires effort in life, it ends up paying off.... Read More...

6 Ways Poor Sleep Can Sink Your Relationship

When it comes to things in life we cherish, our relationships hit the top tiers of our lists. If you are fortunate enough to have a partner in life that shares your dreams and hopes for the future, how you treat each other is important. As much as we wish that being in love was easy it isn’t, so every chance we get to make our love lives smoother, we’ll take it.... Read More...

Viktor Frankl: Shedding More Light on The Meaning of Life

Viktor E. Frankl (1905-1997) the author of the book, psychiatrist, and neurologist wrote about his torturous experience (during the World War II) as an inmate in a notorious concentration camp Auschwitz. Fascinatingly enough, he noted that people that survived longest in concentration camps were not people who were physically strong, but those few who managed to stay strong soulfully and kept a sense of control over their internal environment, their outlook, their attitude.... Read More...

One Powerful Habit That Changed My Life For Good

It was only when I was left with nothing to hold on to, nothing to escape to, no one to hide behind or to enable me, that I was literally forced to dig deep inside me and find the strength I never thought I had, in order to survive. But there it was, hidden somewhere in me, waiting for me, one powerful habit that saved my life.... Read More...

How to be at Peace When Your World Turns to Chaos

I was hit from every angle but discovered that this was a fight I could win. I could give up or take it head on. It never was easy, except when I was sleeping, but I was determined to come out of it with myself intact. I started asking myself how the future would look? I wondered if I should envision it with a lesser hope to protect myself from the worst case scenario. Or should I envision better than ever things for my future instead?... Read More...

How to Explain Anxiety to Someone Who Doesn’t Get it

When we talk to people suffering from anxiety, most of them would describe this as a feeling of deep dread, apprehension of doom and gloom. It is a part of 'fight or flight' response which is a natural reaction to events we find rather stressful; it helps us deal with various demanding situations like before delivering a speech and getting exposed in front of a massive audience, or studying and trying to pass the excruciatingly important exam. In fairness, short-term anxiety can help us stay more focused and alert which could be useful when dealing with perceived threat, but long-term anxiety has a harmful impact on the body and the mind. ... Read More...

Do You Have to Know the Darkness Before You Can Appreciate the Light?

When I started writing my blog about my mental health, I realized that at some point, I was going to be writing while in the middle of an episode of depression.  As I have been mentally well for such a long time, I thought that could take ages to be the case, and I may almost seem a fraud.  Call it the law of attraction, but here I am a short time later in the midst of what seems to be one of the worst episodes I have had for some time.... Read More...

How to Cope With Panic Attack

Panic + Fear = Powerless. An equation that has frequently been added up in my head! Anyone who has ever suffered from panic attacks (even if you have only had one once) will know they’re hard to forget. Not to mention tough to manage. In this post, I hope to be able to share my experiences of panic attacks and give some advice on how to live life alongside these unpredictable moments.... Read More...

One Thing You Should Know About Overcoming Eating Disorder

It was November and I was sat there in a waiting room at the front of an inpatient mental health adolescent hospital in Bristol. My parents sat either side of me. All of us were quite anxious and a bit on edge. The last 24 hours hung over us, my heart ECG coming back as bad and a huge family argument about what was right for me. I guess the reality was that those arguments had pretty much been my life for the last year or so. Ever since my parents had decided to interfere with my eating and made me go to CAMHs.  ... Read More...

6 Tips to Support Your Loved One During Recovery

Everybody knows someone. From your own family, from your circle of friends, from your workplace, from the community you live in - someone who is struggling with addiction - alcohol, social drugs, prescription drugs, so the list goes on. I know plenty of “someones,” but those are the circles I move in. In a way, I always have.... Read More...

How to Help Your Loved One with Mental Health Problems

We like to comfort ourselves with the thought that medicine has advanced so much that few things are still a mystery and that most, if not all, diseases can be resolved. There is only a category of diseases that still cause fear, confusion and anxiety, the ones about which people talk in a low voice – mental disorders. However, even such an extreme situation as having or living with a loved one who has a mental disorder can be survived with the right approach.... Read More...

How to Alleviate Anxiety: Use These 5 Helpful Techniques

Everyone’s experience anxiety at least once in their lives and it can easily become paralyzing in the right conditions, making us feel like we’re out of control. Focusing on work becomes harder, traveling any distance is panic-inducing, and everyday tasks can feel like impossible tests. We are, however, able to pull ourselves out of these episodes by using grounding techniques.... Read More...

4 Effective Ways to Eliminate Negative Emotions

At a certain point, I stopped counting the number of times people told me to “think positively” in order to cope with my sorrows. And while I admire those who have a predisposition towards such a state of mind that is naturally transformed from negative into positive, I’ve always found it almost impossible to achieve that peace of mind.... Read More...

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