life lessons

3 Helpful Strategies to Take Back Control of Your Life

How can you expect to reach a dream that you haven't defined? And the beauty is, your dream is yours to create! It's not to be dictated to you although some may try to do just that. But you aren't held to the dreams others make for you... you are free to design your own.... Read More...

Four Effective Ways to Stop Bullying in a Family

Unfortunately, in some families, bullying is an accepted behavior—this usually occurs because parents don’t know any other way. And so they continue parenting their kids the same way they were brought up. But that doesn’t make it right.... Read More...

Hidden Reasons Why We Suck at Getting What We Want

Do you ever wonder why you’re not getting what you want? Maybe it’s the job, the relationship, the money, the passion, the excitement, or the love? Well, here’s the good news – you’re not alone. This is something many of us struggle with on a constant basis. I am here to tell why these limiting beliefs are blocking you off from getting what you want and how to begin confronting and combating them. Still not getting what you want? Here's why.... Read More...

One Solid Choice You Won’t Regret in 5 Years

I've spent years caring about what people thought of me, and comparing myself to others, and choosing to do things against my heart's desires. I was seeking external approval, or tried hard to "become" someone who I was not in order to please others. But then I've decided to do something that changed my life forever...... Read More...

Here’s How to Build The Life You ENJOY Living

Our life is built on many grounds (or plateaus), many of which aren't ever really our own. We start off as children in a home that is built with a lifestyle we must abide by and our first lessons to stand on. We then go to school and conform to another ground of rules of being - to fit in, to follow rules, to do your work. Then we go into the world and find jobs/careers with rules and environments to follow. These are all grounds that are laid out for us, that we must walk through to eventually find our own.... Read More...

An Amazing Life Lesson From a Brain Tumour Survivor

2 years ago I had brain surgery. Now some people might say I am lucky to be alive and I am, but when I was faced with it I framed it as an opportunity. It was scary at first but one the initial shock wore off I thought “how can I go through this and still thrive?” I took it as a positive and not a negative. A chance to grow as a person even though the next year or longer of my life was going to be more different then I would ever know it. How many things have happened in your life that if you were to frame them a little differently the outcome would have been more positive?... Read More...

One Priceless Love Lesson From a Cheap Tiny Old Ring

One word frees us all of the weight and pain of life: that word is love. — Sophocles For the past however many years (I honestly can't remember how longs it's been), I've had this on again, off again, relationship with a cheap, gold-painted, little ring. There's nothing particularly amazing about this ring. It wasn’t expensive, and it’s definitely not from Tiffany’s. In fact, I believe I bought it for less than five bucks at Forever 21 (when I was still in the appropriate age bracket to shop there). But for whatever reason, unbeknownst to me, I've grown a strong affection for this cheap, little ring. I wear it all the time, for every occasion, always on the same hand, always on the same finger. The weird thing about this ring is...... Read More...

Creating More Joy in Your Life Right Now

I recall a time when severe heart pains shot through my chest and startled me out of a deep sleep. This happened so often that I scheduled a doctor’s appointment. Surely, something was horribly wrong with my heart. Although my test results returned normal I didn’t feel fine. I had a beautiful life by society’s standards —a husband, 2 children, a house, and a “good” job. However, I worked long hours, I never saw my children, and my marriage was strained. My work no longer fulfilled me, my husband no longer fulfilled me, and my beliefs no longer fulfilled me. The song that sang inside of my head was sad and melancholic. Occasionally, what I thought was joy would surface but it would quickly dissipate into my dark and gloomy thoughts... I do whatever it takes to change my thoughts (sing, read, watch a good comedy) and when I shift my thoughts my mood follows. You can do this too. ... Read More...

Learning the Importance of Valuing Your Own Choices

I struggled to find myself during my youth; to be brutally honest, I’m still searching. My life is a work in progress. As long as I am moving forward, I feel I am making progress. Have you ever given in to what others think about you, your life and your choices? Did you regret it afterwards because it wasn’t the right thing to do? I have - too many times to count. I cannot fathom why I would think someone else knows what is best for me in any given situation. Why didn’t I trust my own judgment? I often wonder if it’s because I could hold someone else accountable if things didn’t turn out well. If I screwed up and made the wrong choice, I’d have no one to blame but myself. The burden of making a choice was off of me if I followed the advice of others. I didn’t want to be ridiculed for making a bad choice. No one wants to hear, “I told you so.” ... Read More...

The 3 Ways Squat Toilets Made me a Happier Person

...I just returned to the US after spending a year in China. Unsurprisingly, it was transformative—as travel often tends to be. And as that year began, I knew I wasn’t heading into a serene, picturesque vacation. There would be no top-notch wine, no quaint seaside cottage stays. There would be bodily fluids on the streets, random power outages and pork shavings in everything (everything). And that was okay. I knew that the discomfort would be intermingled with plenty of debauchery and adventure, and I was ready for some boundary-stretching, some comfort zone-breaking...... Read More...

When in Doubt: 5 Effective Tips for Easy Decision-Making

My struggle to make big decisions wasn’t limited to my career. I remember lying awake in the middle of the night, wondering whether I should or could remain in a relationship with someone who had repeatedly betrayed my trust but who I deeply loved. All of these situations had one unwanted element in common: fear of making the “wrong” decision. How can we bring ease and peace to the decision-making process? Here is what has worked for me, and I believe it will work for you, too...... Read More...

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