life lessons

How to Use Mantras Effectively to Change Your Life

The idea of positive self-talk and the declarative statements that many people call “affirmations” have been around for a long time. Maybe you’ve even tried them yourself, but without much luck. I was in the same boat until recently, when I discovered one imperative wrinkle in the practice that changed everything for me (including my life). What I didn’t understand before was this: The key to an effective affirmation – or what I like to call a mantra – is not the words themselves, but how they make you feel. To be effective, a mantra has to make you feel good when you say it.... Read More...

Hidden Reasons Why We Suck at Getting What We Want

Do you ever wonder why you’re not getting what you want? Maybe it’s the job, the relationship, the money, the passion, the excitement, or the love? Well, here’s the good news – you’re not alone. This is something many of us struggle with on a constant basis. I am here to tell why these limiting beliefs are blocking you off from getting what you want and how to begin confronting and combating them. Still not getting what you want? Here's why.... Read More...

One Solid Choice You Won’t Regret in 5 Years

I've spent years caring about what people thought of me, and comparing myself to others, and choosing to do things against my heart's desires. I was seeking external approval, or tried hard to "become" someone who I was not in order to please others. But then I've decided to do something that changed my life forever...... Read More...

Here’s How to Build The Life You ENJOY Living

Our life is built on many grounds (or plateaus), many of which aren't ever really our own. We start off as children in a home that is built with a lifestyle we must abide by and our first lessons to stand on. We then go to school and conform to another ground of rules of being - to fit in, to follow rules, to do your work. Then we go into the world and find jobs/careers with rules and environments to follow. These are all grounds that are laid out for us, that we must walk through to eventually find our own.... Read More...

An Amazing Life Lesson From a Brain Tumour Survivor

2 years ago I had brain surgery. Now some people might say I am lucky to be alive and I am, but when I was faced with it I framed it as an opportunity. It was scary at first but one the initial shock wore off I thought “how can I go through this and still thrive?” I took it as a positive and not a negative. A chance to grow as a person even though the next year or longer of my life was going to be more different then I would ever know it. How many things have happened in your life that if you were to frame them a little differently the outcome would have been more positive?... Read More...

One Priceless Love Lesson From a Cheap Tiny Old Ring

One word frees us all of the weight and pain of life: that word is love. — Sophocles For the past however many years (I honestly can't remember how longs it's been), I've had this on again, off again, relationship with a cheap, gold-painted, little ring. There's nothing particularly amazing about this ring. It wasn’t expensive, and it’s definitely not from Tiffany’s. In fact, I believe I bought it for less than five bucks at Forever 21 (when I was still in the appropriate age bracket to shop there). But for whatever reason, unbeknownst to me, I've grown a strong affection for this cheap, little ring. I wear it all the time, for every occasion, always on the same hand, always on the same finger. The weird thing about this ring is...... Read More...

Creating More Joy in Your Life Right Now

I recall a time when severe heart pains shot through my chest and startled me out of a deep sleep. This happened so often that I scheduled a doctor’s appointment. Surely, something was horribly wrong with my heart. Although my test results returned normal I didn’t feel fine. I had a beautiful life by society’s standards —a husband, 2 children, a house, and a “good” job. However, I worked long hours, I never saw my children, and my marriage was strained. My work no longer fulfilled me, my husband no longer fulfilled me, and my beliefs no longer fulfilled me. The song that sang inside of my head was sad and melancholic. Occasionally, what I thought was joy would surface but it would quickly dissipate into my dark and gloomy thoughts... I do whatever it takes to change my thoughts (sing, read, watch a good comedy) and when I shift my thoughts my mood follows. You can do this too. ... Read More...

Learning the Importance of Valuing Your Own Choices

I struggled to find myself during my youth; to be brutally honest, I’m still searching. My life is a work in progress. As long as I am moving forward, I feel I am making progress. Have you ever given in to what others think about you, your life and your choices? Did you regret it afterwards because it wasn’t the right thing to do? I have - too many times to count. I cannot fathom why I would think someone else knows what is best for me in any given situation. Why didn’t I trust my own judgment? I often wonder if it’s because I could hold someone else accountable if things didn’t turn out well. If I screwed up and made the wrong choice, I’d have no one to blame but myself. The burden of making a choice was off of me if I followed the advice of others. I didn’t want to be ridiculed for making a bad choice. No one wants to hear, “I told you so.” ... Read More...

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