life lessons

The 3 Ways Squat Toilets Made me a Happier Person

...I just returned to the US after spending a year in China. Unsurprisingly, it was transformative—as travel often tends to be. And as that year began, I knew I wasn’t heading into a serene, picturesque vacation. There would be no top-notch wine, no quaint seaside cottage stays. There would be bodily fluids on the streets, random power outages and pork shavings in everything (everything). And that was okay. I knew that the discomfort would be intermingled with plenty of debauchery and adventure, and I was ready for some boundary-stretching, some comfort zone-breaking...... Read More...

When in Doubt: 5 Effective Tips for Easy Decision-Making

My struggle to make big decisions wasn’t limited to my career. I remember lying awake in the middle of the night, wondering whether I should or could remain in a relationship with someone who had repeatedly betrayed my trust but who I deeply loved. All of these situations had one unwanted element in common: fear of making the “wrong” decision. How can we bring ease and peace to the decision-making process? Here is what has worked for me, and I believe it will work for you, too...... Read More...

No More Nightmares: Empowering Lesson From a Bad Dream

I had a dream within a dream today. Something that happens quite often. Have you ever had the feeling that you should learn something, you know it makes sense (for everyone else) and yet you haven't experienced its magnitude on yourself? "Learn to appreciate what you have before time makes you appreciate what you had".... Read More...

Why Busyness Such a Badge of Honor? Discovered!

When we’re busy, we don’t have time to do the work we’re really meant to be doing. We don’t have time to go the extra mile for a client or customer. We don’t have time to make a difference for someone. Busyness acts like an invisible barrier around us, keeping us from getting over-involved, hurt or even from failing. We can’t fail if we’re too busy to start. Why is Busyness Such a Badge of Honour? Has Busyness Become the Ultimate Excuse for Not Making People a Priority in our Lives? ... Read More...

Why High Expectations Lead to Success Instead of Disappointment

We’re told that we need to “keep our feet on the ground” and to be practical. We are guided to follow the traditional cycle of life: Be born, go to school, get a job that pays the bills, marry, have children, raise the children to follow the same cycle, retire, and watch TV until it’s time to die. And while society condemns having high expectations of success, it accepts and even encourages expectations of failure.... Read More...

Dealing With Rejection: It’s Never About THEM

I recently received an email from a friend who was telling me about a particular man in her life who she’d once had a brief encounter with. This man however was married, completely unavailable both physically and emotionally and my friend was still struggling with the fact that he was making no effort to be a part of her life. This really riled me. It was clear as day that my friend was clinging onto this guy who was so obviously not interested and never would be. But she still refused to let go holding onto an idea of what could have been. She seemed to be living for him and for any sign or attempt of recognition that their encounter meant something to him.... Read More...

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser & Take Control of Your life

For a long time I turned away from any recognition and achievement… I thought I was being spiritually enlightened, but now I know it’s because I was ashamed of my need to be loved. For the first 26 years of my life I had been heavily focused on competitive achievement in horse riding. I understand now I wasn’t always doing it for the right reasons... The wins were to appease my gods - teachers, trainers, owners and bosses. I was actually seeking a metaphoric gold star to prove, not that I was good at riding, but that I was worthy of loving and existing.... Read More...

When Thoughts Pull You in Different Directions, Do This

Have you ever driven from Point A to Point B and not remembered the drive? Or have you ever got off the phone with someone and forget what you just talked about with them? Or have you ever been so worried and anxious about the future that you miss out on what's happening in the present? You may even felt stuck like you can't see a solution to a problem and all you think about is the problem and you miss what's happening around you. If any of this sounds familiar to you, you are...... Read More...

10 Honest Reasons You Should Be Your Own Boss

I vividly remember the agony of dragging my butt out of bed at 6:30AM, trekking it 1km to the subway, to stand squished in the human cattle car that wreaked of burnt coffee and morning breath. This daily commute was then followed by 9 tortuously long hours of hating my life. It took all of two weeks for me to realize this outrageously constrictive lifestyle was not for me...... Read More...

6 Amazing Life Lessons From A Very Unusual Teacher

Unlike Scooby-Doo, my dog makes sense when she talks to me. Holly is a five-year-old white lab, and like Scooby, she loves treats and will never pass up a tummy rub. Like Mr. Miyagi from the Karate Kid movies, she imparts wisdom in the most unlikely ways. The knowledge she bestows upon me helps as I travel toward a more full and fulfilling life.... Read More...

Mistakes Are Proof That You Are Trying

We have all been there... we all made mistakes: big and little ones. From "pink elephant in the room" to seamless yet vital ones. We can all show a scar or two as a result of those invaluable life lessons. Some people grow stronger and stay positive no matter what happened yesterday. Some people, including me, sometimes feel so petrified with the outcome of some actions that taking another step is like walking and shaking on the rope that's been stretched over the chasm of uncertainty down below.... Read More...

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