Learning to love yourself is simple. But just because it’s simple, doesn’t mean it’s easy.
It can be uncomfortable to re-examine assumptions we have made. However, I have a hunch you wouldn’t be reading this if you wanted to feel comfortable all the time. You thrive on challenging yourself to grow!
So are you ready to fall in love with yourself? Here’s what worked for me.
Let’s face it, drama can pull you right in. It’s there in your face and demands your attention immediately. It’s so intense to get a text at 3 A.M. or to navigate the highs and lows of a stormy relationship. On again, off again, waiting for a call or a text. Will he or won’t he? Will you or won’t you?
You should never question a decision you knew was best for you at that time. If at that crucial moment you knew in your head and in your heart it was the right thing for you to do, don’t ever doubt yourself or feel guilty for putting yourself first.
It’s the oldest story in the world: Love is gained, it blooms and then it fades out or is squashed by outside forces. It’s always a learning experience and sometimes lost love can be tragic, visceral and all encompassing. As painful as it may feel at the time, it is a lesson that is acting upon each of us in ways that we can’t always see in the heat of the moment.
The death of a loved one is a very painful reminder that life is way, way too short. I remember my friends telling me to focus on my job, so that I get over that period after my father’s death. And I did. I went to my job every single day to keep myself busy. And you know what?...
We’ve probably all been told at one point or another that “relationships take work.” But what does this really mean? Time and attention to the relationship and our partner can be confused with difficulties and struggle as we skip over the deceptively simple conversation that leaves us feeling understood, respected, and cared for...
People themselves aren't toxic. Nevertheless, sometimes our temperaments might don't align together and then"toxicity" appears. It's nobody's fault. We might not pay attention, although with time there comes a time when you are taken by surprise discovering something you haven't seen all these years of being friends. Whether it is an overwhelming feeling of being exhausted and emotionally drained after you spent some time together with someone, eventually the veil has to come down.
One word frees us all of the weight and pain of life: that word is love. — Sophocles
For the past however many years (I honestly can't remember how longs it's been), I've had this on again, off again, relationship with a cheap, gold-painted, little ring. There's nothing particularly amazing about this ring. It wasn’t expensive, and it’s definitely not from Tiffany’s. In fact, I believe I bought it for less than five bucks at Forever 21 (when I was still in the appropriate age bracket to shop there). But for whatever reason, unbeknownst to me, I've grown a strong affection for this cheap, little ring. I wear it all the time, for every occasion, always on the same hand, always on the same finger. The weird thing about this ring is...
Let's agree for a moment that arguments are pointless. Let's concede that there's not a single person in this world who thinks exactly the way you think, who knows and believes the things you know and believe, nor acts and responds to certain situations specifically in the same manner you would. Obviously, we need to remember this if we want to get along with people.
All That You Can't Leave Behind...Why can’t you move on and let the past go?
What is it with us and that enormous emotional baggage that we tend to carry around? Imagine yourself standing in the heavy pouring rain with an empty bucket. The longer we stand there holding the bucket, the heavier it gets. It gets heavier rather quickly, doesn't it? How long can we hold it for? There comes a point in time when we need to release it before it gets too overwhelming...